i messed up big time, dumbest mistake of my life.

take the kid and make her pay for child support

You should of thought with the head on your shoulders instead of the one between your legs, you fucking moron.

Stop being a whiny controlling asshole; they're only little kids ffs, and not yours either!

I think you're secretly resentful that they're not your kids, but you got with this woman knowing she had baggage, so fucking deal with it, you tard. It's her choice how she raises HER kids -- not yours. So STFU.

God help your unborn kid having an asshole like you for a dad.

Yeah well the woman gets the say so... atleast in pittsburgh, pa?

Technically she isn't unfit according to children services, but there's nothing I can do to have full custody

Ya better make sure your kid is raised properly. It is your job now.

Please try and get custody of your baby. Can your parents help raise your child? I'll say a prayer for you.

Juicy juice and fries and chicken strips are not killer food. Ease up. Or, you can prepare fresh, healthful food for the kids yourself, make a week's worth at a time.
Sitting in front of the tv all day is not great, but if no one will play with, teach the children, take walks, do art, etc., they will end up there.
Of course, you can cut off the TV and save money!
Then they have to play and learn !

Sheeple children are bad its even worse than Sheeple adults because sheeple children dont have a choice they are governed by there parents. And if the parents dont give a shit well thats sad really.... put your foot down and tell her there your children to and you wanna see them putting healthy food into there bodies.

The point is, I don't care about how she raises these two rugrats, its the fact that now she is pregnant with MY KID, and she said she would raise this child differently and not make the same mistakes she did with her two.. (even though she continously does the same shit raising them), AT THE TIME WE DECIDED TO HAVE A CHILD OF OUROWN, SHE SAID THINGS WOULD BE DIFFERENT!,

I'm not telling her how to raise her kids, I'm worried about mine.

how can you talk like that about a little kid.
You're an idiot

I live in Pa. also and the laws do favor the women over the man. But please don't underestimate the power of prayer.

Sounds like your GF is a sheep.

ive heard worse while playing games online.

a baby was crying in the mic and some kid told him to shut that fucking baby up i started laughing

Her son does not need sugar (even if its natural sugar), and chicken strips are killer... processed corn bredding, chicken that has been in a factory... don't even get me started on the dipping sauces containing corn and other bad stuff... I can't even get to to buy Simply Heinz ketchup (no hfcs).

This is the best post so far though, sadly, her son cant learn properly, he has a severe case of adhd, he has serious problems..

All her daughter cares about is the internet, video games, television, and cell phones..

I cook the food, but I barely have any say in what I can cook them because its her food! Thank you

Duh, and did you not see her parenting patterns before you knocked her up? And what do you mean by HER raising the kid? It's down to you too fuck nuts. If you don't want YOUR kid sitting in front of the TV all day drinking pop, then grow a pair of balls and do something about it.

Y'know this thread is so fucking ridiculous that I think you're a troll trying to provoke a reaction. If not, then you need to sort your shit out pretty quick or your kid will grow into an A-hole like you.

She has her own house, her kids live with her obviously.. our kid will be living at her home. She was always at work, we worked together so she had a baby sitter.. I didn't see much of her parenting "skills" until we got laid off and really got together..

Like I said, stupidest mistake of my life...

She has her own house, her kids live with her obviously.. our kid will be living at her home. She was always at work, we worked together so she had a baby sitter.. I didn't see much of her parenting "skills" until we got laid off and really got together..

Like I said, stupidest mistake of my life...

Just have the kids play outside a lot (I know...crazy concept these days) and they'll be fine eating some of that stuff. If they're in front of a tv nonstop and being fed processed/sugar food then there's going to be a problem.

Dump her and go look for a hot vegan!

Wow. Please get a vasectomy.

Dude I could understand your frustrations on this one. First of all, it is difficult to watch people you care about poisoning themselves or their kids on this disgusting processed chemical infused junk, entirely un-aware or too dumbed down to understand the long term or even short term consequences of doing this to the mind and body. People don't seem to still get it....ever read the ingredients on that shit? even if you did there is still hidden poisons in that food the labels don't dare to openly share with you...

Not to mention if your wife has been eating like shit all this time or is unhealthy she might be passing this on to your baby. and Using these reasons for a custody battle wont work...Those in charge don't condone healthy eating....people have actually been investigated by DSS for refusing to feed their kids junk food!

THe best thing you can do is (especially if youre the source of income) start buying the healthy foods, sit and talk with your wife in a mature calm loving manner about the future of your child, try to compromise on what can be done here. show her some statistics, videos, whatever you can do. put your foot down on this with your kid. this is your baby too. as for the other children its not your problem but you can try to start implementing changes in a family-style loving way. just try. you dont know what can come out of it. Its important to start children off young on healthy foods because it will stick with them as they grow and they will want whatever food they ate as a child, and as adults its hard to change those habits.

