Why men cheat - this is for all you ladies out there

You're married, so JUST FUCK HER!

the greates misconception is that you try to chain your love to one human being. Love should not be bound to one person. true love is universal. nuff said

Maybe, but sex and intimacy and exchange of bodily fluids IS meant to be bound to one person!

Marriage can be a good thing if two people will stick to one another to raise a family and keep sex between themselves. This leads to a stable life for children and for spouses and there is no risk of sexually transmitted diseases which are very real and becoming antibiotic resistant.

yes, if men want sex then just listen to a woman. don't try to solve her problems. just listen or try to act like you are listening. then she will be yours.

Well, just don't bring her home an STD and some of those things go through condoms. Also make sure the other woman doesn't go postal and make your life and your wife's life a living hell. That has been known to happen. Sex for a woman is an emotional connection and as much as they try to be like a man in having casual sex sometimes it doesn't work that way and they won't give you up and you can guess the rest from there. Don't mess with women and their emotions. If you are going to cheat pay a 'decent' hooker for sex.

Your Mars aren't compatible in your birth charts. That's my guess.

Last Edited by nutmeg on 01/13/2013 12:53 AM

These girls who you call close friends can turn on you in a minute. You are not as safe as you think you are. you really are in a lot of danger. Don't mess with women's emotions. Any women's emotions. And if your wife was your best friend and soul mate you would never cheat on her. Ever. You are just deceiving yourself and your wife. Karma will get you because it likes to keep everything in balance. And you won't know where it is going to come from. But it is coming for you.

Well, if you consider yourself an animal without self-control then don't ever get married and don't ever have children.

Jesus!

Somebody get a shovel...the SHIT is quite deep in this thread!

I don't condone cheating, but have you ever heard of ashleymadison.com? It's a site for those who want a relationship outside of their marriage. I can't believe that some people post their photos.

Is your wife a 48-49 year old german-canadian from montreal?

ecstasy

FFS bro. Just have an OPEN MARRIAGE with your wife and be done with all the justifying bullshit. that way you both have your leave it to beaver marriage for social respect and all the hot sex BOTH of you can handle on the side.

What if they are Hindu?

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OT: Mismatched sex drives can be frustrating... obviously you can't be pestering her for sex that she doesn't want all the time... but on the other hand, nobody should have to resort to masturbation out of sexual frustration when the object of their desire is in bed beside them and loves them.

Orgasms are like snickers see?
Look, I don't want a snickers right now right? But my woman does... so I go to the shop and buy her a snickers because it makes her happy.

Next time we'll both have snickers, or maybe she'll go buy one for me.

Do you see what I'm saying?

Men rarely get that fact on the zones... most men think we have only three zones... But the nape of the back of the neck sucking, foot massages, thigh stroking and face touching really do it for me. Most guys go straight for the nips and the Gigi...

You are the problem of your feelings, if you only find sex as interest of your relation you have some serious issues.

If you don't feel like sharing your life, then stop the bs now before someone gets really hurt.

Mariage is not about sex, relationships to. Sex is a nice thing that people in a relation or mariage do (without relation to but thats not relevant for now).

Thats what is wrong with most people, you have been duped in thinking love is sex and thats it. Thats why only a little percentage of the populace really is happily married.

That shit never has worked out, Even the couple that wrote the book about it has said so too.

Just file for divorce,

People are so reluctant to walk away, they are cowards. People have to live true to themselves. Its all about free will.

You sound like a fucking Jew. Jews are the maggots of the human race and deserve to be exterminated once and for all!

You know, this is the problem with this world. Do you have children? If so, do you realize that you are thinking about ruining your wife's and their lives just because you don't want to find a way to control your impulses or fix things with your wife? What a bunch of BS.

Where have the real men gone? And by the way - go see a therapist or a priest and get off the internet. Better yet - talk to your wife instead of a bunch of total strangers.

tell her you want to be a swinger with or without her. that you still want to be with her but you just need more sex.

