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Little Drummer User ID: 1544158 United States 11/15/2012 08:55 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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Vold3mort User ID: 20442805 United States 11/15/2012 09:01 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | 1.) Completely ridiculous that you would be married but not allowed to have a key to the house you live in with your wife 2.) Completely ridiculous that you would get married without having petty issues such as this resolved before hand 3.) It was your wife's house, and her son. You should respect that she wants her son to have access to the house. Some people need more than 19 years to get their act together. "The inherent vice of capitalism is the unequal sharing of blessings; the inherent virtue of socialism is the equal sharing of miseries. " Winston Churchill |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 7702124 United States 11/15/2012 09:05 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So here is the situation. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27729072 I just got married and moved in with my wife who was a single woman with children. We dated for many years prior to marriage. I now pay half the bills and the bulk of the rent, as well as help provide food. She has three children, I have two. Two of her kids are over 19 and one no longer live with us. Her and my youngest sons do live with us, both are teens. Her second oldest who is 19 comes and goes at his whim. He had a house key which I found while doing laundry. I gave it to my wife. Now that we are married and living together and I am paying for over half the expenses, I requested that the key her son had, be given to me. She told me that she did not know where it was. I used a set of nail clippers off of her night stand to trim my nails and noticed the key sitting in the tray next to them, so I put it in my pocket. Being one of the responsible parties for maintaining the home, I feel that I am entitled to a key. I also went and had a duplicate key made. I did not tell her that I took the key or made a key. I figured it was a moot point. She claims she did not know where the key was, yet when it was no longer there, she asked if I took it. I told her I did. She asked for it back and I gave it to her. A few day later, she asked if I had made a duplicate. I did not deny doing that either and answered her honestly. Now she says that because I took the key and made a key she wants me out and wants to file for separation, because it was "not mine to take". I beg to differ. We are married, we live in the same home and I am entitled to a key to the house. It is fairly evident that she did know where the key was, or she would not have asked what happened to it. Based upon that, she either did not plan on giving me a key, or, she wasn't prepared to give it to me yet. In either case, it seems to point to a control issue she has. I am not saying I was right by taking the key without telling her and/or making one. I do however believe that if she really intended to give me a key, that she would not have had a problem with me taking it or making a duplicate however? Also, I was honest with her about doing it. Now that I have explained the situation, I would like to hear others thoughts on this? Was I wrong? Am I not entitled to take the key and/or make a duplicate? Oh and yes we RENT, neither of us own the home. Wait...wut? You don't have a key to your OWN HOUSE? ....and having one made...all hell breaks loose?? Stand back and think about that for a few seconds until reality sinks into your skull. Here....allow me to help you........ |
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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 27729072 United States 11/15/2012 09:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 14038453 United States 11/15/2012 09:13 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So here is the situation. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27729072 I just got married and moved in with my wife who was a single woman with children. We dated for many years prior to marriage. I now pay half the bills and the bulk of the rent, as well as help provide food. She has three children, I have two. Two of her kids are over 19 and one no longer live with us. Her and my youngest sons do live with us, both are teens. Her second oldest who is 19 comes and goes at his whim. He had a house key which I found while doing laundry. I gave it to my wife. Now that we are married and living together and I am paying for over half the expenses, I requested that the key her son had, be given to me. She told me that she did not know where it was. I used a set of nail clippers off of her night stand to trim my nails and noticed the key sitting in the tray next to them, so I put it in my pocket. Being one of the responsible parties for maintaining the home, I feel that I am entitled to a key. I also went and had a duplicate key made. I did not tell her that I took the key or made a key. I figured it was a moot point. She claims she did not know where the key was, yet when it was no longer there, she asked if I took it. I told her I did. She asked for it back and I gave it to her. A few day later, she asked if I had made a duplicate. I did not deny doing that either and answered her honestly. Now she says that because I took the key and made a key she wants me out and wants to file for separation, because it was "not mine to take". I beg to differ. We are married, we live in the same home and I am entitled to a key to the house. It is fairly evident that she did know where the key was, or she would not have asked what happened to it. Based upon that, she either did not plan on giving me a key, or, she wasn't prepared to give it to me yet. In either case, it seems to point to a control issue she has. I am not saying I was right by taking the key without telling her and/or making one. I do however believe that if she really intended to give me a key, that she would not have had a problem with me taking it or making a duplicate however? Also, I was honest with her about doing it. Now that I have explained the situation, I would like to hear others thoughts on this? Was I wrong? Am I not entitled to take the key and/or make a duplicate? Oh and yes we RENT, neither of us own the home. Run, as fast as you can, and get an annulment. Don't divorce her or you will end up paying palimony or something. This freakish control issue will only get worse :-( |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 1006681 United States 11/15/2012 09:26 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | She may be married to you, but make no mistake she is not ready to make a commitment. Quoting: Little Drummer I would cut out now, quick. It was your key to take. She is snowing the shit out of you. ^^^^^^^^^^^ THIS. You made a dupe key to your married place of residence, and this is grounds for anything? You crazy, bro'? GTFO, infinity. |
