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Not having children.....
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[quote:goodmockingbird:MV8yMTU3OTAyXzM2NDc1MjU2XzgwMkY5OTdE] [quote:Anonymous Coward 34765812:MV8yMTU3OTAyXzM2NDc1MTYwXzQwMjdEMUQy] but if you do have kids, you never regret it. well, not unless you are missing a soul. once you create your own flesh and blood, you love them completely.[/quote] No. People with deep and wise souls do reproduce. Out of the best of reasons. Out of duty. Out of hope. Out of the mistaken belief that they [i]will[/i] magically come to feel some existential love for a child once they produce it. How do I know this? Because my own parents would deeply good, wise, and thoughtful people who did this. I had deep and candid conversations with them as they each died of cancer. Did either or both of them regret having me? My mother brought up the topic, not me. She spoke with great clarity, compassion, and candor. They came to respect and cherish me. They did everything right and good by me. But that mystical connection was not there. Not at birth, not until it was time for my mother to lay it all down and die. She and my father both were not cut out to have children. They were not selfish people, not in the least. But they were "self contained" people. Whole and complete without a child! I know this, gut deep. My job is to decently and honorably shut the door and turn out the lights when my days draw to an end. Every living thing has a life span. My genetic heritage has lived out its prime, and I will lay it down appropritately, and leave my tangible estate to taking care of animals that suffer. There is no sadness or tragedy here; this is a good thing, full, wise and complete! Self-contained does not mean selfish. Self-contained means whole and complete! [/quote]
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Considering not having children at all.
Is it true that kids ruin marriages, wreck your finances and generally suck the pleasure out of life for their parents?
I am STRONGLY considering not having a child, ever, even though I'm female.
Most people think I'm crazy and tell me I'll regret my old age if I never have a kid.
Please share your wisdom, opinions and real life experiences regarding this topic.
TIA!
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