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My son died yesterday, please say a prayer for his soul...and mine | |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 3953998 United States10/24/2011 07:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I just don't know what to do. This isn't supposed to happen. Not this way... Quoting: exiled1 My son was killed in a car accident yesterday. It is so painful to type these words, but I know there are good people on here and I really need all the help I can get right now. One month away from his twentieth birthday, didn't even make it out of the teens...damnit it hurts, and I feel so bad for his brother, he has no other siblings. I really thought I was through with the loss, I thought I had no more to lose...never thought this would happen, never even entertained the thought. I really believed I was making a comeback and things were starting to get better. Why this, why now??? I just returned from picking out caskets for him, believe me there is nothing more heart breaking to have to do...I still can not believe this is really happening. Family have been here fortunately but times like this when I am alone, gets pretty rough. One minute I am fine, the next you get knocked over by an overwhelming sense of grief or something...it really is too much to handle, I don't know what to do. I just wish i could go back in time and stop it from happening somehow... I don't know what to say, but please, please just say a prayer for us...I really don't think I am coming back from this one....its hurts so damn bad knowing you will never see him again...He was my fishing buddy and we never made the time to go out this past summer. The missed moments are tearing me up right now, didn't know I could hurt this bad. i am usually tougher than this. I love you buddy  I am so sorry, OP! Please endure for your other child and treasure the moments you did have. Your grief is your strength. Carry on in Buddy's light and memory! |
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| MONSTER User ID: 2122560 United States10/24/2011 07:46 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I dont know if I would have the strengh you have, my heart feels for you in this sad time. May God look over you and your son, and know you will see him again. KINGDOMS, NATIONS AND KINGS HAVE BEEN BROUGHT DOWN TO THEIR KNEES WITH ONE GLANCE FROM A WOMAN. I WEAR MY SKIN OF ARMOR SO NO ONE CAN GET IN AND NO ONE CAN GET OUT. HOW CAN I MOURN YOU, WHEN I HAVE NEVER LET YOU GO, monster 1991-2008 RIP |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1186439 United States10/24/2011 07:47 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Your life's path has requested the ultimate sacrifice. There is no greater sorrow than the loss of a child, at any age. Try to reflect on the grace that you had him at all. And go forward for the sake of your son who is with you now. Your example to live through this with strength and purpose will serve him greatly during his own challenges on his journey in this world. Be the light in this world that the son you lost was unable to continue with due to this tragic circumstance. Time will bring some solace even if it feels impossible from where your heart resides presently. I'm so sorry. You are not alone...... |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1087724 Canada10/24/2011 07:48 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OMG, OP, there is no greater a loss than to lose a child. I can't even begin to know how you are feeling right now. My eldest daughter is 17, so, very close to your son's age. Somehow you'll have to try and find a way to carry on for your other child, but it will be the biggest challenge in your life. I don't know if I could carry on if I lost either of my daughters. I am so sorry for your loss. I am praying for you and your family in this time of terrible and untimely loss. |
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| anonymous321 User ID: 3662136 United States10/24/2011 07:50 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I just don't know what to do. This isn't supposed to happen. Not this way... Quoting: exiled1 My son was killed in a car accident yesterday. It is so painful to type these words, but I know there are good people on here and I really need all the help I can get right now. One month away from his twentieth birthday, didn't even make it out of the teens...damnit it hurts, and I feel so bad for his brother, he has no other siblings. I really thought I was through with the loss, I thought I had no more to lose...never thought this would happen, never even entertained the thought. I really believed I was making a comeback and things were starting to get better. Why this, why now??? I just returned from picking out caskets for him, believe me there is nothing more heart breaking to have to do...I still can not believe this is really happening. Family have been here fortunately but times like this when I am alone, gets pretty rough. One minute I am fine, the next you get knocked over by an overwhelming sense of grief or something...it really is too much to handle, I don't know what to do. I just wish i could go back in time and stop it from happening somehow... I don't know what to say, but please, please just say a prayer for us...I really don't think I am coming back from this one....its hurts so damn bad knowing you will never see him again...He was my fishing buddy and we never made the time to go out this past summer. The missed moments are tearing me up right now, didn't know I could hurt this bad. i am usually tougher than this. I love you buddy I have a friend who reminded us that it was 19 years ago yesterday that her son, Kevin, died in a car accident. He was 17 years old....was a star football player in high school. Because my friend was filled with grief and couldn't handle it either, she consulted a medium. She went to see this woman about once a month for several months. My friend would come back and tell us what she said. Unbelievable and heartwarming! I know some people think it's foolish, but I can tell you that your son is where Kevin is, and they have loved ones all around them. They're fine, and they continue to do much of what they did here. Your son will continue to go fishing...perhaps with his grandfather now? Kevin was tossing a football and building model airplanes with his grandfather, as he did on earth. The medium didn't know any of that prior to my friend's visit. My friend could not believe how this woman knew. You have my sympathy, and I will pray for you and your family. I am sure it feels like a nightmare. Please hang in there, and talk to him everynight. He's listening. Please read these books: "Talking to Heaven" by James Van Praagh (a medium) "Embraced by the Light" by Betty J. Eadie |
