Becoming A First Time Father...Concerned, Need Advice!

Don't worry about getting married before the baby arrives, you already have enough on your plate. The most important thing is keeping mom healthy and keeping stress levels low so she carries the baby to term with no medical issues for her or the fetus. Getting your nest stabilized for the addition to the family is a priority and it sounds like you are doing that. You have already committed to the marriage so that can wait. Once the baby arrives and you get used to the difficult yet rewarding task of being parents, then you can discuss a wedding and plan it properly.

Besides - No bride wants to be 8 months pregnant in a wedding dress.

Duly NOTED...but keep in mind ONE VERY VERY VERY IMPORTANT thing....NO ONE KNOWS EVERYTHING....but we ALL are EVERYTHING...SO....i will believe that WE NEW PARENTS have to learn from the FOUNDERS of this country....and MAKE SOVEREIGN NATIONS out of our kids SO RATHER THAN having LOGIC entrap their perception, we explain perception as a form of reality and LOGIC as the tool to shift thru the excess and get what you need with out judgement or reward. Rather Gratitude for benevolence and Forgiveness for infringement. LET THEM KNOW that its FINE NOT TO HAVE AN ANSWER but that they should be wary of FEAR. Especially that which is NOT INBORN...but presented.
A Balanced learning system is VITAL...especially those FEELINGS that are innate warning systems and not meant to injure or cause pain but misused mis explained and perpetually misinterpreted.


OP thank you again for your words and for opening the doorway to fill the empty holes of conscious parenting in my brain. Be well and be happy.

Thankyou for this piece of advice, no vaccines, unless absolutely necessary.



Thankyou, I think the best option would be to get married once everything settles down. As Sandi has said, it shouldn't matter if baby is born out of wedlock (it will still play on my mind though).

Last Edited by Project: Awareness on 05/03/2011 01:44 PM

My Ffriend,

first of, congrats.

Second, do not worry! If you are a good dad, your child will be safe.

Research what they want to put into the little one, and do not allow it.

Honour and protect the gift that you have been given,.

I am speaking as a father of three also.

Best Wishes to you and yours

Thankyou for your explaination, but don't worry, I don't blindly follow anything... I'm a very logical person but venture into metaphysics for balance. I'm curious to know how you perceive the world (your philosophies) if you could elaborate on this I would be most grateful...

Because I'm against christianity. It's an exceptionally unpopular stance that I take, which is extremely against christianity. I am certain that its purpose is control, oppression, and spiritual suppression.

Actually, I'll go a step further, and say that I believe it exploits the longing we all have for the True God and distorts it into separation and fear through terrorism tactics.

These stances are met by christians with general rage and claims that I am "hateful" and of course demon possessed. One even wants to kill me, because in his words, I'm not even a human being--not the same species as humans.

IMO, that just shows how deep and strong the programming becomes once you choose to say the words that allow for the subconscious expression of "possession" by the "jesus".

Thankyou, I'm so excited, I want to tell the world, lol. My main focus (other than the obvious) will be to research, what they want to put into my baby and staying vigilant.

Well OP, if you are asking me..i will tell you something my mom always said.
NEVER FAILED ME altho i have failed IT...by thinking I KNOW SOMETHING..

YOUR BRAIN KNOWS EVERYTHING ALREADY...but your conscience has to find a way to what you are looking for. The map in your brain and your heart will show you what you NEED to know. Listen attentively and remember that you will never KNOW anything because everything is ALWAYS changing.

Mother's milk, like cow's milk, would seem to concentrate radiation. Nevertheless it's the best thing for the baby. The most important stage has already passed: the baby's genetics are set, your fetus is growing.

Most of the work is the normal stuff of pregnancy. In addition, wash vegetables thoroughly. I know you've been warned off leafy vegetables, but I think they should be OK (and they are very nutritious for mother and baby) if you wash the leaves thoroughly, with vegetable wash. What you have to worry about is radioactive particles, and vegetable wash is a type of soap that should allow you to do a thorough job of cleaning the leaves.

