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[quote:Anonymous Coward 20006444:MV8xOTYyMTQzXzMyOTE3MTEwX0JDRTZDRDBD] I would find a good lawyer in the state where you were born or adopted. (They may well be separate states.) Make sure the lawyer has contacts with a top notch Private Detective. It will cost you a few hundred to a few thousand dollars. They'll pry the records open even if it takes a court order to do so. Finding your bio-parents won't be difficult. At least in term of "WHO" they are. Where the are now may take a bit longer. Prepare yourself for seriously painful possibilities. Maybe you were the product of a rape, or incest? Maybe a run-away marriage that was annulled by the parents after their daughter was pregnant. (Used to happen - you didn't state your age...but that kind of thing was common in the 50's and 60's.) You could be a black market baby. Bought and sold. I was! And it really didn't matter to me. But I've known other adoptees that were devastated by the fact that their birth mother or father sold them one way or another. Find a good lawyer and get the records opened legally. It can be done. Then a private detective can probably find you mother (and maybe father if known) providing they're both living, in a matter of days or even less if they're both in the US and legal citizens, etc. Don't put too much stock into the psychics. They're usually expert at reading what you feel and exploring those issues. Could you be a "hybrid" or "star-child?" Maybe. But it's a long shot. Don't let that high IQ take you down improbable paths until you've eliminated the more possible paths. There is clearly something your adoptive parents are hiding or don't want to know. It could be anything. Remember, having a baby outside of a marriage was a huge shameful thing for any woman to go thru. Most didn't dare show their faces in public during a pregnancy and often moved and changed their names and became an "imaginary" respectable Widow after the baby was born if they were keeping it. Adoption was common back in the 1950's and 60's and 70's. Abortions were not easily available - illegal in may states, and many women could not or would not terminate a pregnancy even if it meant shame and disgrace on them for many years! Get a good lawyer and force the issue. But be prepared for whatever you find. You may have nothing in common with the birth parents except some DNA. Do not expect to feel anything in particular. Love, parental affection, etc., would have formed years ago but never had a chance to do so. So you may be quite non-plussed when you do meet your birth parents. Go into meeting them with NO expectations for anything other than knowing the truth. If a friendship or a relationship develops - then great. And it does not, that's okay, too. You've done well so far without them and you will continue to do so. I'll say a prayer for you. The doors will open when you are ready and wiling to have them open. Pray about it, too. It couldn't hurt! [/quote]
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So recently I've been doing the "Ancestry.com" thing. It's super interesting and fun but I've run into a stumbling block. I can't find find anything beyond my dads dad and hes only there because of a census in which my dad listed his dad. It would'nt bother me at all except that he's supposed to be a III'rd and the trail just stops cold. I've gotten my maternal side all the way across the pond to practically year 1000. I worry because so many things lately kind of are leading me to believe there is a conspiracy going on within my own family tree.
1) I'm adopted and no matter what path I try I get zero cooperation in finding birth parents.
*small addition to the above... a reporter said he thought maybe this was a black market baby thing. hmmmm
2) My parents adopted me when they were really older. (49ish)
3) I have literally NO extended family at all the line ends with me
4) I already told you about my dad and I find out he was 32nd degree in the freemasons.
5) I was told many years ago by a psycic considered to be extremely good that my birth was centered around something that might be a "pandoras box".
6) because of some of the threads here, I've learned I'm supposedly Annunaki/Reptilian/God....whatever... I really didn't subscribe to this but these things are starting to pile up!
Too many strange and unanswered mysteries
My one literally genious daughter says she thinks I was some kind of science experiment and my parents were to care for me.
My Daddy taught me to always write everything down and when the scale seems to lean all in one direction, you probably have hit on something obvious.
When I add up all the things that put me into a smaller percentage of the population... I just don't think this many anomalies can exist within one person.
I am:
Tall
Redheaded
left handed
negative blood with immunities to the plague and aids
160 IQ
Adopted
abductee...(yeah I don;t like admiting this either)
What say you? What would be your next step? Anybody with a similar story here?
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