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FATIMA (OP) User ID: 1136708 Australia 10/21/2010 01:14 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Your boyfriend should wash himself better. There shouldn't be a strong smell. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 902591we wash up 5 times a day but it is like a peculiar smell just like when you eat soft goat cheese like ricotta, only a bit more acid. Even with the spanish releif the smell of his and the palm oil stinks the whole house and my mother gets suspitious why we use so much pam oil in our kitchen. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 1136674 Canada 10/21/2010 01:17 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | **If You Support Drugs Being Illegal, then You Support TERRORISM** It is very simple. Illegal drugs are a top earned for criminals and terrorists the world over. SO if you think having drugs illegal is a good idea, then you are in favor of terrorism. Thanks for helping keep legislation in place which has caused us to lose our civil liberties and live in fear as a result of terrorism. So by extension if you support drugs being illegal then you too are a terrorist. I don't want to live in a police state, neither do you. So lets set up legislation that cuts off the funding for terrorism, as it is hard to run a global terror operation without drug money. Fight terrorism by decriminalizing drugs. A simple solution. And all illegal drug use put together globally kills less people than the legal pharmaceuticals do in Just North America every year. Get real, Just say KNOW more. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1098964 United States 10/21/2010 03:58 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | because of my culture we have to remain virgin until the wedding day. Quoting: FATIMA 1136708If I get pregnant before marriage it will be unspeakable dishonour for my family and very dangerous for me. But my boyfriend wants to intercourse now and will not wait otherwise he will leave me. If he leaves me my honour will be tainted because it means that he found something not right with myself. My boyfriend says that we can have gentle intercourse without breaking the virginity veil and I will not get pregnant. I have tried to get information on google but nothing about this. I cannot ask my doctor because she knows my family. Any kind ladies here can tell me for sure what is the truth? Go for it. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1137014 Austria 10/21/2010 04:14 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If he is not prepared to wait pushing all the shame on you (you will never able to know if a man was a virgin or not) and already prepared to leave you if you don't - especially if he comes from a Muslim culture - he will leave you with empty promised once he got what he wanted - I already felt for it. DON'T, DON'T, and DON'T. It is how people for certain countries like to play with people they call easy westerners at the first place. |
Fatima (OP) User ID: 1136708 Australia 10/21/2010 10:36 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Your boyfriend should wash himself better. There shouldn't be a strong smell. Quoting: FATIMA 1136708we wash up 5 times a day but it is like a peculiar smell just like when you eat soft goat cheese like ricotta, only a bit more acid. Even with the spanish releif the smell of his and the palm oil stinks the whole house and my mother gets suspitious why we use so much pam oil in our kitchen. If I don't do what he needs to be relieved he will leave me and then no one else will want me because we have been engaged for nearly 18 months. Nobody wants a second hand girl anymore |
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Romans 6 User ID: 331590 United States 10/04/2012 10:05 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | because of my culture we have to remain virgin until the wedding day. Quoting: FATIMA 1136708 If I get pregnant before marriage it will be unspeakable dishonour for my family and very dangerous for me. But my boyfriend wants to intercourse now and will not wait otherwise he will leave me. If he leaves me my honour will be tainted because it means that he found something not right with myself. My boyfriend says that we can have gentle intercourse without breaking the virginity veil and I will not get pregnant. I have tried to get information on google but nothing about this. I cannot ask my doctor because she knows my family. Any kind ladies here can tell me for sure what is the truth? Get this boy out of your life, he does not love YOU, he just want to have sex with you and afterwards he just leaves you. If he really loves and respect you he would wait. He should be aware of your religion and respect for the family and should not force you into a situation where you or family is dishonored. If boy will not respect you and insist on having sex then tell your parents about it and they will help you. Don't keep secret, it is not your fault that the boy is selfish. Do not yield to your boyfriend and his talk about gentle intercourse, once you yield to him his brute nature will take control and you will be filled with regrets and shame. Do not do things against your convictions. There are more boys around, do not let your boyfriend ruin your life. Talk to your family about it if he will not listen. Better safe than sorry. |
