How to Forget Someone Fast? Heartbreak sucks

Sad for you if you think taking heroin or smoking is the same as LOVE.

True LOVE is nothing like an addiction.

It is one of THE greatest things you can experience in life. The right LOVE never has an end.

Go get some tomato plants and plant them. then you'll just be worried about when to bring them inside.

A month?

Kids.

Look, just don't give yourself time to think. Do a hobby or hang with friends or listen to a subliminal that makes you feel less sad.

Honey it is only time, if he rejects you for 'emotionalness', which is part of being a woman and growing, his acceptance of you is way to conditional. He is selfish and wants to have something that fits his criteria.

To heal quick is really be so kind to you, spoilt yourself with candle baths, pampering massages - touch from others is very healing, and these kinds of pampering and safe healing methods.

Never settle for 'his' expectations of you, regardless who it is.

When you truly respect who you are, and accept all of your loveliness is special, you will never settle for a man that wants you to be his idea of a partner.

Then you will attract another that will give repect, truth and love you need to bond to them, over time.

Almost all of these are troll posts. Anyone coming to GLP for emotional support gets what they deserve.

"Emotional Love" is a "chemical dump" in the brain. Because of that you have to treat it like withdrawing from any other kind of chemical addiction.

(I know this sounds so clinical ... but it is the way the brain actually works - and I am NOT dissin on Love, I think it is a wonderful thing)

1) Get busy doing other stuff that occupies your brain as much as possible.
For some, yes, it involves several meaningless sexual affairs, but anything that occupies your brain's time and energy will work, it doesn't take a sexual affair to do it. (though if the relationshiop took your self confidence with it sexual encounters can sometimes help partially restore that to you by making you feel "desired" again by the opposite sex, even though it is merely for your body and not really for "you")

2) Time helps, and helps a LOT. Like with any chemical addiction "time" slowly decreases the amount of the chemical in your brain that causes the addiction. It may never totally go away, but it lessens greatly over time.

3) Ask yourself if you were in love with a "dream" or the real person. We tend to idealize people into almost perfection when we first fall for them, a situation that can last from 1 month to 2 or 3 years (normally it lasts for 3 months to a year), but that is NOT the real person with all their real everyday Warts and Problems. It takes a full 2 years minimum, usually about 4, to really "KNOW" them (reason why a LOT of marriages fall apart in the 2 to 4 year time frame). If you were in love with a "dream" recognize that in yourself ... it helps a LOT in helping you get over a person.

4) EVERYBODY HAS FLAWS!! A shortcut to getting over a person, which may not be fair to them but helps you, is to force your brain to concentrate on their "flaws" for awhile. It helps get you away from your tendency to having concentrated on your "dream" versus reality.

Good luck ... it is tough.

It took me a full 5 years to get over a 15 year marriage, the last 10 of which were pure agony in every way shape and form, the only nastiness missing from that period being an actual physical attack - so there was actual relief when we separated, so much relief that my health immediately improved, greatly improved. Clinically I would have guessed it would take me a year to get over the marriage since the situation was so bad for so long ... but it took 5 years. Sometimes brain chemistry just doesn't want to cooperate with the logical side of the brain.

AC 1359758, what a wonderful post you give, very helpful. I will save it & read it everytime I feel down also will try to incorporate in my daily life so I can forget him.

So many good advice here :)
Raxx -- thanks for ur support
Mothball -- I'll be thinking a lot pondering about your advice, on asset & liability.

I'm trying to forget him. Its a daily process. It's been a month. Sometimes I'm still sad. Must be strong.

hit your head hard and erase it all.

Thank you AC, I really like the advice. I need to open my heart again.

You will never get over it!!! muahahaha...