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*~*Why Is The US Divorce Rate So High*~*

 
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After reading a couple of other threads about the thoughts of one sex versing another, I have to wonder do we know why our marriages fail miserably so often in this country?

Is it because of money?

Are our expectations of one another are too high?

Do we not respect another persons right to be an individual in a marriage?

Have people become too selfish to sacrifice anything or too stubborn to compromise?

Too selfish to commit and work at it?

Or have people just flat out lost the ability to care ENOUGH for others?

This is not intended to be a bashing thread, just curious what other people's opinions are.
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People are to self absorbed!
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People don't want to put others first. Life is not a hayride, people get sick, they get depressed, they have accidents and loose limbs. People don't love, what they do is let the idiot box tell them they deserve better. No one deserves better.
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Thank you'll for your replies!

I also ask this question because of how divorces affect our children.

People are not growing up anymore with morals and accountability and wondering if this is due to our divorce rate or society in general?
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Social engineering in large part by television "programming"
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Apartment complexes, watering holes, proximity to new roosters and hens. The grass is always greener over there.
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After reading a couple of other threads about the thoughts of one sex versing another, I have to wonder do we know why our marriages fail miserably so often in this country?

Is it because of money?

Are our expectations of one another are too high?

Do we not respect another persons right to be an individual in a marriage?

Have people become too selfish to sacrifice anything or too stubborn to compromise?

Too selfish to commit and work at it?

Or have people just flat out lost the ability to care ENOUGH for others?

This is not intended to be a bashing thread, just curious what other people's opinions are.
 Quoting: DoodleBug


Money is the number one reason couples fight...second is the woman feels like she needs a change and that her problems are his fault...
I never forgive and I never forget

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Social engineering in large part by television "programming"
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Can you elaborate? In what way? On children or adults or both?
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After reading a couple of other threads about the thoughts of one sex versing another, I have to wonder do we know why our marriages fail miserably so often in this country?

Is it because of money?

Are our expectations of one another are too high?

Do we not respect another persons right to be an individual in a marriage?

Have people become too selfish to sacrifice anything or too stubborn to compromise?

Too selfish to commit and work at it?

Or have people just flat out lost the ability to care ENOUGH for others?

This is not intended to be a bashing thread, just curious what other people's opinions are.
 Quoting: DoodleBug


Money is the number one reason couples fight...second is the woman feels like she needs a change and that her problems are his fault...
 Quoting: BRIEF


Is this because we live beyond our means or ya think we're just never satisfied?
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After reading a couple of other threads about the thoughts of one sex versing another, I have to wonder do we know why our marriages fail miserably so often in this country?

Is it because of money?

Are our expectations of one another are too high?

Do we not respect another persons right to be an individual in a marriage?

Have people become too selfish to sacrifice anything or too stubborn to compromise?

Too selfish to commit and work at it?

Or have people just flat out lost the ability to care ENOUGH for others?

This is not intended to be a bashing thread, just curious what other people's opinions are.
 Quoting: DoodleBug


Money is the number one reason couples fight...second is the woman feels like she needs a change and that her problems are his fault...
 Quoting: BRIEF


Is this because we live beyond our means or ya think we're just never satisfied?
 Quoting: DoodleBug


Yes

People are impatient and selfish...they buy a house they can't afford, a car they can't pay for, and clothes and toys they don't need...then they argue and fight when reality hits.
I never forgive and I never forget

I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked.

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Your society is still too rich.

That is being taken care of right now...
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I have read that women file for divorce TWICE as much as men do.
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I have read that women file for divorce TWICE as much as men do.
 Quoting: DoodleBug


They need change!

Walk away wife syndrome, as explained by my lawyer...who has become a friend of mine...my ex left the kids and I two weeks before Christmas one year, that was a shitty Christmas let me tell ya...ever watch your children cry on Christmas? It sucks.
I never forgive and I never forget

I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked.

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I have read that women file for divorce TWICE as much as men do.
 Quoting: DoodleBug


They need change!

Walk away wife syndrome, as explained by my lawyer...who has become a friend of mine...my ex left the kids and I two weeks before Christmas one year, that was a shitty Christmas let me tell ya...ever watch your children cry on Christmas? It sucks.
 Quoting: BRIEF


A mother doesn't do that. The only way I could see is if she was in danger from the husband, and certainly she would take the kids.

