Wife is pregnant, but I had a vasectomy over 10 years ago.

She actually said "Miracle Baby"?

First...get a home pregnany tes nd have her do it while you watch. Confirm that she actually is pregnant first.

If she is, then you can get checked if you think you may have swimmers that breached the dam.

If she's not pregnant, it could be menopause hormones or parasites.

If she is pregnant and swears she didn't cheat, you could do lie detector test and see if she passes. If she does pass and didn't cheat and you didn't get her pregnant, then she's probably an alien abductee.

It took her two months to come up with the miracle baby story?

She is hiding something.



Sorry.

Please listen to me!!
I was recently thinking about a very similar scenario (for psychology) and how I would feel going through it as a woman. IMHO don't speak with her about your doubts, if the child is yours that would cause a different world of shit. Support her throughout her pregnancy and after the birth, privately, get a DNA test with the child on your own. Don't let her know about the DNA test, ever, unless it's not yours. If the child isn't yours and you are man enough stay with her, it's not worth throwing away your life for a small case of the seven year itch (or in your case the 19 year itch.) I wish you luck in your marriage and with the new baby, take care and remember your love for one another and the good times.

100% she cheated... all signs point to the obvious...

snap out of it..

she made her bed, and now she has to lay in it

I agree with the OP's intention of having her undergo an abortion if it's not his baby.

OP must protect his own genes, he cannot divert resources to provide for the son of another male.

Err...he doesnt have any resources or genes left....so what is he protecting...his finances? He could look upon it as charity.....to his wife for making her be childless in her later years.

And at any time in the future...he can leave. Maybe...just maybe....he might actually like the baby and his newfound usefulness to another being.

So...19 years of being faithful means nothing. Surely a slut or cheater needs to do that over many years before being labelled? No cudos for being a really good wife for 2 decades. Now that sucks.

You could start by getting your sperm tested. See if some swimmers are excaping.

My husband just went in for testing after his vasectomy. He was super relieved it worked.

understand that this is very hard for me. i made my vows and one of those vows was through good times and bad. I also promised her father on his death bed that i would take good care of his daughter and that it was ok for him to go.

I always envisioned my wife as my life partner. i dont want anybody else. this is tough.

I've been married to my wife for 19 years. We have two wonderful twin sons both in College. After my boys were born My wife was afraid to get her tubes tied so I got snipped for her. Since then things had been great. Our sex life was great and our friends were always jealous of how we managed to keep our marriage fresh and new.My wife is a wonderful mother and up till now a wonderful woman. Within the last few months my wife changed.She has been harping on me to change things about myself. Suddenly everything she accepted about me she hates. She hates my love for rock music, she hates my hair cut (the best mullet of all time) She hates my bushman beard, she hates the way I dress, the way I sneeze and latley even the way I rub her neck. She went through a little mid life crisis recently, by going out alot with her girl friends, going on trips and over spending. I love her and paid her debts off. I trusted her but occasionally i'd check her emails and phone texts when we was out of the room. Found nothing. She sits me down Tonight and tells me we are having a miracle baby and that she's been pregnant for 2 months. The look on her face was of sheer happiness and delight. I copied her gestures when she told me the news but deep down inside i'm tormented. I don't understand how we could have sex for 15 years with no oopsies and now suddenly we are pregnant? There are three possabilaties here. Either my sperm still swims and one got loose, she is the virgin fucking mary, or she cheated. I dont want to pi$$ her off by asking for a paternity test but I dont want to go through child rearing again. If this isn't my child I want her to terminate the pregnancy so we can work on things. If this is my child I'll be a man and raise another great human. How do I approach her on my feelings without having her go ape shit on me?

So...19 years of being faithful means nothing. Surely a slut or cheater needs to do that over many years before being labelled? No cudos for being a really good wife for 2 decades. Now that sucks.

You didn't respond to my post so I'm posting it again.

Vasectomies DO NOT FAIL. The vas deferens is CUT and CAUTERIZED! Someone or something would have to un-do what was done. That's quite a convenient answer from Dr's. Of course it's much easier than them telling you the truth.

The Greys are behind cases like these. It would be your child because it would have your DNA.


In any case Step #1 is still...pregnancy test.

She actually said "Miracle Baby"?

So...19 years of being faithful means nothing. Surely a slut or cheater needs to do that over many years before being labelled? No cudos for being a really good wife for 2 decades. Now that sucks.