Long Distance Relationship

The trick is to keep breathing.

some say absence makes the heart grow stronger, but can also make the heart to wander..........jus sayin

Long Distance Relationships Will Kill You.....

depends on whether or not it started long distance and if there are plans to shorten the distance....

they CAN work, but they take a lot of work, guess the question is...how much is it worth to you and how much work are you willing to put in?

Dang, getting heavy. Not a bad tune up there.
There is also a big age gap in this case 20+ years.

I've been in a LDR for the last 3 years and couldn't be happier. She's moving out here this August and we're getting married next year. They're difficult, but it makes the whole no sex till marriage thing a lot easier. Oh and you save money better since you're not always out wining and dining. It really comes down to personal preference and what you're comfortable with. They're not for everyone.

I ended a long long distance relationship (9 years) 3 months ago with an Indonesian girl. Well, she did. She wasn't getting her money....

At the end, it was just about money, but I caught her lying (and some other ugly things), so I kept the money to myself.

It might work, if both parties are honest with each other. We'd probably be married if she wasn't dishonest.

Now I want to stay single. I don't trust women anymore.

You can not have a long distance relationship it is bullshit made up by mental people.

Absence does not make the heart grow fonder. It does sow plenty seeds for resentment.

In my opinion no one should have a long distance relationship.

Yes I know, there are those who marry a spouse and then that spouse has to work away from the home (say military) this is not the same thing as entering into a relationship with some one from New York City when you live in Los Angeles.

Unless you are willing to drop your life and move there is no sense in getting involved with a person who is not in your local area for daily/weekly tussles in the sack or the more mundane dining, dancing and theater going.

The telephone/internet/instant message thing is not good enough. We humans evolved with one to one, face to face interactions and rely heavily on body language, touch and other interpersonal contact in order to feel good about our relationship (even if the relationship is crappy).

Without these things, love dims and dies.

"but it makes the whole no sex till marriage thing a lot easier."



Just love how you phrased this a "thing"...lol

Good Luck and have a wonderful life together.

Are steps being taken to live together at some point?

If not, it's not really a relationship. More of a romantic correspondence. Also 20 years is a lot of years.

Thank you. Very thoughtful response. As you say, the telephone/internet/im thing doesn't seem to be cutting it. We have gotten together briefly every couple of months. We have had some great times, but I do feel resentment building.

It's got a mind of its own, it really does. After 6 monts of separation, it's so difficult to not do it. But then you think about how much more difficult it would be to be separated after that act and it makes more sense to wait.

Thanks for the positive thoughts friend. They're greatly appreciated.

Well, if you're sure the thrill is gone... as far as the age thing, isn't it hard to tell from that distance? I think you're torturing yourself, which is what most of us do best... do you like her? Does she make you happy, even long distance? So...? That's what I say.

I definitely like her. When we are together we are happy. We are quite far apart. Not quite NY to LA, but a good ways away 10 hrs. Can't really afford to run over there too often. Usually when I do it puts a big strain on me in another way. Yeah, there is a bit of self torture there. Not intending to hurt her, but eventually you have to do what is sustainable.

We talked about it, but I have a good job and her situation is unstable. I've been through scramblin and I ain't gonna do when the economy is the way it is, so I'm staying.

Spending a few days once is a while is more than enough!

I'm in one myself... I've known him for about three and a half years, and we've been together for over two now... and it's the best relationship I've ever had. We've never fought, we have a lot in common, and... I guess we're just a good match for each other. We've met each other twice in person so far and it went very well. So, LDRs can go well if you find the right person. I think they have as much of a chance of failing as any other kind of relationship. A lot of why they fail is a lack of communication... I'm not saying you have to talk to someone 24/7, but having that kind of connection is necessary. Too many couples rely on physical activities rather than talking, which is probably why LDRs tend to fail for a lot of people. But yeah, totally worth it when you find someone you really like.

PS: Hey babe. ;D Lol.

Sounds like you've had experience.

i honestly think a long distance relationship has ruined my life. dont torture yourself. break up now, and if it is supposed to be, you will find each other again.

Again the word torture. It feels like it. Thanks for the thought. Could be any moment.

yes it is now

Both GLP´ers I guess. (Awgawd!)
Did you guy meet here?

I'm involved in a long distance relationship of sorts myself right now too, and it's tough. I'm still sort of waiting for her to allow herself to take the chance, known her about a year. Trying to figure out how I feel too, being apart is not easy no matter how much you talk.

How far apart are you? That's sort of important I think. If you're closer it'd be easier than if you were farther away. Like the girl I know is just the next state over so it's not too bad.

Can you handle the distance though? You need to ask yourself that, do you care about her enough to want to make it work no matter what? How much are you willing to invest in her?

The age thing is something as well, do you think that could be an issue going forward? Might wanna give that some consideration as well.

Good luck in any case though.

Thank you friend. It is several states apart and she is significantly older. There are many things adding up...

Just think long and hard about what you are getting into before you decide anything.

You mention the torture here, how has it been, apart from the being apart? Do you get along well enough?

The word long distance and relationship is an oxymoron!

Is this GLP or fucking letters to Lorna. Why don't you fucing crybabys with your relationship problems take them to fucking Dear Abby or some shit.

LDR is the stupidest fucking thing ever, especially if you meet the person online.