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What to do with out-of-control 19 year old girl?
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[quote:GreadyGeniu$:MV8yMTQ2MDQ3XzM2MjYxODk1XzU3OUZFNTQz] [quote:Anonymous Coward 24238594:MV8yMTQ2MDQ3XzM2MjUzODg1X0EzMkQ2NjU5] Drag her ass to a AA meeting and let those who know first hand what she is going through tell her why they wish they had the opportunities she does - before she loses them and throws her life away! [/quote] She does not think she has a problem tho.. She comes up with the stupidest things to argue her point as well. Makes no sense. [quote:Anonymous Coward 33389306:MV8yMTQ2MDQ3XzM2MjU1MjU0XzQ5NzhGMjg4] [quote:Anonymous Coward 1546575:MV8yMTQ2MDQ3XzM2MjU1MTU4XzQyODgwMEZB] You said it yourself op. She was passing her classes so her parents thought she was doing good but really she was just going through a deep depression and escaping by drinking. Thats why shes drinking. So you need to find out what made her so depressed, and what you can do to help the situation. It must have been something pretty major, like sexual abuse. [/quote] imho -- this is bullshit. She may just be in a funk. A very costly one. And it doesn't matter, in any case she's got to pull herself out of it. Help is available if she is willing to accept it. [/quote] I agree. It is just a funk in my opinion too. But alcohol is a tough thing to let go of once the funk is over. She already falls back on it, I would hate to see it get worse. [quote:Anonymous Coward 28649819:MV8yMTQ2MDQ3XzM2MjU1Mjk1XzkyQ0E4RDEy] Who goes off to college two months before classes start? And who paid for THAT? I doubt the binge drinking *started* at college, either way. It doesn't sound like the parents monitored what was going on with her before or after her stint away at college? And no, you can't DO anything with an out-of-control adult. Not unless they start breaking laws. [/quote] She was working in highschool and saved up enough money for a place in Tempe, AZ. She hadnt been drinking before that on a regular basis, but the problem did exist before that because when she would drink she would get in that alcoholic zombie state, and this was before the Benzos as well. She paid for a place for a couple months and paid for the alcohol, it wasnt hard for her to get there. But here I think some gas station must sell her beer or something. [/quote]
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So I need some help guys.. Need some advice from either parents or people who have gone through this.
The girl is 19 years old, lives at home with her parents, freshman at community college. She has been secretly drinking on an ongoing basis for the last few months. She has a serious alcohol problem, when she drinks she cant stop and becomes in a "zombie" like state, a total mess, you can see it in her eyes more than I have ever seen alcohol affect ANYONE! She has been this way since last summer, when she went off to a university and binge drank for about 2 months straight before the semester started. She didnt go to any classes and her parents had to pull her out since they were paying for the schooling.
Why does alcohol affect her like this? Is it because she established alcoholism over the summer with the binge drinking? Will she always act like this when she drinks?
Anyway, she started attending online college and her parents thought she was making progress. Instead she started isolating herself and secretly drinking in her room all night and sleeping through the days. She was passing her classes so her parents thought she was doing good but really she was just going through a deep depression and escaping by drinking.
Her parents finally caught onto her behavior and confronted her. She locked herself in her room and packed her bags and ran away with no plans. She has been binge drinking since she left and running around barefoot and completely out of her mind. Hanging with a horrible crowd doing who knows what.
She is totally out of control, but is a smart girl with a bright future. I care deeply about this girl and we need to get her into rehab but she will not want to. What can be done?
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