Let me share with you folks my story with family members.

I have lived 12 years down south(USA) and not once have I received a visit from my second oldest brother(vietnam vet)who lives in New York.

I could't count how many times I helped him out after he came home fromr the war.I lived with him for nine months after my father died of lung cancer.My brother took it very hard and was emotionally unstabe for many months afterward.

My oldest brother and I have had a very good relationship(so I thought)over the years until one day I told him and his wife not to bother to come over my house one day on there last visit down south.They also live in N.Y.

Why did I do this you might ask?
Well in over 12 years of living here and them visiting evey year for 2 weeks (they stay at my sisters house 5 miles from me)never have they thought of coming over and having dinner with MY family at MY house or spending ONE night with us!!!!!

So it's been six months since their last visit and I haven't spoken to then since.They just don't get it.What about MY feelings?

My older sister is also blind to how SHE has allowed through her behavior(actions of hording them during their visits)to have this situation to fester with me over the years.


Someone in my family has the same problem, when family comes in they won't visit her. I can't tell her the trust, but she is ill and has a lot of cats and smokes and she is a hoarder . I feel sorry for her, but it's the truth.