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girlfriend will not give up talking to ex boyfriends
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[quote:eekamouse17 25101302:MV81Mzk4NzdfMzM3Nzk1NDZfRUU2N0UwQkE=] You cannot control anyone, nor should you try. If she is covering up the fact, then she has something she does not want you to know about, whether that is because she is scared you will feel bad about it or she is sleeping around. The fact is that she knows it will cause problems with you either way, but she does not care and does it anyway. Dump her and find someone who will nurture a relationship with you, not undermine it. Dump her fast and don't look back, because nobody should have to live feeling insecure about the most important person in your life. It might be hard to dump her if you have feelings, but just because she doesn't have any respect for you does not mean you should not have respect for yourself. If she is young, and really does have feelings for you, well, then maybe she will realize that and get over her "overwhelming" feelings about the two of you, clearing up the question in her mind of "Is he really the one for me", which is a scary question and can push a young girl away. In order for a mature relationship to work, both parties have to take care to be considerate of the other, and either she is too young or she does not care for you. If she is too young, well, she will figure out real fast and you won't have to look back... if she does not care for you, well... you will be taking care of yourself and you won't be driven into the hole that she is planning on leaving you in, with no self confidence and hatred in your heart. Let her go, and if she grows up and comes back to you confident that she wants to be with you, then you have gained a special relationship... if she is capable of being a mature individual. [/quote]
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My girlfriend will not stop talking to two of her ex boyfriends. We have been together for almost three years and I just found out that she still talks to them,IM's them and hangs out with them. She does not feel the need to tell me when she is engaging in the above captioned activities. She claims that they are only friends. One guy is on his second marriage(they had a relationship on and off for four years)and the other guy is single (they had a relationship for three years). She said she knew them before she knew me so she's not going to stop talking to them or hanging out with them. I have plenty of ex girlfriends that I get along with. I have disclosed to my ex girlfriends that I am in a relationship so it's not a good idea not to talk to them or hang out with them because I don't want to hurt her feelings. Is this normal behavior or is this a red flag? This is driving me nuts.
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