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Anonymous Coward User ID: 1284302 United States 10/24/2011 04:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Sorry for your loss. Words fail before such sorrow, but prayers were said for you and him. Have suffered such loss, too...life will "get better" but it'll always be different and never quite the same. Grieve long and hard, but don't despair utterly |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1444651 United States 10/24/2011 04:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Please don't give up, Exiled. We don't know why things happen, but there is always a plan. Be there for your other son. I'm so sorry, but you know, we never die. He's up there and god bless him! And you too! Allow time and family and friends to heal the heartache. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 3940908 Turkey 10/24/2011 04:14 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Im so sorry to hear that :(( You know, anyone never dies. Only our body dies. Our spirits live forever. You will see him on your dreams. You will feel him everytime in your heart in your brain. Don'T worry you didn't lose him. just He has gone to the other dimension.at there everything is better than here. I understand you. You asking these questions "WHY NOW?" WHY in this wise? but don't worry. He feels better now. Don't suffer. You will stay in touch with him. Just believe and want. I hope you and your family feels better. Im sure of this, you will. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 1459925 United States 10/24/2011 04:16 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So sorry to hear this man. Dont know you, but as a parent I can only begin to comprehend your loss. I hope you and your family make it through this as best you can. Try to stay positive and know your memories are energy that will transcend time and space. Much love. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 317023 United States 10/24/2011 04:16 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I just don't know what to do. This isn't supposed to happen. Not this way... Quoting: exiled1 My son was killed in a car accident yesterday. It is so painful to type these words, but I know there are good people on here and I really need all the help I can get right now. One month away from his twentieth birthday, didn't even make it out of the teens...damnit it hurts, and I feel so bad for his brother, he has no other siblings. I really thought I was through with the loss, I thought I had no more to lose...never thought this would happen, never even entertained the thought. I really believed I was making a comeback and things were starting to get better. Why this, why now??? I just returned from picking out caskets for him, believe me there is nothing more heart breaking to have to do...I still can not believe this is really happening. Family have been here fortunately but times like this when I am alone, gets pretty rough. One minute I am fine, the next you get knocked over by an overwhelming sense of grief or something...it really is too much to handle, I don't know what to do. I just wish i could go back in time and stop it from happening somehow... I don't know what to say, but please, please just say a prayer for us...I really don't think I am coming back from this one....its hurts so damn bad knowing you will never see him again...He was my fishing buddy and we never made the time to go out this past summer. The missed moments are tearing me up right now, didn't know I could hurt this bad. i am usually tougher than this. I love you buddy Hi OP. I was always a kind, but "tough guy" too. My youngest son, Matthew, died in 1999 just after his 17th birthday. I was 43 at the time. In my prime...strong, feeling, like you, that all of the past losses were in the past. Then it changed suddenly. I suddenly didn't know where to go or what to do with myself. I found out what the term "grief stricken" really means. I couldn't stop crying. I hung around my home town for about 6 weeks and finally ended up walking away from everything and moving aboard an old boat near Baltimore. I cried on that boat pretty much non-stop for 6 months. It will get better....meaning, if you're crying a lot now, you won't cry every time you think about him or say his name. But I hope you do better than I've done with the grief. Man, it just never fully went away. I just never quite bounced back all the way. You'll be able to laugh again...some day. Just hang on to the idea that we all end up going 'home' someday. And that this little adventure really isn't very lengthy of a stretch so the 'home' time is probably much longer...like for eternity. For us, it will seem like a long time before we see our sons again. But I think to them, it will be like they walked through the door, turned around, and we come walking in right behind them. I really think it must be like that from their perspective. So the grief is ours, not theirs....they're fine, I'm sure. Anyway, as usual, when I hear something like this, my own pain returns and I cry just like that first day. I'm sorry....so sorry for your loss, friend. Hang tough and God be with you and your family. Mike |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 2493517 United States 10/24/2011 04:17 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Something good will come of this. Because its true and you have heard it so many times, it sounds like a cliche. God works in mysterious ways. Your son has touched somebody who will make a difference in this world. I sincerely believe God has a plan for each of us and your son's life, albeit short has achieved his task. The quiet moments are going to be the toughest so ask someone to stay over with you for a while. Stay busy, but take a moment to reflect each day. Each hour if need be. God be with you. |
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5moreminutesmom User ID: 1938126 United States 10/24/2011 04:22 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Remember that you are loved. "It is required, you do awake your faith.." William Shakespere |
