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What to do with out-of-control 19 year old girl?
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[quote:Anonymous Coward 30292703:MV8yMTQ2MDQ3XzM2MjUyMzM1X0Y0MzAzNzE2] [quote:GreadyGeniu$:MV8yMTQ2MDQ3XzM2MjUyMTM0XzgwQjNEM0VF] [quote:Anonymous Coward 30292703:MV8yMTQ2MDQ3XzM2MjUyMDY4X0Y1QjAwMUI3] [quote:Anonymous Coward 33314705:MV8yMTQ2MDQ3XzM2MjUxODQ1X0E1OTFFMURF] [quote:GreadyGeniu$:MV8yMTQ2MDQ3XzM2MjUxNjk5XzEzMTdGRUIy] [quote:Anonymous Coward 33314705:MV8yMTQ2MDQ3XzM2MjUxNjg3X0VEQjRFMkY0] [quote:GreadyGeniu$:MV8yMTQ2MDQ3XzM2MjUxNjgwXzczRDA3NzU3] [quote:Anonymous Coward 33314705:MV8yMTQ2MDQ3XzM2MjUxNjQ5X0E2Qjk4MEZG] Its not the alcohol its other problems causing her to do this people often tend to blame alcohol for everything yet its usually just a symptom of something else. [/quote] She had a great childhood. No abuse or baggage [/quote] You, do not know this, for sure. You assume it. [/quote] I do know this FOR SURE. [/quote] Are you her shrink? Of course you don't know that FOR SURE! Stop assuming things just because of what you've "Seen" doesn't mean you know ALL about someone. [/quote] Totally agree.My life looked the same way but my mother was the devil behind closed doors.Even if you live in the house with them you cant really know EVERYTHING that goes on. [/quote] Her counselor figured there was some zero point for all of this. Some event that caused it. We all sat for weeks trying to figure it out. She was somewhat sheltered, very protected, and had everything she could want with no work for it. Very spoiled, but that does not mean she is destined for failure. Again tho, she was NOT abused. Unless she does not know about it, and in that case I dont think it would affect her today? [/quote] Most of mine was mental abuse and even 30 years later I have yet to discuss it with my therapists of 8 years. Some perfect parents can really screw you up and its hard to overcome,some never overcome.I saw no good purpose for living and I sure didnt want to be the person she was.Phoney 100%.The bottle was the only way I could escape thinking about it for years.Still think about it but once she died I was able to live easier. [/quote]
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So I need some help guys.. Need some advice from either parents or people who have gone through this.
The girl is 19 years old, lives at home with her parents, freshman at community college. She has been secretly drinking on an ongoing basis for the last few months. She has a serious alcohol problem, when she drinks she cant stop and becomes in a "zombie" like state, a total mess, you can see it in her eyes more than I have ever seen alcohol affect ANYONE! She has been this way since last summer, when she went off to a university and binge drank for about 2 months straight before the semester started. She didnt go to any classes and her parents had to pull her out since they were paying for the schooling.
Why does alcohol affect her like this? Is it because she established alcoholism over the summer with the binge drinking? Will she always act like this when she drinks?
Anyway, she started attending online college and her parents thought she was making progress. Instead she started isolating herself and secretly drinking in her room all night and sleeping through the days. She was passing her classes so her parents thought she was doing good but really she was just going through a deep depression and escaping by drinking.
Her parents finally caught onto her behavior and confronted her. She locked herself in her room and packed her bags and ran away with no plans. She has been binge drinking since she left and running around barefoot and completely out of her mind. Hanging with a horrible crowd doing who knows what.
She is totally out of control, but is a smart girl with a bright future. I care deeply about this girl and we need to get her into rehab but she will not want to. What can be done?
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