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WeRdOOmed User ID: 1478957 United States 07/25/2011 03:32 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | The whole story: [link to www.redbookmag.com] Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1437659I think this has a lot to do with it. Parents have their fantasy expectations and project them onto the child. Instead of letting the child be who they are. it's like women that envision their wedding and want that. The kid with blue eyes, the extrovert, etc. Instead of fighting the kid, try to fucking help them I am not talking about mental illness. It got to the point where I viewed Sophie's every move through a lens of failure. At a birthday party, when she walked away from the parachute game the other kids were playing, I said, "There she goes again, being antisocial." But another mom said, "Sophie's doing her own thing. She wants no part of that dumb parachute. Smart girl." I thought, Whoa! I would never have seen it that way. To me, she was trapped in her own strange world, driven by her own mysterious motivations, and hopelessly incapable of being normal. I knew I was being hard on her, but I couldn't seem to stop. Read more: I Don't Like My Child - A Mother Struggles With Her Child's Growth Hormone Deficiency - Redbook kids are a freaken pain in the ass..... but its part of life.... |
Ceres User ID: 1477280 Canada 07/25/2011 03:33 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I believe having children are a privledge. Not to be taken lightly. If you don't have the wisdom to comprehend what your getting yourself into- with all the uncertainty that it entails- then don't. They are not pets. They are not here in this life to earn your love- which should be unconditional. They are not pawns to be played with in silly adult ego games. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1481701 United States 07/25/2011 03:37 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This thread couldn't be more timely. I had a gathering today. Hosted friends and family. We have the big house so we're always the ones to host. We also have the only kids in the family so everyone takes for granted I want to share my children with them and they expect to be here for every birthday and holiday. I essentially never get to be alone with my husband and children during celebrations or momentous events. That wouldn't be so bad except with my husband's parents and siblings, and my parents and siblings, it is constant drama. Adults behaving in highly dysfunctional ways. It is exhausting. Anyway, I told my kids today they are my favorite people besides my husband. I meant it. To the lady who lost a quarter of a mil to her kid... You are a sad POS. You'll refuse to see it though, because then you'd have to admit you're a selfish and shitty mother who did a lousy job growing a child. Having children isn't for sissies, and that's for damn sure. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1468613 Australia 07/25/2011 03:42 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I have 3 and I love them dearly and I'm sure they love me, but if you ask them I'm just as sure they would say that I suck sometimes too. If you want active questioning minds, free thinkers and explorers then they will push the limits on occasions. It's all part of growing up and developing.Good times!. Best to try and keep a sense of humor, be patient, loving and consistent. Mean what you say and work together with your partner if possible. Greatest experience of my life and would not change it for the world! |
teacup User ID: 1457660 Australia 07/25/2011 03:50 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Kids are like heaven and hell all mixed together in one tiny bundle. Some days are horrible and others are great, but they do add alot of flavour to life, its never dull. I have 2, and I had them young which was a massive shock to me and I will admit I regretted it for a while but now I can look back and see how character builiding it has been for me. I'm very proud of them. To the mum with the autistic boy, hats off to you I would never have the patience to deal with that. |
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