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POST YOUR CHILD SUPPORT BULLSHIT STORIES...
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[quote:Anonymous Coward 4208721:MV8xNjU0MTQ3XzI4MjcyMDg4XzU5NTlBNzIw] Well-here goes an interesting side. I am a FEMALE...who pays child support. I was never married, had a kid with my ex boyfriend. After our daughter was a year old we broke up and he took her to Canton, Ohio to be with his mom. I worked full time but had house payment, car and another child. I couldnt afford to pay a night sitter or fight him, so I let him take her and for 6 months I drove up to Canton from Columbus every other weekend...brought her back down here and in a day, turned around and took her back (no he never met me half way). He got an apartment on top of a night club and was seeing a new chick. After 6 months, and saving some money back, I decided I was going to file for custody. I made the mistake of telling my ex that I had filed for custody in Franklin county and he got upset. While Franklin county (slow) was processing my request, His mother was deputized by Canton court system to personally deliver me his own custody paperwork that he filed immediately after I had notified him. Because He delivered the paperwork to me first, Ohio law made me take the case to Canton. (I had to drop and forfeit the money I had spent to file the paperwork here in Franklin County). I then had to drive up to Canton for all of our court hearings, I had to hire an attorney I knew nothing about and communicate with him long distance. Canton assigned a Guardian Ad Litem to the case who charged me an insane amount to drive from Canton to Columbus to see my house and talk to my family. She decided (even though my ex was living on top of a bar in a run down part of town) that it was best that my ex be the custodial parent. My attorney said that canton didnt like Columbus folks and recommend I just settle. The case went on for a year and my attorney fees were draining me (all the while his mother was paying for her sons attorney fees). I agreed to settle, and my ex decided to move back to columbus. We got split parenting up until our daughter reached school age...then I got cut back down to every other weekend and I WAS ORDERED TO PAY HIM. He moved to Cbus after the case..and I started writing him checks for the amount of child support agreed by the court. I did this every two weeks for 5 years. When our daughter hit school age, he and his girlfriend said that my visiting of my daughter during the week was interrupting her school, so for a year I went back to just seeing her every other weekend. Well-I got fed up with this and last year decided to take him back to court. This is suppose to be joint custody (he with custodial rights). He gets welfare every month, lives in section 8 housing, and he just had his 3rd kid....I on the other hand have a Masters Degree and make good money. I have a great job and great medical, dental 401k benefits etc. I own my house, my other child goes to a private school, and I would consider myself middle class. He moved last year to a really really bad neighborhood with boarded up windows on the homes, etc. Anyways-long story short...I took him back to court. I wanted to try to get custodial rights (so my daughter could go to a better school with her sister, etc) but my attorney (I hired a new one in Canton...and yes...I had to take this BACK to Canton even though we both live in cbus now)said that once a custodial is given rights that it is extremely difficult to try to take that away. He recommended I just try to get my visitation back to half time. So I did this...and BHAM! the OHIO courts said "oh no, no no, you owe child support for 5 plus years back." Even though I had cancelled checks and payments were proven to be regular intervals (bi-weekly) for the amount on the original custody paperwork. You know what they fucking said? they said it was a "Gift". Luckily-even though my ex (in my opinion) should not be custodial parent..w.e still have a decent relationship for the sake of our child. He agreed to write a letter saying I had paid and was current on my child support. If not for this, I would have lost everything. Wages and tax returns-garnished, drivers license-suspended, etc, etc, etc. So the letter came in to the courts last November an they adjusted the amount I owed. The case was finalized this past April, and I was granted more visitation. (still I am not the custodial/residential parent) and I still have to pay child support. Now-DURING this whole case (November to April) i CONTINUED to pay my ex the bi-weekly checks. In May I get the court notice to start with holding from my paychecks...ok-no problem...right???? WRONG!!!!!!!! NOW they stated I owed back child support from November to April in the thousands and they also placed an order to garnish my state income tax. So, again I called. They had on file 4 separate letters from my ex (the last one dated in April) saying I was current on payments. They said still this was not good enough and needed to re-open the case (another $90) and another letter. While all this is going on...they are taking EXTRA out of my check to make up the "back" payment amount. So late this summer, my ex wrote yet ANOTHER letter (thank god he has been so honest), and I filed (and paid to re-open the case). Just last week-I received the paper work showing the adjusted amounts to be taken out of my checks. I called Canton CS and asked..."what about the extra I have been paying to my ex between April and now?" You know what they told me? They told me (LOL) I would have to pay to open the case again....take him back to court...and IF it was deemed he could pay it back...he would be ordered too...and if not...than SOL. They couldnt enforce that. Tell me this is not BULLSHIT???????? I have my daughter half time. I buy ALL of her clothes, necessities, etc, because my ex is on welfare and has two other kids now and cant buy her anything but thrift store clothes. I pay HIM child support, I do not have any say on where she goes to school, where she can go to the doctor, etc. I have "visitation" rights even though this is "SPLIT" custody. So- I have to say, that the injustices can swing the other gender. This evil system has no biases, it has no prejudices. It will FUCK anyone over it can...given the right opportunity and circumstances. I lost- and there's not a damn thing I can do about it. [/quote]
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I want to know just how bad it's gotten.
Other countries, feel free to chime in with your fucked up child support system.
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