I mean come on, is it so bad a person can't wait until after Christmas? It would still suck for the kids, but damn.
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I have read that women file for divorce TWICE as much as men do.
 Quoting: DoodleBug


They need change!

Walk away wife syndrome, as explained by my lawyer...who has become a friend of mine...my ex left the kids and I two weeks before Christmas one year, that was a shitty Christmas let me tell ya...ever watch your children cry on Christmas? It sucks.
 Quoting: BRIEF


A mother doesn't do that. The only way I could see is if she was in danger from the husband, and certainly she would take the kids.

I mean come on, is it so bad a person can't wait until after Christmas? It would still suck for the kids, but damn.
 Quoting: Storm*


Unfortunately I've seen a few of these and it is becoming more common.
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After reading a couple of other threads about the thoughts of one sex versing another, I have to wonder do we know why our marriages fail miserably so often in this country?

Is it because of money?

Are our expectations of one another are too high?

Do we not respect another persons right to be an individual in a marriage?

Have people become too selfish to sacrifice anything or too stubborn to compromise?

Too selfish to commit and work at it?

Or have people just flat out lost the ability to care ENOUGH for others?

This is not intended to be a bashing thread, just curious what other people's opinions are.
 Quoting: DoodleBug


All of the above PLUS some ... people have lost their perspective, therefore they themselves become lost and drifting ... no one wants to take responsibilty, no one wants to look at themselves ... it is so much easier to blame another. This is a huge mess we are in on every level.
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I have read that women file for divorce TWICE as much as men do.
 Quoting: DoodleBug


Maybe because...

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I have read that women file for divorce TWICE as much as men do.
 Quoting: DoodleBug


They need change!

Walk away wife syndrome, as explained by my lawyer...who has become a friend of mine...my ex left the kids and I two weeks before Christmas one year, that was a shitty Christmas let me tell ya...ever watch your children cry on Christmas? It sucks.
 Quoting: BRIEF


A mother doesn't do that. The only way I could see is if she was in danger from the husband, and certainly she would take the kids.

I mean come on, is it so bad a person can't wait until after Christmas? It would still suck for the kids, but damn.
 Quoting: Storm*


But I thought she enjoyed the daily beatings ;)
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Both men and women are raised as brats. The problem is that both are selfish. They don't know how to properly communicate to resolve and avoid issues.

This grows into mistrust. This just rolls over when their kids don't learn about respectful relationships. Rather the child is used as a way of hurting the other ex. The parents take turn spoiling the child to receive a larger share of love. Tada - A newly screwed up young adult.
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People don't want to put others first. Life is not a hayride, people get sick, they get depressed, they have accidents and loose limbs. People don't love, what they do is let the idiot box tell them they deserve better. No one deserves better.
 Quoting: atomic811


That pretty much sums up my impression of it all too.
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People don't want to put others first. Life is not a hayride, people get sick, they get depressed, they have accidents and loose limbs. People don't love, what they do is let the idiot box tell them they deserve better. No one deserves better.
 Quoting: atomic811


Better than what?

This is exactly what I'm trying to figure out.
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So many people are too selfish and self-absorbed. Our society is still basically very wealthy, and many people have simply grown up in comfortable, fairly privileged circumstance. When things don't work out perfectly like they frequently do on TV, in movies, people stress unduly, and don't know how to effectively deal.

Our society is also bombarded with a popular culture that says it's perfectly OK, just go to court, demand $, collect government benefits, etc., And the middle and lower classes are really just emulating the so-called upper classes, who traditionally have engaged in very selfish, spoiled, guilt-free behavior, and protected from the negative consequences by their wealth. We now have our whole society [by and large] behaving the way wealthy, privileged people have always behaved.

And make no mistake: for the past half century or more, so-called progressives [far left] have done everything they can to marginalize males and 'empower' females. Empowering females has often included 'having it all', children, no responsible husband, father,BF, don't worry, the government will give you $ and benefits.

I don't claim to be above all of this, either.

PS:

MANY 'poor' people have multiple kids out of wedlock, get married early [teens], get frequently divorced, etc., because for the female it's a way of 'holding' onto a man, getting government benefits, etc. And for the guy/boy, it's a part of a machismo culture. And of course we get many poor, 3rd world immigrants who behave the way they did in the poor, 3rd world country they came from. Pregnant at 15. married while still a teen, early 20s, etc.
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After reading a couple of other threads about the thoughts of one sex versing another, I have to wonder do we know why our marriages fail miserably so often in this country?

