Who\'s supposed to be more important in your life...Your Spouse or your Parents/Siblings?

Uh, the one you made a commitment to in front of God??





Idiot.

Good enough for me.

You believe in an old man floating in the clouds?



Idiot.

Your Partner Husband Wife Spouse...always comes before everyone else.

Thank you for being civil.

I agree...my current gf disagrees...we fought over it hard today.

Your MATE.



and it has nothing to do with an old white guy on a cloud.

Don't marry her then. If you're fighting over such a subject now imagine what it would be like in fifteen years with two kids.

You'll be the atm machine and that's it.

Your partner/spouse for sure OP.

Who is paying for your bread.

The parents while you are young and your spouse if you have your own independent household with your spouse.

Actually the most important is that you have to feel good within your guts.

"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh."

NIV Gen 2:24

Sounds like the spouse is 'part' of you and so ranks higher than mom and dad, as much as we should love them as well.

THIS

You KNOW it deep down if you're doing something wrong... So follow your instincts.

You committed to your spouse by choice, but (ideally) your parents created and nurtured you, and you owe them your love, respect and support as well...

It's a trade-off, you need to seek a balance.

Spouse, not GF

Someone is being unreasonable to.

so who is it? your spouse or the rest of your family

spouse

Then she's not your partner.

Spouse. No argument.

NEGITIVE, FAMILY. BLOOD COMES FIRST. NOTHING IS THICKER THAN BLOOD. THE REST OF EM ARE ALL STRANGERS

The spouse if you want to keep your relationship healthy and strong.

I am assuming you are financially independent since you didn't bring that up,but I have seen a LOT of problems come up for couples who acccept money from family or parents .... just not wise to do.

HEY buddy, you're mommy and daddy were strangers before they got together...

unless the husband and wife come first the marriage is doomed

mother-in-laws especially should keep their noses out of a marriage. An insecure inlaw can do major damage to a marriage.

Agreed.

If your woman doesn't feel more deeply connected to you than to her family, you have a problem. This doesn't mean she has to stop caring about her family, but she really should care about your relationship more.

Why?

Because the two of you are supposed to start a NEW family together! And the new family is more important than the old, because that's where the children are being raised. The old family has to step down, in order to support the new family. This is the cycle of life.

YOU are her family now, and she is yours! If she doesn't wish to accept this, you're better off looking for someone who will.

Why not just say mothers? I mean both mothers are in-laws.

To keep the race going,Love and lust will overcome the affection for the parents ,For a time ,But race and family are strong instincts, And love is a form of insainity that lasts about two years,
Remember Humans are well programed at birth,Ever wonder why we don''t know what God is?But the urge to worship is so strong and religions are able to make such fools of us all
Look at the Jews , Who mantain themselves by praying on the stupid Christians.They even have America fighting their wars.

Right...within reason. No need to shuffle the old folks off right away. They do make good babysitters, after all!

Last Edited by GreenTabasco on 06/17/2010 09:04 AM

Well, if you have not made a commitment, then ...

How about no one put anyone in the position to have to choose? How about everyone be grown ups and be kind and ethical? :WTF-MG:

50% of marriages end in divorce. Parents/Siblings will be behind you until the day you die.

My mom told me when I was younger than if she and I and her mom were in a life-and-death situation where she had to choose between me and her mom, she'd pick her mom.

Last Edited by Just Speak on 06/17/2010 09:07 AM

SPOUSE FIRST. If you have children of your own they come before even the spouse. But if you put your parents and siblings and relatives before your spouse you're a shitty spouse.

wow, what a bitchy thing to say to a child!

Someone already said it, but I'll reiterate it.

When you are growing up, it's your family members.

When you actually get married, you must put that family as primary. You are now a family with your spouse, and your children.

Everyone knows that parents must show a united front in front of the children. But if there is no unity, then there can be no apparent unity, either.

It is simple wisdom to put your closest family first. When you're growing up, your parents and siblings are your closest family.

But as an adult, your closest family becomes the family that lives with you-- your own spouse and children.

A family that puts first the grandparents becomes divided. Show me the in-laws that agree on everything, and I'll show you a family filled with liars or yes-wo/men who are spineless or manipulative.

The simple fact of the matter is that you will often not agree as it stands! The last thing you can do in a healthy relationship is to introduce yet MORE opinions that must be resolved before you can act!

Really, both spiritually and practically, the primary family unit is mother, father, child. Not mother and grandmother, father and grandfather, and child.

Too many chiefs makes for very confused families.