Dealing with ANGER- Its a serious problem

Anger, fear, love, hate, rage, and joy are all natural. What isn't is the suppression of any of these feelings. It leads to drugs, alcohol, depression, obesity, and eventually insanity!

Workin the light

thats life

this

Didn't YHWH rage occasionally?

(could'nt help but notice your in Isreal...)

Last Edited by Being * gnieB on 10/11/2012 11:39 AM

There is a time for everything


YOU JUST NEED TO MAKE SURE ITS THE CORRECT ONE

Well...

Perhaps what you are witnessing around you IS THE PROPER TIME?

(By the way Disturbed, I completely agree with your views on anger. Its a very dangerous contagious emotion!)

Last Edited by Being * gnieB on 10/11/2012 11:44 AM

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what are you 12 years old???

"receiving insults, abuse, and mistreatment in silence is a

tremendous help in dealing with relationships"

I know that's a quote from another pathetic idiot


I committed assault and took an anger management "class" and became "educated"

The teachings are wrong..if you follow you become an ass kissing tard..DUH!! if I kiss ass they might like me???


about 4-5% of the population are straight out self absorbed assholes ( probably closer to 20%)..and they get away with it because people like you allow them to behave the way they do

by being passive you reinforce erroneous behavior..you don't have to fight and be violent but doing nothing is wrong- that is called enabling and is more destructive than confrontation

Nothing bad/good, right/wrong, about anger. It's telling you something and kicking in your fight or flight responses.
Lots of times it's kicked in due to either fear or hurt.
First comes the fear or the hurt, then the anger. It can come instantly, it can come a long time later after the drip drip drip of small things that eventually add up, then here comes the rage. It's a self-protective mechanism.

IMHO: Best to deal with it RIGHT AWAY in small doses rather than suppress it until it comes out in rage. Granted, there are times when someone does something so off-the-wall, hurtful, threatening, that your mind/body will provoke you to immediate rage, you will have no choice in it.

We're humans not robots.

What do animals do when threatened or hurt? They react with flight or fight.

Some humans act the same way, we just have different coping mechanisms, but we still flee or fight. We just do it differently (mostly more mental about how we flee or fight). However, there ARE humans that are not mental about it at all, they'll just cold-cock yeah!

Pick your battles/words carefully when angry, esp. if you are up against a bigger opponent or one that can ruin your life if your anger gets out of control---you know the old saying cutting your nose off despite your face, win the battle, lose the war kinda thing? Nothing wrong with walking away to fight another day when you're better prepared (in all aspects).

Even a wild animal will not attack another one in fight mode if it thinks it's going to or starting to lose the fight, think about that. It'll only fight back if its life is in danger, if it can't flee (cornered). Sometimes if you're cornered, you'll have no choice but to fight back with anger to protect yourself, depends on your human opponent.

And some humans use their anger to be the bully of the bunch, this is when you need the pack to close in on the bully, not just one-on-one unless you have no other choice.

Anger is a TOOL, a useful one, use it to your advantage, but don't let it take advantage of you, use it wisely to protect yourself, not hurt yourself of others unnecessarily.

I agree with this, anger is a useful tool to avoid being manipulated and/or hurt by others that WILL hurt you given the chance. And you gain much more in these types of confrontations showing strength rather than weakness, bullies are afraid of people that stand up to them, whether it's mental bullying, or physical bullying.

And yes, never enable or condone a bully's behavior. There are lots of people that will take advantage of kindness and passivity. They mistake it for weakness, gotta be wise here, but there are also ways of dealing with these types that doesn't involve violence of any sort, yes, you may raise your voice, you may say things they don't want to hear, that's a critical confrontation and wholly justified.

There is alot of info at the link to deal with emotional

"problems"


OR HELP TO BECOME A BETTER PERSON

A moment of anger can ruin a marriage

EVEN A LIFE


STAY IN "CONTROL"

My father is constantly angry my whole life.
Always cussing mad about stupid things.
My adrenals are shot because of it.
Now we both have health problems.
I'm guessing he has stomach issues which are serious.
Just hearing him talk now I can feel a shock go through my body.
It's weird. He'll never learn.
It's hard to be around someone who is so angry all the time.
It affects you and for sure you will be angry as well.
It's a killer. Stress as well.

SO TRUE

If you got to deal with this

or your own anger

BETTER READ THE WHOLE POST

IT MAY SAVE YOUR LIFE

YOU GOT TO LEARN TO DEAL WITH IT

READ THE POST

IT WILL HELP

BEFORE YOU HURT SOMEONE

OR G-D FORBID GET KILLED

ANY ONE ELSE OUT THERE GET ANGRY AND DO SOMETHING



stupid ?

too often

what is the best way to "move" anger?

READ THIS IT CAN HELP

But I am a sucker for justice. Ill take the insults , the deceit, the lies, the sick smugness directed at me, Ill take it all but I will expect Divine Justice. That is something I am an absolute sucker for.

They hurt me I expect God to punish them. Simple

The God will do


What God will do

Its not like we think


still one must keep a grip on themselves