Is it because of money?

Are our expectations of one another are too high?

Do we not respect another persons right to be an individual in a marriage?

Have people become too selfish to sacrifice anything or too stubborn to compromise?

Too selfish to commit and work at it?

Or have people just flat out lost the ability to care ENOUGH for others?

This is not intended to be a bashing thread, just curious what other people's opinions are.
 Quoting: DoodleBug


Womens lib
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So many people are too selfish and self-absorbed. Our society is still basically very wealthy, and many people have simply grown up in comfortable, fairly privileged circumstance. When things don't work out perfectly like they frequently do on TV, in movies, people stress unduly, and don't know how to effectively deal.

Our society is also bombarded with a popular culture that says it's perfectly OK, just go to court, demand $, collect government benefits, etc., And the middle and lower classes are really just emulating the so-called upper classes, who traditionally have engaged in very selfish, spoiled, guilt-free behavior, and protected from the negative consequences by their wealth. We now have our whole society [by and large] behaving the way wealthy, privileged people have always behaved.

And make no mistake: for the past half century or more, so-called progressives [far left] have done everything they can to marginalize males and 'empower' females. Empowering females has often included 'having it all', children, no responsible husband, father,BF, don't worry, the government will give you $ and benefits.

I don't claim to be above all of this, either.

PS:

MANY 'poor' people have multiple kids out of wedlock, get married early [teens], get frequently divorced, etc., because for the female it's a way of 'holding' onto a man, getting government benefits, etc. And for the guy/boy, it's a part of a machismo culture. And of course we get many poor, 3rd world immigrants who behave the way they did in the poor, 3rd world country they came from. Pregnant at 15. married while still a teen, early 20s, etc.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1554566


So you think it's society, aka government, perpetuating this?
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The satanic controlled media drums into people heads mind controls them into believing its ok and you should do it at any cost before trying to fix things just get a divorce.
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After reading a couple of other threads about the thoughts of one sex versing another, I have to wonder do we know why our marriages fail miserably so often in this country?

Is it because of money?

Are our expectations of one another are too high?

Do we not respect another persons right to be an individual in a marriage?

Have people become too selfish to sacrifice anything or too stubborn to compromise?

Too selfish to commit and work at it?

Or have people just flat out lost the ability to care ENOUGH for others?

This is not intended to be a bashing thread, just curious what other people's opinions are.
 Quoting: DoodleBug


Womens lib
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The Walk away wife? How true! at least in the area I live in. People I work with, live on my street and people I know all have suffered from the walk away wife. In all cases there was no cheating and the marriage wasn't really bad. The women wanted change or something different.
But every cloud can have a silver lining if you make it happen. I now have more money and just paid off my house! I can't wait until that fateful day when my son mentions to her that dad's house is paid off. lol Loser!
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I think a huge wave of shallowness has engulfed popular culture. People affected by movie, TV, magazines, etc... get it in their heads that we have to be a certain way in order to be loved, or that someone else has to be a certain way in order to get our love.

Couple that with the fact that it has become so common place that someone remotely unhappy in a marriage looks about at everyone he/she knows divorcing and thinks, "Well, they did it, so can I."

Tossing someone to the curb is no longer frowned upon in our society because it happens too often. Everyone always has an excuse as to why they can't (or more likely won't) try to make the relationship work. Usually they are thinking something like "I deserve something better" in which they've completely ignored their part in the downfall of the relationship.

I'm not saying there aren't some very ligitimate reasons for divorce, like abuse for example, but on a whole it seems like this shallow me me me me culture it responsible for many of the throw-a-way marriages.
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I have read that women file for divorce TWICE as much as men do.
 Quoting: DoodleBug


They need change!

Walk away wife syndrome, as explained by my lawyer...who has become a friend of mine...my ex left the kids and I two weeks before Christmas one year, that was a shitty Christmas let me tell ya...ever watch your children cry on Christmas? It sucks.
 Quoting: BRIEF


Damn Brief, I feel your pain. I have been there.too_sad
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I'm afraid there won't be a dry eye in the house this Christmas.

I understand!

Somewhere on here though someone basically referred to you, Brief, as superman so you're obviously the exception here.
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