Get married and have kids, i don't think so.

I would give almost anything to be married with kids.

good 4 u!!

then chop off your dick, cause that is the only reason god put it there, was for you to have kids with it.

It depends on why you think like that.
I want to fall in love and revere my man and I haven't found one.
Also when you meet a prospective partner always ask yourself what will they teach my children?
If the answer is not much, they will bring food to table or some silly nonsense like that...don't have kids.

I hear you OP. I wouldnt bring kids into this CIRCUS right now either! No way, not with all the uncertainity in the world.

I thought the same thing. Then I started to get old. Then I realized I didn't want to be alone in a government run nursing facility at an old age.

and so what if it's selfish to bring kids into the world. as if the world has ever been safe. it's been a circus since the beginning of our existence and we have grown and survived like a damn plague all this time.

Im a father of 3 boys. Best thing I ever did. It has not been easy with having to take a new job with much less pay, but we find stuff to do free of charge and are spending more time together.

Have them or don't, that's a personal decision. But as for me, I'm so glad I got to bring life into this world and share it with them. I think they're glad to be alive as well.

If you cant enjoy it by being to self centered, then its probably not a good idea for you to have kids. Having kids requires you to give up self.

The three greatest experiences in this life:

1. finding Jesus
2. falling in love and getting married
3. having kids

i pray you find your way safely in these difficult days.

just get a vasectomy .. end of story.

Having a child and being married can be tough, but it is also very rewarding. If you are young then of course you are not ready yet. As you start to get older, your priorities can change.

It's what it's really all about.

Anything that you can think of that's more productive is purely an invention in your mind. Career, religion, hobbies, all of it is just stuff that we make up.

The only ACTUAL purpose that you serve in this planet is to spread life.

That's the point to the family unit and it's why its the only thing we share in common with all the other animals of the world. Children are lowest common denominator of the continuation of life.

I'm not harming on you for your decision, just giving you some perspective.

Meant harping not harming...stupid phone.

O I get it, just like me you just came to Earth as a 'sightseeer' not interfering with local life and refrain from creating offspring.

Well I did marry but refused to create kids. I do not want my offspring here on Earth. I do not partake in the role of the creation process and will fade away into nothingness with nothing left here on Earth to show. I truly am a useless eater and enjoying every second of it..just to piss off tptw.

I hear ya. I am 36 y.o., never married and no children.
I have always had this thing with marriage. With the exception of one aunt and uncle, every single person I know that has gotten married, has gotten divorced. My father is on his 7th (yes 7th) marriage. It seems that the vows taken at a wedding doesn't mean anything anymore. I would want them to mean something to me...and to keep them. That is why I have never married. Not wanting to marry has cost me one good woman in the past. Now having another good woman who feels somewhat the same way makes it easier.

Children....I have a hard enough time taking care of myself.
I have never planned on having kids, or even wanted them. However, if God wants me to be a father, then I will be a father. If I got my g.f. pregnant, I would be happy to accept the responsibility, but I am not aiming for it.

If I ever were to marry...I would totally elope. Weddings today seem more about the glamour of it all....and materialism, and tax breaks. Its just a big public show that can be very expensive. To elope would be just my bride to be and myself, taking these vows together under God in some small ceremony. I think the "wedding" would then have more of a personal, and intimate feeling and mean much more to both of us.

But remember...marriage is the leading cause of divorce. lol

I hear ya. I am 36 y.o., never married and no children.
I have always had this thing with marriage. With the exception of one aunt and uncle, every single person I know that has gotten married, has gotten divorced. My father is on his 7th (yes 7th) marriage. It seems that the vows taken at a wedding doesn't mean anything anymore. I would want them to mean something to me...and to keep them. That is why I have never married. Not wanting to marry has cost me one good woman in the past. Now having another good woman who feels somewhat the same way makes it easier.

Children....I have a hard enough time taking care of myself.
I have never planned on having kids, or even wanted them. However, if God wants me to be a father, then I will be a father. If I got my g.f. pregnant, I would be happy to accept the responsibility, but I am not aiming for it.

If I ever were to marry...I would totally elope. Weddings today seem more about the glamour of it all....and materialism, and tax breaks. Its just a big public show that can be very expensive. To elope would be just my bride to be and myself, taking these vows together under God in some small ceremony. I think the "wedding" would then have more of a personal, and intimate feeling and mean much more to both of us.

But remember...marriage is the leading cause of divorce. lol

how could you possibly say what the best experiences in life are without having had every possible experience?

Social norm?

Procreation is part of being an animal on this planet. You don't need to get married, but if you don't have children remember this - you are not passing on your DNA, thousands of years of genetic traits and hundreds of generations will terminate with you.


Make some babies!

I love my wife and three kids with all my heart. I can't imagine a life without them to be honest. This may seem weird, but if I had to make the decision again I would probably not do it. I gave into the social norm and got married at 25 and then started having kids shortly there after. Of course, when I made that decsion back then the world was a different place and things(future) seemed brighter than it does now. I almost feel guilty bringing children into this f-cked up world that seems to get worse by the day. Hopefully, I'm wrong and our best days are ahead of us.

It may be your 3 children that prove to be part of the solution to todays problems. Our generations hearts are hardened and choose to not change. May your children be not this way and make the world the place we know it should be.

This was the time i bought my first shot gun.

Don't do it seriously it never works out how you plan you could achieve and do so much more and see more without kids and a spouse.
Celebrate life enjoy it like its your last day on it forget about pets wives kids forget it all and enjoy it.

Skydiving is the greatest possible experience.

Thanks for the encouraging words! I sure hope so! I've tried to raise them the right way and have empathy towards others. This society we live in now seems to fight this every step of the way.

Getting married (to the right woman) and having kids, is one of the greatest things a man can ever experience. But with your attitude I would spare the females out there and just keep to yourself. You don't sound like you would be a very good partner at this stage in your mental development.

i am on same boat and you are correct OP.Most of the people on this board boasting about their children know that their children will never be there once they grow up.No children visits old people in nursing homes.
your decision is absolutely correct

Maybe in India they don't.

I want nothing more than to be married, but I would kill myself before inflicting this world on someone else.