I didn't ask for advice, I was giving advice to women. I was letting them know what drives men to cheat and how easy it is to keep your man in love with you. Men express love through intimacy, touch, and sex. It is part if the glue that makes us love and move mountains for them. I don't have children and I am a real man. I own several businesses, carry no debts abc if I retired at 36, I wouldn't have to work another day in my life. I am religious and I have tried talking to my wife about thus on several occasions. She told me once about 5 years ago when we had the same discussion, "great, this us just another thing I have to do". She never had to work and I don't have to put in Huge amounts of time into my business as I have a lot of residual income sources and a management team. This allows us to travel all over the world, take classes together, hike, camp, snow shoe, volunteer at the non-profit component if my company etc. We spend a lot if time together and view each other as best friends. Thus is what makes it so hard, there are many great things about her, but the frustration of being intimate on average twice a month and having her see it as a chore is what is killing me. It is the deal breaker and I am warning women that they can have a great guy that they take for granted and if they want to keep their marriage happy and keep the husbands thoughts from straying then she needs to speak the language that men express love through and that is sexual contact. It is a spiritual bonding that separates a good and best friend from just being a best friend. I don't need advice in what to do here as my plan is to leave my wife and not cheat on her. This thread was simply for women to understand the perspective of men. As for controlling impulses, look where that gas taken the Catholic Church. I am not apologizing for wanting a marriage where a man a wife express their live for each other and bond more than once to twice a month. If you want to get biblical there is a reason why the bible stated that women shouldn't deny their husbands. It leads to stress, frustration, feelings of despise, and it leads to unhealthy temptations like thinking about cheating, Internet pornography, masterbation etc. I just want a wife who lives me as much as I love her.

Have you asked HER what you need to do in order for her to be attracted to you again?

Marriage takes 2 to fail, and if you think you're perfect and the demise of the marriage is all on her, your going to make the same mistakes in your next relationship.

If you're not willing to do some introspection on yourself, and just want to blame...well good luck with that!

I never said I was perfect, but I am a great provider, listener, and friend to my wife. We grow together intellectually as friends, just not as lovers. I believe the core problem with her sex drive is related to her strict religious upbringing and her guilt for sexual intimacy. She says that she is still attracted to me, but that she just lacks the sex drive and she doesn't find sex appealing period. She perceives it as a duty and she has said outright in one of our discussions that she could live without it for the rest of her life and be quite happy not thinking about it with anyone. I guess you'd have to see if from within to see that she really doesn't have a sex drive with me, anyone else or even herself. What this 10 year marriage has taught me is that some women are takers and some are givers. My wife is a taker that gives very little back to anyone in her life including her friends. If I would have recognized this in her at the beginning I would have never have dated her let alone married her. When we were dating she felt like I was about to break up with her and she sent me an email stating that "to wish for a bracelet of blood was cathartic", and she cut her wrists (slightly) with a knife to make me feel sorry for her and stay. I wasn't even thinking about breaking up with her at that time, I was just busy studying for exams as it was my last year in business school. My friends told me that I should have ran and I should have listened. My thoughts on this now that I am a bit older and wiser is that this was an extremely selfish act on her part and it speaks volumes of who she is.

Darlin', before you go doing something really stupid..I suggest you print out this note and show it to your wife.

Tell HER--not us. She needs to know how much this is affecting you.

good luck. I'd hate to see you lose a good marriage over bad communication.

In normal heterosexuality, sex is reserved for the courtship and procreation stage. With parenthood, sex becomes less important, and eventually becomes pretty irrelevant. Thanks to porn, we are being re-engineered to behave like homosexuals, never to marry or have children.

Instead of families, we have sex. Sex from cradle to grave with multiple partners. Sex. Everywhere you look. All the time. We suffer from arrested development with an adolescent fixation on our appearance and genitals. We remain stuck in courtship mode, never maturing and developing as intended.

Mature love is demanding and requires self control. You shouldn´t be trying to give women any advice. You and many like you, are a victim of the (homo) sexual revolution.

A man cannot be ruled by desire for sex and love. A man is God's agent, creating a New World, the family. This is his duty, purpose and fulfillment. A woman's fulfillment is to be his partner and means to this end.

Why all porn is Gay:


Think of heterosexuality as monogamous and dedicated to rearing children; homosexuality as promiscuous and concerned with sex for its own sake.

Heterosexuality involves bonding permanently with a member of the opposite sex for love and usually procreation. It is participating in the natural life cycle, in the intrinsic meaning of life. Personal and societal health depend on heterosexuality.

Homosexuality is a form of arrested development caused by an inability to form a heterosexual bond. As a result, homosexuals compensate using sex as a surrogate for love.


According to our definition of homosexuality, (i.e. promiscuity outside of love and/or procreation), all pornography is gay. The porn consumer is engaged in a promiscuous masturbatory fantasy. He is not focused on his marriage and progeny.


From what I have said, it should be clear that homosexuality is incompatible with heterosexuality, just as promiscuity is incompatible with monogamy.

In these terms, society has become more homosexual because, due to social engineering (i.e. the "sexual revolution," feminism) many heterosexuals now fail to permanently bond.

Normally, happily married heterosexuals can put sex in perspective and move on to more important things.

As long as everyone is untied afterwards and safety words respected, then its allll goood.