I can only hope its stress but... today she called me on the way home from GA and asked me which road she needed to take. She goes up there every few months and has never had that problem before.

Then, my kid calls me and tells me that the reason the house was so hot was because the gas fireplace was on. Apparently it was on low and the thing goes on and off as it reaches temp. Anyway she was spraying bug spray and saw the flame, ever so low under the logs, so she turned it off.

My mom was there for a month, and it could have been on that entire time for all I know. She kept saying it was so hot there and she couldnt figure out how to work the thermostat, which is a basic arrow up or arrow down hot or cold type thermostat. Instead of asking the neighbor, who would have come over and done it, she suffered the entire month till my kid got there and turned it on.

I am not sure what to do, if I confront her about getting checked for it, she wont confide these incidents to me any more. She is suspicious of everyone, she will think I am trying to take away her freedoms. If I just monitor her, she could possibly hurt herself.

I would like to talk to my grandmother (her mom) about it since they live a few miles apart, but she is 94 (going on 64)and I dont want to put stress on her or worry her. I did say to her a few months ago that mom is getting so forgetful and she agreed, but I dont want her to be burdened with it either cause my mom can be pretty mean and nasty when she wants to be and my grandmother is a tenderheart.

Sounds nutty, but I am putting the question out to the universe tonight to guide me to the right path.