Why WOMEN are SO SELFISH and ungrateful?

Astrology goes back to at least the Sumarians, probably much further.

I use to feel the same way about it, but being a Capricorn and having been with both a Cancer (lol) and a Gemini, I'm much more inclined to listen.


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Buddy you seem very naive and young. I too had that happen to me a couple of times.

Seems you had more feelings for her than you let on.

When women turn on you quickly like that, it can only mean one thing, Momma's got new cock in her life.

She's putting distance between you and her fast so she doesn't have to face her own idiocy, of misleading you all the time she was with you. Don't try and convince her of this, she won't listen or accept it. Trust me, move on. She was probably scouting new cock the whole time she was with you. She wanted your declaration of love because she felt insecure, even though she really never loved you. You were smart not to admit yours cause at least when you say it, you probably mean it. Sounds like she's young too. She will eventually be put in her place by some other guy who will do the same to her. Trust me, what comes around goes around.

Best advice again move on, forget about it. Yes I know it's difficult. I often found heading away for a long summer vacation helped. You will need some real physical distance to get your head straight again.

Honestly I know it will sound stupid, but use prostitutes. Fuck some whores and feel like you don't give a fuck anymore. Call it break up sex therapy, with someone who will recognize your pain and help you deal with it. Once that's out of your system you might try and meet a nice girl again with out the emotional baggage. Never admit to using prostitutes though.

Last Edited by Crouching Geezer Hidden Drugs on 05/18/2010 08:34 AM

I am going to show my age here but, women today have no boundaries or mothers to guide them. They are no longer women but a cross of something in between, a man and a whore.
I have been married 27 years I was lucky that there were still real women when I was dating. I look around today and don't see anything that I would consider having a long term relationship with. There are women that a man would spend a night with or maybe even a couple months with, but nothing to take home to mother. I worry about my son having to find a girl today.

"Most" women are uncompromising, selfish, disrespectful, arrogant, and loud mouthed, not to mention bad mouthed. No one enforces any borders on them. I have had women speak to me in a way that no damn man would of dared, why because men know there are consequences to confronting another man but women know there will be no consequences. A man I would of popped in the mouth but what can you do to a woman?
I DO NOT ADVOCATE HITTING A WOMEN, I am only stating the issue.

We have had 4 generations of shit useless self absorbed parents who are just as selfish and arrogant as the girls being raised. There is no going back this is the future and its hell.
Woman's lib started it and hundreds of groups propagated it. Its all designed to destroy Christianity, North America for the foreign invasion. I don't blame them for trying, I blame the stupid North Americans for falling for it. When it comes down to it we are stupid and most deserve what is coming, unfortunately people like myself are along for the ride.

Please some women are just crazy like everyone else can be.

She is not a woman in the normal sense she is a sociopath and you are better off without it:

[link to www.lovefraud.com]

[link to transsociopathica.blogspot.com]

Wikipedia’s article on Psychological Manipulation is an excellent read. [link to en.wikipedia.org]

The “Basic Manipulative Strategy of a Psychopath” is particularly valuable:

1: Assessment Phase
Some psychopaths are opportunistic, aggressive predators who will take advantage of almost anyone they meet, while others are more patient, waiting for the perfect, innocent victim to cross their path. In each case, the psychopath is constantly sizing up the potential usefulness of an individual as a source of money, power, sex or influence. Some psychopaths enjoy a challenge while others prey on people who are vulnerable. During the assessment phase, the psychopath is able to determine a potential victim’s weak points and will use those weak points to seduce.

2: Manipulation Phase
Once the psychopath has identified a victim, the manipulation phase begins. During the manipulation phase, a psychopath may create a persona or mask, specifically designed to ‘work’ for his or her target. A psychopath will lie to gain the trust of their victim. A psychopath’s lack of empathy and guilt allows them to lie with ease – they don’t see the value of telling the truth unless it will help get them what they want.

As interaction with the victim proceeds, the psychopath carefully assesses the victim’s persona. The victim’s persona gives the psychopath a picture of the traits and characteristics valued in the victim. The victim’s persona may also reveal, to an astute observer, insecurities or weaknesses the victim wishes to minimize or hide from view. As an ardent student of human behavior, the psychopath will then gently test the inner strengths and needs that are part of the victim’s private self and eventually build a personal relationship with the victim.

