Bob, you were a child once. Did you hate yourself then?

I guess one way or preventing this is not getting married.

In actuality, they own you anyway. Most parents are running scared. If they govt. doesn't take your kids, they school them, if they don't school them, they brainwash them through TV, if they don't brainwash them, they sexualize them too early through adds, magazines and symbols, if they don't do that, a satanic cult or a pedophile will kidnap them.
All this is nothing but to keep us in fear and survival in our lower 3 chakras, and not get in tune with our gifted humane unified nature from the heart chakra & up.

We're going to shift anyway, those who want to. Nothing "they" can do about it.

The shift is here, like it or not.