Little Miss Sunshine User ID: 27730305 United States 11/15/2012 09:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Sugar listen. ...This woman IS INDEED A FRUIT!!! No question about it. But if you love her.. you love her and only YOU know deep down what kind of issues she has. Now I can tell you this. Your married now and HAVE EVERY RIGHT to have a house key. If she is still flipping out that bad over the key in a cpl days you may want to find out....why!!! She is either bi-polar or she's having her cake and eating it too, but somethingsure isn't right. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1006681 United States 11/15/2012 09:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Run, as fast as you can, and get an annulment. Don't divorce her or you will end up paying palimony or something. Quoting: tandym This freakish control issue will only get worse :-( I think not. Annulment is a religious process, not a legal secular process. GTFO and get a legal divorce; the woman is batshit crazy. Seriously, dude? You're married and pay more than half the upkeep, and she didn't want you to have a key? WTF is wrong with you? |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 24926363 United States 11/15/2012 09:40 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Looks like the end of the line for us.... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27729072 Her 15 year old son took a hammer to my tail lights. I called the cops on him. Thanks for the replies. Such a pity, I do care about her and her kids. why? You are not a man OP. She had no respect for you.. Act like a man and walk away.. and do not act like a pussified bitch next time you meet a woman.. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1499647 United States 11/15/2012 09:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Looks like the end of the line for us.... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27729072 Her 15 year old son took a hammer to my tail lights. I called the cops on him. Thanks for the replies. Such a pity, I do care about her and her kids. Over you wanting a key to the house you live in? How did he even know about the disagreement? You deserve a key dude, if you are living in that house and paying the bills. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 27729072 United States 11/15/2012 09:47 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 21795357 United States 11/15/2012 09:49 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Well, A, do you legally have ownership of the house? (i.e. both your signatures are on the mortgage, or you bought it as a married couple) That's important. If its your house (that you share with your wife), and she has no predefined ownership (like through a prenupt), then: Well, denying someone access to their own house (as defined above) is considered a form of domestic abuse. If, for instance, one of you wanted to be away from another for the night, that's fine, but that one has to find a bed somewhere else. If you find yourself in a situation where you don't have the key, the police* should see this as an abusive situation, and the result can include jail time, restraining orders, etc.. In this situation, they may see in your favor. *They're the police, who're we kidding, maybe they'll taze you. Don't let it come to this, but understand that the law, and likely anyone else who hears this, would side with you, and probably recommend a divorce. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 27832357 United States 11/15/2012 09:55 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This woman is crazy. I mean in a while you will be asking yourself how did I marry such a demon possessed, insane, psycho. That said you married her. She is going to be wrong a lot. You either need to break it off and take the out or realize she is going to be wrong every day and try to live with it and keep your vow. |
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WindyMind User ID: 26518293 United States 11/15/2012 09:56 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Fucking a woman and children around and then bragging on glp? Last Edited by WindyMind on 11/15/2012 09:58 PM |
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Alexander User ID: 15635858 United States 11/15/2012 10:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This is absolutly nuts. She should have given you a key before you got married after she accepted your proposal. However, I will add that when I remarried (30 years ago) - there was trepidation of my partner filling up my space with stuff and that whole adjustment issue of getting used to a new person. It was a rough first couple of years adjusting to a blended family and the extended family along with the exs which drove both of us nuts. It would be beneficial to go to couples counseling. If you stay together it would also be a good idea to get a new rental home together and have a fresh start. And yes, we went to counseling over the kids which helped us both sort out the various issues. Good luck. The truth is incontrovertible. Malice may attack it, ignorance may deride it, but in the end, there it is. Winston Churchill Daily Updates Thread: ASS IS IN THE WRINGER - Rolling Updates from 11/16/20 to present (Page 316) |
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