The persona of the psychopath – the “personality” the victim is bonding with – does not really exist. It was built on lies, carefully woven together to entrap the victim. It is a mask, one of many, custom-made by the psychopath to fit the victim’s particular psychological needs and expectations. The victimization is predatory in nature; it often leads to severe financial, physical or emotional harm for the individual. Healthy, real relationships are built on mutual respect and trust; they are based on sharing honest thoughts and feelings. The mistaken belief that the psychopathic bond has any of these characteristics is the reason it is so successful.

3: Abandonment Phase
The abandonment phase begins when the psychopath decides that their victim is no longer useful. They abandon their victim and move on to someone else. In the case of romantic relationships, a psychopath will usually seal a relationship with their next target before abandoning their current victim. Abandonment can happen quickly and can occur without the current victim knowing that the psychopath was looking for someone new. There will be no apologies for the hurt and pain they cause because psychopaths do not appreciate these emotions.

Phase 3, the Abandonment Phase is particularly relevent.

Regarding discarding Jamie did this to both his father and an x-partner. There are probably more, I simply did not know him long enough to learn if there were any more, although he did allude to perhaps one, “a person I knew at that time…”

“From the height of his satisfaction with your optimal utility to him, the sociopath begins a slow, inexorable and, in some cases, disorientingly precipitous, phase of depreciating you.”

Its not all women. But for the most part American women are selfish, deceptive, And can never admit the truth EVER... Always remember that you young guys. Stop putting these women up on a pedestal. Because once they see that they "Have you" they will fuck with you,make a fool out of you, and slowly but surely loose all respect for you. Even when your in love with a american women always keep that its a game in the back of your mind because you will pay for giving your heart to her. Its a very sad time that we live in because thats what true love really is. " Total Devotion " to one another, and you just cant do that anymore with these american " princess" . Sure they all think they are "princess" , but act more like Common Whores. Of course things are not like this all over the world . There are still countries where they havent fucked up the balance of nature, and women still love to act like strong beautiful women. I have dated women from America, and women from overseas, and other countries. And its only the westernized American women who play this game. Good luck, I know its not possible for everyone to meet Foreign women. But if you can you will see for your self that they still truly love men, and love being beautiful feminine women . And are not scared to embrase their femininity .

She wanted to settle down, which is why she jumped the gun. But you didn't,and you just wanted to take it slow and explore your feelings. But when things finally started clicking for you, you get a shock from her saying goodbye!
You do care about her, but you wanted to wait. That girl is looking to settle down, and when you wouldn't, she moved on.

It's biological, guy. Females are programmed to want to settle down and have babies. It's the men who aren't. They ask why, the women ask why not?

You sound like a dumb twentysomething.

People can't help who they love.

Grow the fuck up.

The OP's girlfriend seemed pretty immature to me. As such, she would not be stable......and therefore not to be fully trusted.


Eventually most men and women mature enough so that you can trust them a bit more.


It took me about two or three hundred before I found the right one.....so you sometimes have to be very, very patient......and guard your heart for awhile.

Women are not selfish and ungrateful, not really OP even the ones you may think are most likely are not. Get to know them better.

I love this suggestion. Will take some notes :)

then next time u love someone, dont be afraid to tell them

dont be surprised when u get shot in the face trying to collect your animal when tshtf

Shouldn't the title of this thread be
"Why is MY WOMAN ...?"

I agree. It's not every woman.
Go find the right one and treat her right. And if you love her, let her know. And don't wait ages to be 100% sure that you really love her...

OP, I know how you feel. She played your emotions like a game. It's something most women in the civilized world feel like they have a right to do. Here's some advice: Take time to reflect on that selfish bitch, then wait. By wait, I mean, just look online for indicators that will tell you how to tell if a woman is untrustworthy, or not meaningful when she says things to you. And read. Read anything you can about relationships. Educate yourself. I'm going through a pretty tough breakup right now myself, but we have to keep our chins high. Unfortunately, the women in the civilized world are mostly selfish, lying, deceitful bitches that will try to hold out on sex from you, after you've been with her awhile, to get something she desires from you, until one of you ends the relationship. There are magazines, songs, TV shows, etc. that all praise this sort of behavior from women in the civilized world. Finding a truly good woman is a difficult task indeed. The divorce rate is still 50% or more, and has been for over 30 years, and that is why. Your time may be better spent researching about behavior in women, and how to find good women(probably going to have to save money and travel to a different country to find one.)

Good Luck Sir

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Weather it out.

P.S.: Most women that are considered beautiful have over-inflated egos and are problematic. Find an ugly girl and try to start a relationship with her. You might be surprised how good a woman can be. Just be on the lookout, because once she doesn't give you as much sex as normal, you know the relationship is going downhill, towards its end, as she might be cheating or trying to get something from you.

