My boyfriend says we can have sex and I can stay a virgin.

Mary from LA, is that you?

Your boyfriend should wash himself better. There shouldn't be a strong smell.

because of my culture we have to remain virgin until the wedding day.
If I get pregnant before marriage it will be unspeakable dishonour for my family and very dangerous for me.
But my boyfriend wants to intercourse now and will not wait otherwise he will leave me.
If he leaves me my honour will be tainted because it means that he found something not right with myself.
My boyfriend says that we can have gentle intercourse without breaking the virginity veil and I will not get pregnant.
I have tried to get information on google but nothing about this.
I cannot ask my doctor because she knows my family.
Any kind ladies here can tell me for sure what is the truth?

Your boyfriend should wash himself better. There shouldn't be a strong smell.

we wash up 5 times a day but it is like a peculiar smell just like when you eat soft goat cheese like ricotta, only a bit more acid.
Even with the spanish releif the smell of his and the palm oil stinks the whole house and my mother gets suspitious why we use so much pam oil in our kitchen.

Gentle sex? Small dick.

because of my culture we have to remain virgin until the wedding day.
If I get pregnant before marriage it will be unspeakable dishonour for my family and very dangerous for me.
But my boyfriend wants to intercourse now and will not wait otherwise he will leave me.
If he leaves me my honour will be tainted because it means that he found something not right with myself.
My boyfriend says that we can have gentle intercourse without breaking the virginity veil and I will not get pregnant.
I have tried to get information on google but nothing about this.
I cannot ask my doctor because she knows my family.
Any kind ladies here can tell me for sure what is the truth?

because of my culture we have to remain virgin until the wedding day.
If I get pregnant before marriage it will be unspeakable dishonour for my family and very dangerous for me.
But my boyfriend wants to intercourse now and will not wait otherwise he will leave me.
If he leaves me my honour will be tainted because it means that he found something not right with myself.
My boyfriend says that we can have gentle intercourse without breaking the virginity veil and I will not get pregnant.
I have tried to get information on google but nothing about this.
I cannot ask my doctor because she knows my family.
Any kind ladies here can tell me for sure what is the truth?

we wash up 5 times a day but it is like a peculiar smell just like when you eat soft goat cheese like ricotta, only a bit more acid.
Even with the spanish releif the smell of his and the palm oil stinks the whole house and my mother gets suspitious why we use so much pam oil in our kitchen.

If I don't do what he needs to be relieved he will leave me and then no one else will want me because we have been engaged for nearly 18 months. Nobody wants a second hand girl anymore

No, just jack off into her mouth. She just needs to suck the head for about 20 minutes. The other 11 inches she can have after she's married.

OP, if you are truly in the situation you describe, listen carefully to this advice.

Do not have vaginal sex with your boyfriend, even if his penis is close to your vagina (not in it, but close), pre-cum can get you pregnant; I had a girlfriend who got pregnant this way at 15.

If you let him enter you, your hymen will likely break, which means you will not only loose your virginity, but will very likely to become pregnant.

You could take the birth control pill (the most effective way of avoiding pregnancy), but your virginity will still be lost.

You could offer him oral sex avoiding all of the problems above, and no doubt he will enjoy it. However, most importantly, you have to feel comfortable with this and have a discussion with him before you proceed.

A final option is anal sex. Many hetrosexual couples engage in this form of sexuality. Again, most importantly, you have to feel comfortable with this and need to discuss this together before proceeding. Hygenic precautions need to be taken if you go this route, such as wearing a condom. This will also help prevent possible pregnancy due to the fact that the anis and vagina aren't very far apart.

In my own opinion your boyfriend should wait. He is putting you in a horrible (and dangerous) situation which shows complete lack of respect for you and I'm assuming your shared culture; Not to mention lack of love or compassion towards you.

Is there an elder in your family who is respected to whom you could disclose that your boyfriend is pressuring you in this way? Could you explain that you are wanting to abide by your cultural standards and remain pure for your wedding day but he is placing you in a no win situation (for you). If you could reach out to someone perhaps they could speak to him.

Good luck!