My son is 2 and has never met his father.He is a disable vet and the VA won't help.paternity hsnt been established..wht do I do?PLEASE HELP!!!

I am sorry but there isn't anything you can do until paternity is established. You need to find out how to do this in the state that you are in.

I am sorry but there isn't anything you can do until paternity is established. You need to find out how to do this in the state that you are in.

I am sorry but there isn't anything you can do until paternity is established. You need to find out how to do this in the state that you are in.

The man is on disability...so she can forget money.

I am sorry but there isn't anything you can do until paternity is established. You need to find out how to do this in the state that you are in.


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But, is it really worth the effort? Why tie yourself to him and set your son up for disappointment? It could bring this man back into his life only to have him leave again. And again. And maybe there are other reasons this guy doesn't want to be a father, maybe it's to protect your son? Some people are nuts like that. If he won't/can't be a father it's his loss, kwim? You and your son will be fine. Even if you eventually manage to get any help from him (or get a court to order it) what are the chances he'd even pay? And why give him legal rights to your child? Perhaps you should instead be finding out how to file abandonment papers so that if you ever remarry then your future hubby can adopt your son with no issues as that can be a pita in the future. And just tell your son like it is when he's old enough to understand.

I am sorry but there isn't anything you can do until paternity is established. You need to find out how to do this in the state that you are in.

The man is on disability...so she can forget money.

This isn't true. My ex is on disability and our child receives checks every month on his behalf. If paternity is established, then his disability will cover the child as well.

Two and a half years old AND already a disabled vet.
That's a sad, sad story.
There putting 'em into the meat grinder younger and younger these days.

Tell him the truth.Because,it's the truth.

You'd probably do more harm than good trying to find him. For all three of you.

Leave the guy alone if he doesn't want you or the kid. Get a life and move forward.