I would avoid cow's milk. Aged cheese, that started aging before 3/11/11, is safe radiation-wise. That's a safe way to consume dairy.

I have three children. Two are adults and one in his late teens. Treasure your time with the baby when they are born, as the time goes so fast and then they are grown up and are living their own lives.

Look after the mother and your unborn baby. Do you have a garden, growing your own food is healthier and saves you money. My kids were all breastfed, they had fresh vege from the garden that was home cooked not in a can. They didn't have salt till they were about two years old.

The mum needs good fresh organic food, filtered fresh water and plenty of rest. Natural remedies, aroma therapy are best, but her obstetrician will prescribe the usual folic acid and iron.

Fear will stop you from living a relaxed, secure, happy life.
Enjoy life and that of your family.

Sandi, you seem like such a well rounded individual. I also believe christianity has been infiltrated, with the same fears that you show.

What fascinates me is the hate that seems to pour out of (some) Christians, I mean to want to kill you for your beliefs is just plain wrong! (under any God). And I don't believe any True Christian would behave this way, this seems more like a tactic to take others minds away from true Christianity.

Religion has been the hardest problem for me to work out. I can understand quantum mechanics, but can't get my head around religion. I have toyed with the gnostic version (God=Devil, Devil=God, we are trapped in reality), but my conclusions always come back to the same starting point. Looking at the big picture there has been a conscious attack on true Christianity for many years, almost like the grand deception is to taint Christianity so much that no logical person would ever follow it.

For example, so called contactees (I believe aliens/UFO could be demonic) channel aliens just like you would channel a spirit. Also these aliens always preach new age philosophies and reject Christianity (and only Christianity). Why would any advanced being travel light years or interdimentonaly, just to teach 'New Age' beliefs and reject only Christianity, why not reject the teachings of Buddha or Mohammed?? Also these so-called aliens can walk through solid walls, just like spirits. These Aliens seem to be very deceptive in nature. When asked (via channelling) where they come from (aliens), in the 50's/60's, they said they was from Mars or Venus, which we now know to be incorrect, now they state they are from a far away star system like Zeta Reticuli or the constellation Orion, where we can't test these claims. This is leading me to believe that they is a grand deception going on...

Anyways, back on topic!

Last Edited by Project: Awareness on 05/04/2011 05:16 AM

Oh yes, you can refuse vaccinations. Nurses may give you a hard time about this, doctors probably less so because they understand it better.

And when it's time to enroll the kids in school, they don't need vaccinations if you have a religious exemption, which I believe is available in every state. You don't need to know the details about exemptions yet, only that if you refuse vaccinations now, you can apply for exemption later to follow through.

Yup
We refused vaccinations and received the religious exemption form in the mail, signed and sealed.

Thankyou, all is taken on-board, it's input like this (on this thread) that gives me hope for humanity!



Thankyou for your advice, unfortunately (or fortunately) I live in Britain (UK), so we don't have anything like 'religious exemption', Britain is the epicenter for the NWO...

There are no perfect parents. It's not about perfection. Most of the work is done for us by the miracles of biology, invented I'm sure by a great Creator. We just have to add ingredients, clean messes and respond to the occasional emergency.

Hang on, it's a wild ride!

Always guide your child morally towards heaven and you will live a fullfilled life. God Bless and you will be a terrific Dad!

Wellcome in slavery.

Thankyou for your kind words, although I'm still coming to terms with the whole religious concept...

A few strange things have occuried to us over the past month or two, first we was told we couldn't have kids, then her mother said, she had a dream in which my partner was pregnant. Which we laughed off, only to find out she was correct.

The night before we found out, I praised God (and I'm not religious) for an epiphany I had just had (I have never praised God before). The next day my partner told me about the 'magic' (pregnant) and we recieved a bible through the post, with my name and address on... spooky!!

