Who\'s supposed to be more important in your life...Your Spouse or your Parents/Siblings? | |
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Jessica6 User ID: 992311 Canada 06/17/2010 08:03 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Your Partner Husband Wife Spouse...always comes before everyone else. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 590653Thank you for being civil. I agree...my current gf disagrees...we fought over it hard today. Don't marry her then. If you're fighting over such a subject now imagine what it would be like in fifteen years with two kids. You'll be the atm machine and that's it. The urge to save humanity is always a false front for the urge to rule it. - HL Mencken |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 1006055 Austria 06/17/2010 08:06 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Who is paying for your bread. The parents while you are young and your spouse if you have your own independent household with your spouse. Actually the most important is that you have to feel good within your guts. |
Genesis User ID: 967891 United States 06/17/2010 08:06 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I\'m arguing over this right now, and need some opinions...thanks! Quoting: Anonymous Coward 590653"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." NIV Gen 2:24 Sounds like the spouse is 'part' of you and so ranks higher than mom and dad, as much as we should love them as well. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 883744 United States 06/17/2010 08:09 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Who is paying for your bread. Quoting: <| NutOnTheEdge |>The parents while you are young and your spouse if you have your own independent household with your spouse. Actually the most important is that you have to feel good within your guts. THIS You KNOW it deep down if you're doing something wrong... So follow your instincts. You committed to your spouse by choice, but (ideally) your parents created and nurtured you, and you owe them your love, respect and support as well... It's a trade-off, you need to seek a balance. |
GreenTabasco User ID: 1006068 Taiwan 06/17/2010 08:11 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Your Partner Husband Wife Spouse...always comes before everyone else. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 590653Thank you for being civil. I agree...my current gf disagrees...we fought over it hard today. Spouse, not GF Your day will come... |
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Melodye User ID: 1005541 Australia 06/17/2010 08:23 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Your Partner Husband Wife Spouse...always comes before everyone else. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 590653Thank you for being civil. I agree...my current gf disagrees...we fought over it hard today. Then she's not your partner. |
TheShoveler User ID: 886516 United States 06/17/2010 08:26 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I\'m arguing over this right now, and need some opinions...thanks! Quoting: Anonymous Coward 590653Spouse. No argument. "I would rather be exposed to the inconveniences attending too much liberty than to those attending too small a degree of it." - Thomas Jefferson "Error of opinion may be tolerated where reason is left free to combat it." - Thomas Jefferson |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 788917 United States 06/17/2010 08:34 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | The spouse if you want to keep your relationship healthy and strong. I am assuming you are financially independent since you didn't bring that up,but I have seen a LOT of problems come up for couples who acccept money from family or parents .... just not wise to do. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 871860 Canada 06/17/2010 08:36 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Your Partner Husband Wife Spouse...always comes before everyone else. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1006088NEGITIVE, FAMILY. BLOOD COMES FIRST. NOTHING IS THICKER THAN BLOOD. THE REST OF EM ARE ALL STRANGERS HEY buddy, you're mommy and daddy were strangers before they got together... unless the husband and wife come first the marriage is doomed mother-in-laws especially should keep their noses out of a marriage. An insecure inlaw can do major damage to a marriage. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 300884 Sweden 06/17/2010 08:40 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Your Partner Husband Wife Spouse...always comes before everyone else. Quoting: MelodyeThank you for being civil. I agree...my current gf disagrees...we fought over it hard today. Then she's not your partner. Agreed. If your woman doesn't feel more deeply connected to you than to her family, you have a problem. This doesn't mean she has to stop caring about her family, but she really should care about your relationship more. Why? Because the two of you are supposed to start a NEW family together! And the new family is more important than the old, because that's where the children are being raised. The old family has to step down, in order to support the new family. This is the cycle of life. YOU are her family now, and she is yours! If she doesn't wish to accept this, you're better off looking for someone who will. |
Melodye User ID: 1005541 Australia 06/17/2010 08:57 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | mother-in-laws especially should keep their noses out of a marriage. An insecure inlaw can do major damage to a marriage. Why not just say mothers? I mean both mothers are in-laws. |
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D.Dawson User ID: 833929 Canada 06/17/2010 09:03 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | To keep the race going,Love and lust will overcome the affection for the parents ,For a time ,But race and family are strong instincts, And love is a form of insainity that lasts about two years, Remember Humans are well programed at birth,Ever wonder why we don''t know what God is?But the urge to worship is so strong and religions are able to make such fools of us all Look at the Jews , Who mantain themselves by praying on the stupid Christians.They even have America fighting their wars. |
GreenTabasco User ID: 1006068 Taiwan 06/17/2010 09:04 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Your Partner Husband Wife Spouse...always comes before everyone else. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 300884Thank you for being civil. I agree...my current gf disagrees...we fought over it hard today. Then she's not your partner. Agreed. If your woman doesn't feel more deeply connected to you than to her family, you have a problem. This doesn't mean she has to stop caring about her family, but she really should care about your relationship more. Why? Because the two of you are supposed to start a NEW family together! And the new family is more important than the old, because that's where the children are being raised. The old family has to step down, in order to support the new family. This is the cycle of life. YOU are her family now, and she is yours! If she doesn't wish to accept this, you're better off looking for someone who will. Right...within reason. No need to shuffle the old folks off right away. They do make good babysitters, after all! Last Edited by GreenTabasco on 06/17/2010 09:04 AM Your day will come... |
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Just Speak User ID: 999842 United States 06/17/2010 09:05 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My mom told me when I was younger than if she and I and her mom were in a life-and-death situation where she had to choose between me and her mom, she'd pick her mom. Last Edited by Just Speak on 06/17/2010 09:07 AM |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 526155 Canada 06/17/2010 09:05 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I\'m arguing over this right now, and need some opinions...thanks! Quoting: Anonymous Coward 590653SPOUSE FIRST. If you have children of your own they come before even the spouse. But if you put your parents and siblings and relatives before your spouse you're a shitty spouse. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 526155 Canada 06/17/2010 09:06 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My mom told me when I was younger than if she and I and her mom were in a situation where she had to choose between me and her mom, she'd pick her mom. Quoting: Just Speakwow, what a bitchy thing to say to a child! |
Sandi_T User ID: 873093 United States 06/17/2010 09:07 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Someone already said it, but I'll reiterate it. When you are growing up, it's your family members. When you actually get married, you must put that family as primary. You are now a family with your spouse, and your children. Everyone knows that parents must show a united front in front of the children. But if there is no unity, then there can be no apparent unity, either. It is simple wisdom to put your closest family first. When you're growing up, your parents and siblings are your closest family. But as an adult, your closest family becomes the family that lives with you-- your own spouse and children. A family that puts first the grandparents becomes divided. Show me the in-laws that agree on everything, and I'll show you a family filled with liars or yes-wo/men who are spineless or manipulative. The simple fact of the matter is that you will often not agree as it stands! The last thing you can do in a healthy relationship is to introduce yet MORE opinions that must be resolved before you can act! Really, both spiritually and practically, the primary family unit is mother, father, child. Not mother and grandmother, father and grandfather, and child. Too many chiefs makes for very confused families. No more requests in the "Strangest things" thread please. :hf: Past Lives requests thread: Thread: That Which Once Was: Past Lives |