I will be getting hitched on the 29th of this month. (Oct. 29th) UPDATED!

When (if you havent already) you both learn to say "yes dear", it will make things easier for you both.

traditionally , she may need to say it in the bedroom...dont ask beyond her capabilities
and He will need to say it in the running of the house and home
Together they can say it regarding finances.

Lotsa luck Op, its an exciting time for you both..I wish you the very best...I also wish I had chosen better and learned my own damn rules

Advice?
BEWARE NIBIRU Marriagetard!

LOL I love you!

*raises paw*

I have a question.

Is she one of those, "This is my special day, and most important day, that I have waited my whole life for!" kind of people? If so, you may have issues to deal with down the road.
If not, grab her quick. Elope... TODAY!

Your wedding is indeed a special day, just not the end-all be-all of days, and if you both know that, you can work to make as many days of your lives just as special, only different.

When things get tough, love each other more.<--That is all the advice your really need, isn't it?

Good luck!

Thank you for the best wish's and I wish you the best otherwise! I'm sure it wasn't your fault anyway.

You,ll be sorryeeeee........

Actually No not at all, I know how it might seem that way from what I have said. But our wedding is going to be really modest and she is just fine with that. I did want to elope and she had no problem with that but her parents of course wanted to involved. So it was actually cheaper to have a traditional here for all our families to come and be apart of than to fly us and her parents and my parents to vegas. My decision!

Best advice ever...

Do not get a marriage license and make the state a 3rd party to your marriage.

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All the best to you and yours.

Really? This coming from Norway even?? I thought you guys had the pick of the litter when it comes to brides over there?? O wait....

ive let my mouth dig me in some holes. so never lash out in anger, they remember everything.she will have to come first and you may feel insignificant at times(because you will be)especially if you have kids. i dont mind becuase i love them and there needs always come first, but if you ever expect to be glorified for your sacrifices you may be disapointed. but if you really love your family you will continue to contribute every ounce you can to see them grow and prosper..thats all the reward i need weather they appreciate it or not is irrealavent. just realize you are handing your life over on a silver platter..to serve the needs of others.

sorry for bad spelling. guess my wife is right, im just a big dummy.

saved for later, and Thank You!!

That was some of the advice I was looking for, that kind of thinking comes from someone who knows what it is to really love. Thank you. Your family is blessed to have you!!

whiper to the left
whiper to the right
dont whiper to hard cuzer jeens are tight
woo hoo


good luck man.



Led Dis Spencer

Be good to her, treat her better than you expect or want to be treated yourself. Make sure she comes before you do-that works!

Do they really change after the I do's? To those that have been with their significants for a few years before the I do's.

AGREED

Another good one! Honestly my friend I try and maintain that philosophy to anyone I meet but especially when it comes to those that have to put up with me on a daily basis! But thanks for the reminder and I will do my best to keep this philosophy so thank you!!

ahh come on. Everyone should atleast give it a shot once....NO? How else can you know if it's for us or not??

lmao, been with the same grr for 15 years with sibs and we are good to go, prepped to.... good luck chuck

make sure you both realize nothing changes, marriage is not some magical thing that keeps you together no matter what you do ( or not do). Keep the same mind set as a longterm relationship , you have to work at it everyday. Make sure you both are honest about who you are before the vowels, cause some people act one way to get the other to like them then the ring comes on and they be them self and shit hit the fan.

Congrats! My advice, ask an eldery couple. Seriously! ;)

Thank you to this person! I have and will continue to ask, this is very important to me that this is permanant!

Wonderful! I wasn't assuming anything, just asking and offering advice.

As to more advice, perhaps you could rent one of those tearaway tuxedos that male strippers use. It could save you some time after the reception. :) She would probably get a laugh out of it too.

My best wishes to you both!

You have no idea man, really.

The one who said above that you will be insignificant at times hit the nail on the head.

Since you both have children, she will never make you number one EVER, no matter what she says. In return, you need to let her know that she will always hold the same spot she keeps you in. If you can never be number 1 in her heart, she doesn't deserve that spot in yours.

As for changing once the ring is on the finger... it WILL happen. Once she has a ring on her finger, she wins the prize. No need to keep acting.

Thanks! Same to ya!!

I'd get married again

as long as we didn't have to live together

congrats bud.

Don't worry about advice, it will come to you naturally. you'll feel it within yourself if you know you are connected souls. If you look at it from this perspective, you will have the compassion you need to make it work through the hard times. you don't just love this person, you are kindred souls.

I have always put the happiness of my son and my wife before mine. It is just the way I am. The only problem is if this is ever taken advantage of, you would know if this does happen, and, just have a heart based conversation with her if it does.

It is a lot of give and take, but it goes a lot deeper than just this is the chick I love...

CONGRATS AND BEST to you both now and in the future...

Lmfao you must live in my thoughts!! Honestly that was an amazing trick, cause I was honestly thinking of doing that very thing. You're awesome!!

support each others dreams!! Remeber she/he is alwsy your buddy pal best friend