Lastly my partner has dreamt the baby had two heads, which I have interpreted as being twins or a split personality.



Or liberation, depending on how you look at it...

Last Edited by Project: Awareness on 05/03/2011 02:51 PM

Excellent advise, remember to let them be kids,let them have a happy childhood.
I am reliving fatherhood through my granddaughter and loving it. Easier this time around.

How do you figure? What is the purpose of life for any given species?

To procreate and ensure survival of the species.
You pass on a strain of your unique DNA.
This is why we have childhood and adulthood.
A time to play and a time to work.
Granted it takes a lot of work but that's what it takes to raise a productive member of society who will in turn procreate and continue the strain.

Thankyou, I think that is important, let kids be kids.

Spreading the virus?? You think the Human race is a virus! Really, well that has to include yourself (unless your not human). I guess your a supporter of depopulation??

As for more mouths to feed, I'll look after mine, you look after yours, ok and we shall all get along just fine!

Congratulations Daddy!!

There is no manual available for parenthood, relax take your time with your loved ones. Time is precious when your have kids, they grow up so fast, don't waste one moment!

Welcome to parenthood!

Thankyou, you are so right, I will not waste any time with my loved ones. I can't wait, I'm so excited, I'm like a child waiting for Christmas!!

I have been researching alittle about Vitamin D during pregnancy and I have to say, there's a wealth of conflicting evidence out there. Here is a study that doesn't support Vitamin D deficiency, revised 10 February 2011.


Systematic review of first trimester vitamin D normative levels and outcomes of pregnancy

Objective:
We undertook a systematic review to assess normative levels of vitamin D in early pregnancy and association with subsequent pregnancy outcomes.

Study design:
Medline, Embase databases and reference lists were searched. Inclusion criteria were pregnant populations, blood sample taken during first trimester and serum hydroxyvitamin D levels assessed.

Results:
Eighteen studies reported vitamin D levels in first trimester (n=11-3730), and five examined pregnancy outcomes. Mean vitamin D concentrations differed when stratified by ethnicity; Caucasian (mean(SD): 29.4(11.7)– 73.1(27.1) nmol/L) and non-Caucasian (15.2(12.1)– 43(12) nmol/L). Most studies used general population cut-points to define deficiency and found a large proportion of women ‘deficient’. Two articles examined risk of preeclampsia and reported differing findings, while two of three found low levels associated with increased risk of small-for-gestational age births.

Conclusion:
There is no clear definition of vitamin D deficiency in pregnancy and insufficient evidence to suggest low vitamin D levels in early pregnancy are associated with adverse pregnancy outcomes.
[link to www.sciencedirect.com]


The main reason (that I have found so far) why there is alot conflicting evidence about Vitamin D deficiency is due to MONEY.


I can't really complain. First, this is America and I suspect the quickest way to treat the massive vitamin D deficiency pandemic is going to be through private industry, like it or not. Second, it is possible one of the vitamin D knockoff drugs will actually work better than vitamin D; "possible" I said. Third, I get royalties on my own brand of vitamin D so I have my own conflicts of interest.
[link to www.naturalnews.com]


Vitamin D deficiency during pregnancy is a very real concern, but there is more evidence to support the need for at least 4,000 IU Vitamin D a day, then against it. The only problem I now have is whether Vitamin D supplements should be used at all. Here is a paper that supports and recommends Vitamin D supplements.


High-dose vitamin D3 supplementation in a cohort of breastfeeding mothers and their infants: a 6-month follow-up pilot study.

OBJECTIVE:
To examine the effect of high-dose maternal vitamin D(3) (vitD) supplementation on the nutritional vitD status of breastfeeding (BF) women and their infants compared with maternal and infant controls receiving 400 and 300 IU vitD/day, respectively.

