the real reason why some people like to criticize and judge you

Is there someone in your life who likes to spew all sorts of speculations over your person? Do they constantly assume countless things about you?

Well, it's their subconscious trying to make you create a mental image of yourself that is in conflict with who you really are.

Once the so-called speculator can sense that you have this positive 'image' of yourself, then they will try to create an opposing (negative) image to create some sort of mental conflict in you, thus impairing your self-confidence and causing you to become confused about who you are and what are your desires. They are trying to influence you into having doubts about yourself.

See how it only takes hearing or reading the phrase 'pink elephant' to have a pink elephant impressed in your mind. This will of course depend on where your attention is at the moment and how impenetrable your mind is, but still this applies to the majority.

When people paint this horrifying picture of you and you let it enter your mind, then even if only for one second you have this doubt about yourself -> about who you want to be and what are your goals. You have to understand that they don't really care if what they are saying about you is true / factual; all they care about is with the implications that their words will have on your psyche, thus allowing them to control your mind and influence your behavior. Arguing with them is useless because they could not care less about the factuality of their assertions.

The confusion they cause in your mind works as gateway for them to exert control over you -- where there is doubt there is weakness. Where there is fear, there is room for control.

Remember: no one has the right to tell you who you are. Only you know who you really are.

Last Edited by gus. on 02/13/2011 09:01 PM