My boyfriend likes to call me names like whore, bitch and slut. Is this normal???

I know this is a trollers thread but...

There is a way to dominate with love and there are submissive lovers who love to be dominated in certain ways. It should never turn violent or ugly when both know and consent to their place. The verbalizations are used to get the session hot.

Fart in his mouth.

If it's true love, there doesn't need to be talking in bed......think subliminal messaging.......

and anyone that does that just hates women period and thinks they are beneath him and useless objects........

and is sick in the head.......or has been taught that "domination" involves belittling and abuse........and if he is thinking of ANYTHING other than you as a fantasy then it's not true love........

and that's all there is to it I hate to break it to you.......you are being used............

Definitely not normal. Its abusive. Im surprised you've stayed with him....women with strong characters would have been out of there at the first time he started it.

Remeber that we date because at some point we would like a loving partner to trust, to have around our family and to have a happy family life with.

What part of his behaviour do you see as a good role model for any offspring? Is it wonderful and sexy to be beaten up? Is it comfortable to know your children will mimic the disrespect he shows you...so that NOBODY in your own home will treat you well?

Even IF you were a bitch, slut or whore....those babies you make will be damaged for life by that information being fed to them. Kids need to believe that their parents are the best in the world.

Women stay in abusive situations because they get worn down by scary damaged people and they get too afraid to walk away...even if it seems like he's just playing, joking or role playing he will come to believe you are those nasty things and you allowing that will confirm its ok and want to be controlled. They wont respect you for it and will cheat...because they expect that from YOU.

Yes I know you say he only does this in bed. BUT that is where it starts....as time goes on it will progress to the rest of your life/relationship. If he only did it very occassionally in role play (like once every 6 months)that would be fine BUT if its the only way he can get his kink going NOW...its deeper than that and you are in the honeymoon stage of your relationship.

Walk away from this one even if the fear factor stirs up your sexual passions. That passion will turn to walking on egg-shells fairly soon and you will forget what it feels like to be treated with love and kindness.

If your best friend or mother were seeing a man who treated them like this....would you advise her to stick with him or be outraged that they allowed him anywhere near them? You have to be your own best friend now.

Last Edited by Red Red Whine on 12/27/2010 08:16 AM

During sex it is probably safe, but it is not acceptable during other times.

Sounds to me like he is having a tough time dealing with sexuality from the person he loves, so he needs this framework. So he is calling you those names so he can see you as that role, not to put you down? See, it scares him.

Just do not reward it, and mix it up outside the bedroom. So some day out of blue, dominate him in kitchen say, get down on your hands and knees and do this. The minute he utters a profanity, stop, and walk away. Eventually he will stop, cause he will not get what he wants.

there is no normal or wrong in sex
The thing is, if there is something you dont like you have to tell him and he has to respect it.
Perhaps you are not compatible in sex. But to give you an example, with my previous relation we used to swear a lot during sex and I liked it. With my current relation we dont and I still enjoy sex. It depends of the person.
Just talk to him and say you are not comfortable with it, and see what he says

Then, don´t complain here you fake shill and troll in another place.

yes it is perfectly normal for women to date assholes, it is the most normal thing in the world.

Only if you are a whore, bitch, and/or slut.

No. Run. Run as fast as you can. This is an abusive relationship. Get out now...before he starts slapping you around.

I mean, really, every once in awhile role playing kind of thing is one thing, but if he does it every single time....If you take it when you are in bed it will roll out into your every day life and the next thing you know you will be wondering how he gained control over you and just wanting to get out of the relationship.

Exactly. There is an obvious duality with this relationship. And that characterization may very well be an oversimplification. But, how his sexual likes and dislikes affect YOU, should be a key factor in any decision-making you do moving forward...about the relationship as a whole, any long-term plans you have or are considering.

Because if it doesn't work out ...will you begin to feel the need for this sort of treatment in the bedroom by another man in the future?

Would it be fair to a new guy in your life, to, as an afterthought, want to try these shenanigans in the bedroom?

What effect does this have on your psyche?

Normal is a relative term.

One of my girls sticks her tongue up my ass, is this normal?

lol I don't care, it feels fucking great.

Then I tell her what a dirty little whore she is and fuck her till she squirts then we snuggle.

:P

If it's only during sex I dont see the problem because it seems he also likes to be treated that way in bed so it's not as if he's just constantly dominating you there

A few women I've been with love being choked/slapped/dominated during sex. Of course there is no violence in these relationships outside of the bedroom.

But seriously, they gush when you give them what they want.

Proof is in the puddin. :P

Yes it is normal for men to desire things that may seem kinky.
The male mind is a kinky place and men will want to act out their fantasies.

GET A CLUE MISSY!!!

THEN TAKE YOUR LUMPS,,,,

You have to !! he does not respect you at all !!
Call me afterwards !!

Not normal.
He is in the first level of cycle of abuse.
Second level is pushing or shoving, first in bed,
then while 'playing' or when angry.
Third level is where the hitting starts.
It will escalate, till he is putting you in the hospital
or morgue with blows.

Get out of this now.

my husband and i have been together 6yrs and he calls me his dirty little whore or his bitch mexican little slut he pulls my.hair slaps my face with his cock and seeing him so turned on just makes me cum soooo hard! whatever turns him off turns me on. Everyone is diefferent i am not the selfish type who cries about "its all about me" i get off by the sounds and expressions of my man being so turned on. If he was quiet and soft and non dominating i.would hate our sex life! so it depends on the person if u dont like it then dump him and move on because trust me if ur sex life is lame one of u will either cheat or masturbate to porn instead of having sex with eachother!! he will stray to find a kinkier woman! oh and me and my husband have an awesome relationship out of the bedroom. We laugh alot and are always together.

You are obviously either really ignorant or really young. Leave that asshole.

hahaha.. lmao.. baz is that you?? that reply sounds like something a brother of mine from past would have said..

Ahahahahahaha I meeean.

you are having sex with someone you are not married to.

is it possible that he is just reminding you of who/what you really are?


repent and sin no more.

If its normal FOR YOU...then that's all that matters.

He just calls em like he sees em

how many times has he beaten you, and then promised he will never,ever do it again?

Ask Mr. Kinky: 1)if he has watched one too many porn vids,(acting out) 2)if he's afraid or clueless about making love, 3) if he's a MISOGYNIST (a person who hates, dislikes, mistrusts, or mistreats women). If this OP is real, I'd say all of the above. prob molested as child

If your name is Michelle Obama, yes.