I myself was raised on dead shitty empty food and no one cared or knew any better. by the time i was 20 i had 5 serious health problems and also since the age of 12 i was on psych meds for 3 so called mental illnesses. By the grace of God, I was introduced to holistic medicine and foods/herbal healing and it all saved my life . I am 26 now and a natural health enthusiast and researcher and most of my health issues , especially the mental ones, have healed. SO it is my passion to help others the best I can.

I wish you luck! dont give up!

She said that I'm going overboard with this stuff...

I just feel like I can't do anything about all of this... I pray everyday but it seems like God won't listen to me...maybe to teach me a lesson? I hope she agrees not to get him vaccinated.. maybe I can talk her into throwing out the tv....probably not

I'm a working mom....I took my kids to daycare in someone's home and then preschool and then they went to public school.

They drank juicy juice from boxes, ate candy, french fries, chicken nuggets, etc.

I'm a terrible cook. We had a lot of boxed macaroni, canned veggies, pizza, spaghetti and tuna/hamburger helper when they were kids.

They never ate breakfast and they watched a lot of TV and taped movies over the years.

They went to camp every summer for at least a month for at least 9 years each.

They all played sports and graduated HS with honors. One is an NCAA champion.

The two oldest have college degrees and jobs, one even started their own business!...both graduated since 2009. The other is a senior in college.


GET A GRIP MAN>>>>she is doing what she can at this time. Either you don't want to be with her or you do. Your excuses of her issues are superficial.

juicy juice is actually pretty good for you.

I call BS. If she realizes she "made a mistake" with how she relates to the first two - then 3 and 5 is certainly not too old to make a change.

I think you're making crap up, OP.

If not, then ask her to make the change across the board. And if you're going to be "the dad", then you should man up and be someone for all of these kids. TEACH the three year old instead of being mean and ornery.

How were you raised? Were you raised drinking juice and eating chicken nuggets? I don't know about you, but I was. I love processed junk. It's so good! DORITOS! But I still managed to "wake up." What she's doing is not good, but it's not a death sentence. At least your child will have one parent leading them in the right direction. It's too late now, so do what you can to be a positive influence.

If you love her, given time the children will become like your own. Would you like it if someone said this about you when you were young and did unruly things? Children need to be taught by action. They are the fruit of us.Since you have
a new soul coming coming, I pray that you can make a difference.One great Dad can replace many okay moms.And 1 great Mom can replace them okay dads as well.

Well said!

What struck me was the hatred you yourself revealed towards her son. Please op, seek counselling, the boy can, without a doubt,feel what you are projecting, and you are harming her children. If the anger is not dealt with, it will cause lifelong issues for the son.

Ask yourself, what is doing more damage to the kids, their bad eating habits or the toxic environment you are creating for them.

I read no mention of love or affection, pay her child support for your child and get out of their lives if you cannot pull yourself together.

She hits her son with hangers, her mom will visit and she don't even like him...the own grandmother despises him... he's just a fuck up and he thinks he can do whatever he wants..because of the way he was raised... he was fucked up before we met, loonng before..

Well, she is pregnant with your child so I imagine that you must be helping her by looking after the kids, cleaning and making healthy meals for everyone? If not, you should. I mean, you can chose to make everyone's life run that much smoother, right? Play board games with the kids, cook, help clean.... You can help feed the kids nice meals? You can try to help your girlfriend relax when she is due at any moment.

It isn't just enough to complain to her about what she does, when you could very well step in and be a helpful expectant father. For goodness sakes', she can go into labor at any time, her body is under the stress of pregnancy and you are spending your time whining on GLP critisizing what she feeds her kids? You really need to get yourself into shape, stop whining, and be an adult and
take care of her for the sake of your child. You are the jerk for talking about dumping her when she's about to give birth to your child.

If you have other parenting ideas, you need to introduce them helpfully and patiently, not with criticism. You also have to put them into action. The son of hers you hate, well he's going to be the older brother to your child so you should help him as much as possible become a better person. He's only 3, 3 year olds are difficult and he's worried about having a baby in the family. Couldn't you play with him or get him playdough or something? Or rent Franklin Gets a Sister videos for him so at least he's watching stuff that can help him cope?

Maybe if you helped out more, your girlfriend would find parenting much easier and do a better job. I'm sorry but my husband cooked, cleaned, gave me foot and back massages, let me sleep, listened to me and never ever criticized me when I was pregnant (and beyond). That's what you should be doing.

Isn't the son the 3 year old???? Three year olds should be able to DO WHAT THEY WANT within reason. They can be very annoying. Older people (grandparents) don't have much patience with 3 year olds....they are very demanding.

I think you are making up a story or a little boy who is scared of growing up and being a father, or a TOTAL JERK!

If I was her I would run from you in a minute. You seem to have some issues as others have said.

Take a break and think about your REAL feelings here. I don't think it has to do with her kids.