OP, I know how you feel. She played your emotions like a game. It's something most women in the civilized world feel like they have a right to do. Here's some advice: Take time to reflect on that selfish bitch, then wait. By wait, I mean, just look online for indicators that will tell you how to tell if a woman is untrustworthy, or not meaningful when she says things to you. And read. Read anything you can about relationships. Educate yourself. I'm going through a pretty tough breakup right now myself, but we have to keep our chins high. Unfortunately, the women in the civilized world are mostly selfish, lying, deceitful bitches that will try to hold out on sex from you, after you've been with her awhile, to get something she desires from you, until one of you ends the relationship. There are magazines, songs, TV shows, etc. that all praise this sort of behavior from women in the civilized world. Finding a truly good woman is a difficult task indeed. The divorce rate is still 50% or more, and has been for over 30 years, and that is why. Your time may be better spent researching about behavior in women, and how to find good women(probably going to have to save money and travel to a different country to find one.)

Good Luck Sir

Anonymous Coward

Weather it out.

P.S.: Most women that are considered beautiful have over-inflated egos and are problematic. Find an ugly girl and try to start a relationship with her. You might be surprised how good a woman can be. Just be on the lookout, because once she doesn't give you as much sex as normal, you know the relationship is going downhill, towards its end, as she might be cheating or trying to get something from you.

how old are you?

Dude, she's a "nympho". She doesn't know what love is only throws the word around. She prob has alot of Old "friends" that she sees (off and on) if you catch my drift. And now you're one of many. She wants her cake and eat it too! MOve on Bro! I had the same happen to me.

The poster that told you to grab your balls....was only trying to give you power and inspiration to move on.;;like your Ex apparently did. Don't take the advice personally. It is good sound advice IMHO. Don't waste time wanting to be "With" someone that "doesn't want" to be with you :) Been there and done that Bro! Goodluck!

women do not think this way. What you think is 'spiritual' is really just your instincts to pity and sympathize for women. It makes breeding possible. Women are attracted to strength not empathy and 'spiritual' etc etc. She decided you were a loser and left. end of story. Dont believe any of this shit about women wanting 'love' they simply want someone who is powerful, capable, and also someone who they feel is 'hooked' on them. probably you failed at one or more of these items.

Why u don't understand modern woman.Bottom line make your dick wet and move.Now to get out this u need fuck few hookers.

What PEOPLE mean when they say the love thing in the first few months is...I lust you...I love your pheromones and the way you look and feel. It takes about 3 months of being together in person (not on the internet or long distance) to work out if the lust will grow to more inlove or lessen.

It also takes a decent sex life...that doesnt mean huge libido's....just matching ones....ie if both have low libidoes...they match. If its a mismatch (one high, one low)then one can be very frustrated by the other which leads to frustration in other areas...and hence lessening of affection.

You have been together for 5 months.....and during that time AS she got to know you more....the less she felt overall that you were the one for her. Why is she being cold? Maybe part of her is angry that it didnt work out...and that she was more giving (saying the L word)/sexual and you couldnt respond how she wanted you to. She doesnt want to be just friends and wants to move on....so why WOULD she stay in contact...out of politeness?

If she has already moved on and seeing someone else...it would be strange to him if she were still in touch with you. Selfish and ungrateful probably has little to do with it. Why we date and get attached, with the boot from oxcytocin levels due to sex....is to SEE if we are likely marriage/longterm partners not to settle because the other party is nice and we dont want to hurt their feelings...isnt it?

Last Edited by Red Red Whine on 08/02/2011 02:25 AM

you only like her BUTT?


YOU ARE SELFISH AND UNGRATEFUL!!!!!!!!!!!






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She is "playing" you, and you are falling for her game. Turn your back, walk away, no contact what so ever, don't go where she goes, ignore her.

She will contact you. They are not good, playing the games they play, when played !

MAINSTREAM MEDIA AND PROGRAMMING CLAIMED ANOTHER ONE.

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The man/woman relationship is a perfect gift. Both men and women can't make the most of it right now.

Women want alpha, if you aren't you are just temporary

Welcome to the world of the great mystery called Woman.

The arent doing this because they are selfish, they JUST never really know what they want or they fear to miss something else. Confusion, shizofrenia and so on.

Well i had the same experience. With many infact. All the same. Some gilrs might say, not all girls are like this, blah blah, that cos they are amazingly good hypocrites. To them nice guys are like Kleenex. Soft and disposable. Treat them the way they treat you and they will go gaga over you. I know wierd creatures they are :/

Maybe you should ask your mother that question.