Earth Daughter User ID: 202278 United States 10/04/2012 10:11 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | because of my culture we have to remain virgin until the wedding day. Quoting: FATIMA 1136708 If I get pregnant before marriage it will be unspeakable dishonour for my family and very dangerous for me. But my boyfriend wants to intercourse now and will not wait otherwise he will leave me. If he leaves me my honour will be tainted because it means that he found something not right with myself. My boyfriend says that we can have gentle intercourse without breaking the virginity veil and I will not get pregnant. I have tried to get information on google but nothing about this. I cannot ask my doctor because she knows my family. Any kind ladies here can tell me for sure what is the truth? So let him leave you. Never let anyone make you jump through hoops to please them. There's plenty of other men out there and you can find one that won't make you do something you don't want to do. If you don't respect yourself, no one else will either. Next time he gives you that ultimatum, say, "O.K., goodbye then." "Arrows of hate have been shot at me too, but they never hit me, because somehow they belonged to another world, with which I have no connection whatsoever." - Albert Einstein |
Face Palmer User ID: 1149868 Germany 10/04/2012 10:12 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Take one up the bum, don't be a mum. "The world will soon wake up to the reality that everyone is broke and can collect nothing from the bankrupt, who are owed unlimited amounts by the insolvent, who are attempting to make late payments on a bank holiday in the wrong country, with an unacceptable currency, against defaulted collateral, of which nobody is sure who holds title." Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity. The woman who is not pursued sets up the doctrine that pursuit is offensive to her sex, and wants to make it a felony. No genuinely attractive woman has any such desire. - H.L. Mencken, In Defense Of Women |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 24538007 Australia 10/04/2012 10:24 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Your boyfriend should wash himself better. There shouldn't be a strong smell. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 902591we wash up 5 times a day but it is like a peculiar smell just like when you eat soft goat cheese like ricotta, only a bit more acid. Even with the spanish releif the smell of his and the palm oil stinks the whole house and my mother gets suspitious why we use so much pam oil in our kitchen. Hold on. I didn`t read this bit...... Oh and WTF is spanish relief ? |
XSlyOneX User ID: 1446631 United States 10/04/2012 10:25 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Your boyfriend should wash himself better. There shouldn't be a strong smell. Quoting: FATIMA 1136708we wash up 5 times a day but it is like a peculiar smell just like when you eat soft goat cheese like ricotta, only a bit more acid. Even with the spanish releif the smell of his and the palm oil stinks the whole house and my mother gets suspitious why we use so much pam oil in our kitchen. If I don't do what he needs to be relieved he will leave me and then no one else will want me because we have been engaged for nearly 18 months. Nobody wants a second hand girl anymore Lol that sucks... I have to try really hard to smell bad. Ron Paul or Bust |
Thor's Hamster User ID: 11186762 United States 10/04/2012 10:26 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Gentle sex? Small dick. Quoting: BrutalsunNo, just jack off into her mouth. She just needs to suck the head for about 20 minutes. The other 11 inches she can have after she's married. Apollo astronauts couldn't have passed through Van Allen's Belt. Van Allen wore suspenders. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 17770056 Canada 10/04/2012 10:29 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No sex before wedding ... Sex is such an important part of a relationship ...i just don't see how you can be jumping blind ... not matter what the religion is ... for me it is like not talking to the person until the wedding .... ehhh you have to know ... |
rules are for a reason:order User ID: 15243762 United States 10/04/2012 03:58 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP, if you are truly in the situation you describe, listen carefully to this advice. Quoting: ISeeAll Do not have vaginal sex with your boyfriend, even if his penis is close to your vagina (not in it, but close), pre-cum can get you pregnant; I had a girlfriend who got pregnant this way at 15. If you let him enter you, your hymen will likely break, which means you will not only loose your virginity, but will very likely to become pregnant. You could take the birth control pill (the most effective way of avoiding pregnancy), but your virginity will still be lost. You could offer him oral sex avoiding all of the problems above, and no doubt he will enjoy it. However, most importantly, you have to feel comfortable with this and have a discussion with him before you proceed. A final option is anal sex. Many hetrosexual couples engage in this form of sexuality. Again, most importantly, you have to feel comfortable with this and need to discuss this together before proceeding. Hygenic precautions need to be taken if you go this route, such as wearing a condom. This will also help prevent possible pregnancy due to the fact that the anis and vagina aren't very far apart. In my own opinion your boyfriend should wait. He is putting you in a horrible (and dangerous) situation which shows complete lack of respect for you and I'm assuming your shared culture; Not to mention lack of love or compassion towards you. Is there an elder in your family who is respected to whom you could disclose that your boyfriend is pressuring you in this way? Could you explain that you are wanting to abide by your cultural standards and remain pure for your wedding day but he is placing you in a no win situation (for you). If you could reach out to someone perhaps they could speak to him. Good luck! or kick his azz ...or maybe his head - down the street.. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 24714913 United Kingdom 10/04/2012 04:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You have 2 options I think A) Run away with him and do what you like but bear in mind he probably wont be around forever as he is threatening to leave you already and if you do have sex with him there is the risk that this is all he wants and will leave soon afterwards. B) LEAVE HIM. |
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