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Tali User ID: 1018633 United States 09/24/2010 03:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Seriously....best thing to do is go get a BOB and ignore your husband. Let him know you have toys and can have a good time by yourself...he'll get curious and come around lol. Our perfect companions never have fewer than four feet. ~Colette |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 1032899 United States 09/24/2010 03:30 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I realize this is a very tough topic but I need some insight. Please no jokes or awful comments - my heart has been bruised enough. Quoting: Passion_ateWe have had a lot of marriage difficulites in the past and recently agreed that we have a trial separation before we end up hating one another. So in the next few weeks I will be moving out. He thinks I am leaving because of a few issues we can not agree on and has no idea of the real reason I am leaving. I am unable to sleep as I worry he will masturbate and that is all I invision in my head. I recently went to my doctor and am now on sleeping pills and sleep in the spare room. I know of his secret life looking at porn and masturbating. He's not very discreet covering this up although he only deletes internet history on the days he is looking at smut. I know he will deny this and be very angry at what I am thinking or what I know but I do believe this is serious. He no longer feels passion towards me, doesn't have any desires to make love to me either. I read online about this and it states: In the case of internet use, only a short exposure is needed to turn a used into an addict. The internet offers the three A’s: accessibility, anonymity and affordability. It also offers extremes of behaviors that the hardware of our brain may not be able to handle. Like pornography it also has the power to change our ‘love maps’ or templates that represent what attracts us sexually. It is called the ‘crack cocaine’ of sex addition. IF anyone out there is going through something similar, please, I need some support. The only time i've ever had to turn to porn in active relationship is when we both want to watch it, and when i've been with cold fish women who are FREAKS when you first get together, then after they move in or it gets serious they want to have sex literally once a week or less. Healthy males need sex or masturbation more often than that, especially in the sex-charged world we live in now. Give your man Bjs and sex daily. If this doesn't solve it then he may be addicted to porn. |
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Tali User ID: 1018633 United States 09/24/2010 03:30 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ...you might want to ask him what his fantasys are and try to fulfill them with him...try to put some spice back in ya know. If you know he's masturbating at night...barge in and beg him for sex!!! In something sexy! Our perfect companions never have fewer than four feet. ~Colette |
Frigg Stuyvesant User ID: 1108799 United States 09/24/2010 03:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I realize this is a very tough topic but I need some insight. Please no jokes or awful comments - my heart has been bruised enough. Quoting: Passion_ateWe have had a lot of marriage difficulites in the past and recently agreed that we have a trial separation before we end up hating one another. So in the next few weeks I will be moving out. He thinks I am leaving because of a few issues we can not agree on and has no idea of the real reason I am leaving. I am unable to sleep as I worry he will masturbate and that is all I invision in my head. I recently went to my doctor and am now on sleeping pills and sleep in the spare room. I know of his secret life looking at porn and masturbating. He's not very discreet covering this up although he only deletes internet history on the days he is looking at smut. I know he will deny this and be very angry at what I am thinking or what I know but I do believe this is serious. He no longer feels passion towards me, doesn't have any desires to make love to me either. I read online about this and it states: In the case of internet use, only a short exposure is needed to turn a used into an addict. The internet offers the three A’s: accessibility, anonymity and affordability. It also offers extremes of behaviors that the hardware of our brain may not be able to handle. Like pornography it also has the power to change our ‘love maps’ or templates that represent what attracts us sexually. It is called the ‘crack cocaine’ of sex addition. IF anyone out there is going through something similar, please, I need some support. You have never masturbated yourself? I understand that porn is unhealthy but... You probably better go ahead and spill more of the story..like the other side. i don't think we are dealing with all of the facts. Do you have a history of: laziness? emotional martyrdom? nagging? insulting? People say things they can't take back. selfishness? These things really get to a man after a while. Cui Bono? |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1001177 United States 09/24/2010 03:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I realize this is a very tough topic but I need some insight. Please no jokes or awful comments - my heart has been bruised enough. Quoting: Passion_ateWe have had a lot of marriage difficulites in the past and recently agreed that we have a trial separation before we end up hating one another. So in the next few weeks I will be moving out. He thinks I am leaving because of a few issues we can not agree on and has no idea of the real reason I am leaving. I am unable to sleep as I worry he will masturbate and that is all I invision in my head. I recently went to my doctor and am now on sleeping pills and sleep in the spare room. I know of his secret life looking at porn and masturbating. He's not very discreet covering this up although he only deletes internet history on the days he is looking at smut. I know he will deny this and be very angry at what I am thinking or what I know but I do believe this is serious. He no longer feels passion towards me, doesn't have any desires to make love to me either. I read online about this and it states: In the case of internet use, only a short exposure is needed to turn a used into an addict. The internet offers the three A’s: accessibility, anonymity and affordability. It also offers extremes of behaviors that the hardware of our brain may not be able to handle. Like pornography it also has the power to change our ‘love maps’ or templates that represent what attracts us sexually. It is called the ‘crack cocaine’ of sex addition. IF anyone out there is going through something similar, please, I need some support. If your husband is looking at porn you aren't doing something he needs. Don't blame it on addiction, he's masturbating because you aren't doing it for him anymore. Perhaps you should see a doctor instead and find out what has changed with you that isn't attracting him any longer. Cause if he's still looking at porn and masturbating he's a normal human being that can't get laid in the way he wants. If you leave him over this you are only at fault yourself. |
Frigg Stuyvesant User ID: 1108799 United States 09/24/2010 03:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ...you might want to ask him what his fantasys are and try to fulfill them with him...try to put some spice back in ya know. Quoting: TaliIf you know he's masturbating at night...barge in and beg him for sex!!! In something sexy! I always loved you.. Cui Bono? |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1055617 United States 09/24/2010 03:33 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Well, if he is into porn, then he is not getting what he needs/wants from YOU!!!!! Perhaps you need to look at what you do or don't so thats causes this for him... I have yet to know of any man who is sexually satisfied and addicted to porn.... |
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Tali User ID: 1018633 United States 09/24/2010 03:33 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ...you might want to ask him what his fantasys are and try to fulfill them with him...try to put some spice back in ya know. Quoting: Frigg StuyvesantIf you know he's masturbating at night...barge in and beg him for sex!!! In something sexy! I always loved you.. Hehe...I went thru this with my ex...I handled it ALLLLL WRONG!!!! Our perfect companions never have fewer than four feet. ~Colette |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 357364 United States 09/24/2010 03:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ...you might want to ask him what his fantasys are and try to fulfill them with him...try to put some spice back in ya know. Quoting: TaliIf you know he's masturbating at night...barge in and beg him for sex!!! In something sexy! I absolutely love this advice! |
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Aileana User ID: 561062 United States 09/24/2010 03:35 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ...you might want to ask him what his fantasys are and try to fulfill them with him...try to put some spice back in ya know. Quoting: TaliIf you know he's masturbating at night...barge in and beg him for sex!!! In something sexy! i have to agree with Tali (well right up to the barging in part but i think that a major problem a lot of couples have is that they don't admit to the other partner what really turns them on. be adventurous, spice things up. you might even try watching some with him |
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