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Deciding NOT to have children....
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[quote:Anonymous Coward 8050547:MV8xODA3NTg4XzMwMDcyMzE2X0YzRTU4ODI2] [quote:Anonymous Coward 1457789:MV8xODA3NTg4XzMwMDcyMjcxXzNBMTlEMDM0] [quote:Anonymous Coward 11475650:MV8xODA3NTg4XzMwMDcyMjM2X0MwMTE4MDkz] [quote:Conflicted 1457789:MV8xODA3NTg4XzY0OTg1MUYz] Having a hard time accepting that I probably won't have children. Some days I think I want to, but I am terrified of giving birth. [/quote] What are you scared about? [/quote] I am scared of bring pregnant (the thought freaks me out---I find nothing appealing about it whatsoever) Also, I am scared of the process of giving birth and everything that could go wrong. Furthermore, I'm scared to have a child only to find out I have no feeling for it, and regret my decision but it's too late. [/quote] I never wanted to have children but once I saw my niece when she was a newborn, I started having second thoughts. Still, my desire to have children wasn't strong. My best friend new from when she was young that she wanted to have 4 boys. For me that was not the case. I have one child because, yes it hurt...and yes something went wrong with the delivery but we both survived and yes..it is freakin' hard to be a parent but my child has brought me so much joy that I don't even remember the bad stuff. It is a lifetime commitment and your child may not end up anything like you thought they would and so you have to really, really, ask yourself if it's something you want. I think that people can pretty much adjust to any situation and so if you find yourself being a parent and you hate it, the world won't end. You'll just have to be less selfish and more patient. My child has taught me so much and I have grown as a person because of her. [/quote]
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Having a hard time accepting that I probably won't have children.
Some days I think I want to, but I am terrified of giving birth. Also, this world is so messed up...is it fair to bring new life into an existence where day-to-dayn survival is so frickin' hard? I think not. Not to mention kids are so expensive.
But as soon as I finish listing the valid reasons above NOT to have kids, I wonder if I will regret not having an family once I'm on my death bed.
Can life still be happy and fulfilling without having children? Can old age still be secure and enriching without children and grandchildren?
I'm so conflicted.
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