Being the man in that situation, maybe I can shed some light on it for you. I am 49 and have been married 25 years to the same woman. She has sexual issues and we have not slept together for 13 years. I was contacted by an old flame (the girl I thought was my soul mate) from twenty years ago. We caught up via internet because I live on the East Coast and she's in AZ. We had a torrid romance on line, but when it came to leaving my wife and heading off into unknown territory, I got cold feet. Many men will put up with an intolerable situation for many reasons: financial, familiar surroundings, comfort. The question is, does he still lve you and do you still love him? Are you in touch? Internet and facebook are amazing. I know if she had said, "Convention be damned" and showed up on my doorstep, I would have left in a moment. But my mind beat out my heart and I stayed in my comfort zone.