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Resister User ID: 669410 United States 10/24/2011 04:23 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Prayer said OP. "God forbid we should ever be 20 years without such a rebellion. The people cannot be all, & always, well informed... If they remain quiet under such misconceptions it is a lethargy, the forerunner of death to the public liberty... Let them take arms... What signify a few lives lost in a century or two? The tree of liberty must be refreshed from time to time with the blood of patriots & tyrants. " - Thomas Jefferson in 1787 |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 3940441 Australia 10/24/2011 04:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I just don't know what to do. This isn't supposed to happen. Not this way... Quoting: exiled1 My son was killed in a car accident yesterday. It is so painful to type these words, but I know there are good people on here and I really need all the help I can get right now. One month away from his twentieth birthday, didn't even make it out of the teens...damnit it hurts, and I feel so bad for his brother, he has no other siblings. I really thought I was through with the loss, I thought I had no more to lose...never thought this would happen, never even entertained the thought. I really believed I was making a comeback and things were starting to get better. Why this, why now??? I just returned from picking out caskets for him, believe me there is nothing more heart breaking to have to do...I still can not believe this is really happening. Family have been here fortunately but times like this when I am alone, gets pretty rough. One minute I am fine, the next you get knocked over by an overwhelming sense of grief or something...it really is too much to handle, I don't know what to do. I just wish i could go back in time and stop it from happening somehow... I don't know what to say, but please, please just say a prayer for us...I really don't think I am coming back from this one....its hurts so damn bad knowing you will never see him again...He was my fishing buddy and we never made the time to go out this past summer. The missed moments are tearing me up right now, didn't know I could hurt this bad. i am usually tougher than this. I love you buddy I'm sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the pain you're going through right now. God bless your son, and you. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1528179 United States 10/24/2011 04:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | one day at a time, brother. ride the waves of emotion as they come. and release them as they go. stay in the present moment. dont be tempted to return to the past or go to the future. know that in time, you and your family will hurt less, though the void will remain. know that you will never be the same. but that is ok. this is YOUR sacred journey. at some point, this will make sense to you. if sense isnt the right word, then at some point, you will know what to do from this experience. remind yourself of that when the pain is unbearable. share this time with those you love. your son is at peace now. you and yours are in pain. but you will survive. one day at a time, my brother. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1462976 United States 10/24/2011 04:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | its got to be a shock, but your life will go on. we all love you and my feelings go out to your late son. he had no greater or less effect on the world as any of us will ever have. we're all one in the dance called life. My old time friend died very recently still and It's nothing but a shock. But to realise how they made your life better and that you wouldnt be who you are if it wasnt for them, thats what really matters and ever will. hang in there brother |
Nine's User ID: 2838278 United States 10/24/2011 04:26 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Crying, just thinking of what you must be going through. There can't be any greater pain than outliving your child. Try to not think of the missed moments but think of the moments you shared. The role model you were to him, the role model you have to be to your remaining son. You have to make it for him. You sound like a strong father that any young man would be proud to have Your son may have been more blessed in his short life than many young men ever are. You'll see your son again. Until then, you and your family will stay in my prayers, my tears, and my thoughts. I'm so very sorry. |
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GOD SON User ID: 3918796 United States 10/24/2011 04:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I was drawn to your posting, i do mean drawn. I dont know you but I will pray for you and your son. I have a son so i can only imagine the pain your in. I feel compelled to remind all of us your son is GODS SON TOO SO HE ALSO FEELS YOUR PAIN.THE LOVE FOR YOUR SON WILL ALWAYS BE WITH YOU SO PLEASE CONTINUE TO SMILE/CRY THE JOY HE BROUGHT YOU WHILE HE WAS HERE. HE IS WITH GOD I KNOW THIS TO BE TRUE. MAY YOU HAVE PEACE IN YOUR LIFE. |
Sandi_T User ID: 1301649 United States 10/24/2011 04:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I have lost parents. I have lost beloved partners. I have lost pets. But there is simply no pain greater than the loss of a child. No agony deeper, no sorrow wider, no loss more difficult to go on after. I am so very, very sorry. May you find the strength to survive the days to come. Please know that I cry with you. No more requests in the "Strangest things" thread please. :hf: Past Lives requests thread: Thread: That Which Once Was: Past Lives |
BRIEF User ID: 381742 United States 10/24/2011 04:30 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I just don't know what to do. This isn't supposed to happen. Not this way... Quoting: exiled1 My son was killed in a car accident yesterday. It is so painful to type these words, but I know there are good people on here and I really need all the help I can get right now. One month away from his twentieth birthday, didn't even make it out of the teens...damnit it hurts, and I feel so bad for his brother, he has no other siblings. I really thought I was through with the loss, I thought I had no more to lose...never thought this would happen, never even entertained the thought. I really believed I was making a comeback and things were starting to get better. Why this, why now??? I just returned from picking out caskets for him, believe me there is nothing more heart breaking to have to do...I still can not believe this is really happening. Family have been here fortunately but times like this when I am alone, gets pretty rough. One minute I am fine, the next you get knocked over by an overwhelming sense of grief or something...it really is too much to handle, I don't know what to do. I just wish i could go back in time and stop it from happening somehow... I don't know what to say, but please, please just say a prayer for us...I really don't think I am coming back from this one....its hurts so damn bad knowing you will never see him again...He was my fishing buddy and we never made the time to go out this past summer. The missed moments are tearing me up right now, didn't know I could hurt this bad. i am usually tougher than this. I love you buddy Damn. I have no words...sorry I never forgive and I never forget I am a licensed firearm holder. I will, under protection of law, use lethal force if attacked. |
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