DESIGN:
Fully lactating women (n = 19) were enrolled at 1-month postpartum into a randomized- control pilot trial. Each mother received one of two treatments for a 6-month study period: 0 or 6000 IU vitD(3) plus a prenatal vitamin containing 400 IU vitD(3). The infants of mothers assigned to the control group received 300 IU vitD(3)/day; those infants of mothers in the high-dose group received 0 IU (placebo). Maternal serum and milk vitD and 25(OH)D were measured at baseline then monthly; infant serum vitD and 25(OH)D were measured at baseline, and months 4 and 7. Urinary calcium/creatinine ratios were measured monthly in both mothers and infants. Dietary and BF history and outdoor activity questionnaires were completed at each visit. Changes in skin pigmentation were measured by spectrophotometry. Data were analyzed using chi-square, t-test, and analysis of variance (ANOVA) on an intent-to-treat basis.

RESULTS:
High-dose (6400 IU/day) vitD(3) safely and significantly increased maternal circulating 25(OH)D and vitD from baseline compared to controls (p < 0.0028 and 0.0043, respectively). Mean milk antirachitic activity of mothers receiving 400 IU vitD/day decreased to a nadir of 45.6 at visit four and varied little during the study period (45.6-78.6 IU/L), whereas the mean activity in the 6400 IU/day group increased from 82 to 873 IU/L (p < 0.0003). There were no differences in circulating 25(OH)D levels of infants supplemented with oral vitD versus infants whose only source of vitD was breast milk.

CONCLUSION:
With limited sun exposure, an intake of 400 IU/day vitamin D(3) did not sustain circulating maternal 25(OH)D levels, and thus, supplied only extremely limited amounts of vitamin D to the nursing infant via breast milk. Infant levels achieved exclusively through maternal supplementation were equivalent to levels in infants who received oral vitamin D supplementation. Thus, a maternal intake of 6400 IU/day vitamin D elevated circulating 25(OH)D in both mother and nursing infant.
[link to www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov]


My concern with this study is that, as I have posted earlier, they get royalties for selling their own brand of vitamin D supplements. This leads me to believe that money is their drive, so these supplements cannot be trusted. Vitamin D deficiency is alot higher where I live (UK), due to the lack of sun, especially in winter and spring.

After alittle digging around I have found 'other' ways to keep your Vitamin D levels up. There are two natural ways you can get vitamin D...

* Your body makes vitamin D in response to sunlight.
* You can get vitamin D from your food and drink.

Our main source of vitamin D is that made by our own bodies. 90% of our vitamin D is made in the skin with the help of sunlight.

Ultraviolet B (UVB) sunlight rays convert cholesterol in the skin into vitamin D. Darker skins need more sun to get the same amount of vitamin D as a fair-skinned person. The sunlight needed has to fall directly on to bare skin (through a window is not enough). 2-3 exposures of sunlight per week in the summer months (April to September) are enough to achieve healthy vitamin D levels that last through the year. Each episode should be 20-30 minutes to bare arms and face. This is not the same as suntanning; the skin simply needs to be exposed to sunlight.

Good sources of vitamin D in food include: oily fish such as salmon, mackerel and sardines, and foods fortified with vitamin D such as margarine and some breakfast cereals. Red meat and egg yolk also provide a little vitamin D.

I'm still researching this topic, so my conculsions on supplements arn't final!!

These are quotes from another thread which talks about the links between certain vaccines and Autism.

Law school links Vaccines to Autism










Thread: On FOX NEWS right now: Law school links Vaccines to Autism

This thread does contain some checkable links but not alot unfortunately...

[link to autism.about.com] - Law school links Vaccines to Autism.

[link to www.acttodayformilitaryfamilies.org] - Autism rate in the Military.

[link to www.vitamindcouncil.org] - Vitamin D deficiency a root cause for autism?

[link to www.vitamindcouncil.org] - Similarities between Autism and Schizophrenia.

[link to www.whale.to] - Amish who don't vaccinate don't get Autism.

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First scan today... can't wait...