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Deciding NOT to have children....
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[quote:Anonymous Coward 12428957:MV8xODA3NTg4XzMwMDcyOTc1XzMxMjFGQkND] [quote:goodmockingbird:MV8xODA3NTg4XzMwMDcyOTQ1XzFBMENBODBG] There's always the 'You'll regret not having kids when you get older' phrase that women of "childbearing age" hear when pondering their options. Then there's "lonely deathbed" scenario that parents try to scare one with. I never wanted kids. And back when I was of childbearing age, the society pressures to reproduce were monolithic and infinitely greater than they are now. But I did not give in, and did not reproduce. Nowadays, postmenopausal, I consider it not just the best 'decision' I ever made, because [i]it was not a decision, it was simply maintaining my integrity as a person.[/i] Did not give in, did not bow down. Stop and think of all the old people who have grown kids who never visit them, or who do so only infrequently, and just because they feel like they have to. That would be so much worse than simply planning ahead to face death in squared-away solitude. Maintaining my integrity as a nonbreeder is absolutely the best thing I have ever done. There are plenty, plenty of men who do not want children, but only a few women who do not want children. [i]A childfree woman is a precious 'commodity on the market, and she can pretty well have her choice of accomplished men.[/i] [/quote] Maintaining your "integrity?" What the hell are you talking about??? [/quote]
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Having a hard time accepting that I probably won't have children.
Some days I think I want to, but I am terrified of giving birth. Also, this world is so messed up...is it fair to bring new life into an existence where day-to-dayn survival is so frickin' hard? I think not. Not to mention kids are so expensive.
But as soon as I finish listing the valid reasons above NOT to have kids, I wonder if I will regret not having an family once I'm on my death bed.
Can life still be happy and fulfilling without having children? Can old age still be secure and enriching without children and grandchildren?
I'm so conflicted.
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