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| Jude User ID: 801173 United States10/24/2011 07:59 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My heart opens to all who are grieving this day. For you, E1... so wonderful that you have friends and support here online... it's actually more 'personal' in a weird way, than being in person. Whenever i've had a personal loss from death, so many people are simply tongue-tied, not knowing what to say. So... get on here and WRITE, whatever and whenever you feel the need to talk about your pain. It HURTS.  |
| TXGal4Truth User ID: 1013398 United States10/24/2011 08:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Can't even imagine. My oldest son is 19 too. Blessings to you and yours. So have I now become your enemy for telling you the TRUTH? Galatians 4:16 *********************************** You call me paranoid. I call you uninformed. :tgdmwt: |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1547413 United States10/24/2011 08:01 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Exile...Everyone here is trying so hard to console you. It may not help as much as you would like because no one can imagine your pain right now, unless they have had the same experience. Right now your job is to hang in there the best you can. Cry with your son so he knows it's ok for him to cry too. Let him know that you are greatful to have him. He needs to hear that. Cry with your son's mother too. Don't let her feel alone for even a moment and I hope she helps you in the same way. My prayers are for you because I can feel your son is just fine. He moved right on and into the hands of God. People have a hard time understanding that it is the living who need our help. Those that passed on are doing great. My heart is heavy, but it's for your loss and grief. You son has no need for me to pray for his soul.....he is in a place where he is consumed with love, including yours. As far as the fishing thing. I had a few years where I was upset that my father stopped doing neat things with me and blamed myself for being a girl among other thoughts. Many years later I realized my father never stopped doing things with me. I stopped doing them with him because I was growing up and sprouting my independant wings. It was such a relief to take the blame from him and realize it was never about anything he did. You did nothing wrong either...you only let your son begin living his life on his own. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1500293 United States10/24/2011 08:01 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Please know that I am actually moved to tears by your original post; didn't read further. I'm am so, so sorry for this ultimate loss. Be brave. Take a breath. Be brave. Take a breath. And so on. Sometimes that's all anyone can do. Bless you. |
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| eclipticX User ID: 1616631 United States10/24/2011 08:04 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | May the Father of Lights use you in His service to be a light and comfort for others that experience similar loss and pain. Death-the final enemy, will one day be vanquished. In the meantime fight the good fight. You are needed in this world...you are needed for your friends and family. We all need you! Lean on God...He will carry you through this dark valley. Isaiah 41:10 |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 3774666 United States10/24/2011 08:04 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I know I am pathetically fucking desperate but I can't help it right now...I wish this on no one Quoting: exiled1 any way thanks for all the great posts, it does help...got me through writing this all down without losing it. No, don't listen to anyone who would say such a thing. You were just reaching out...and I'm sooo glad that many reached back to you! ! ! Much love to you and to those who sent loving messages to you. We are all one...your loss is our loss. You are not alone. |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1201807 United States10/24/2011 08:09 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Wow... Quoting: exiled1 I am amazed at the outpouring of support...it really does mean a lot to me. I usually am not the type to write my feelings down. I usually try to mask things with humor. It's just how I am. Thank You To those of you who think I am trolling, yes maybe posting on here is a bit odd to some. Fortunately for you, you apparently have a large friend base to give you support. I do not. I can't expect my family to stay with me 24 hours a day, they all have families and lives to tend to still. Right now I am at home with nothing more than my dog and cell phone to give me support. I spent most my adult life trying to grow a business and family. I didn't leave room for close friendships. Yes, I see now how foolish that was..all in the pursuit of money basically. I felt that was what fathers did and were supposed to mainly do. In the last few years, I have lost everything else, and am finding myself quite alone. Even my sons were off doing their own thing most of the time..Yes, I realize I spend way too much time on here, but there are people on here I have grown to care for and enjoy conversing with as best we can in this situation. It has helped me tremendously over the past few months, and I am grateful for having met them...and very grateful for everyones kind words. I know I am pathetically fucking desperate but I can't help it right now...I wish this on no one any way thanks for all the great posts, it does help...got me through writing this all down without losing it. OP, it's a healthy thing to 'share' with others . Very healthy and Prayers are helpful. It might not feel to you that God is close by, but He is. I tell my kids I love them everyday even if they are just running to the store. I for one am very grateful that you asked us for Prayers and so many are being said for you and your family at this sad time. If I were there I would give you a hug and your other Son too ! God Bless you both |
| daughter in NYC User ID: 1093189 United States10/24/2011 08:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hi Exiled, I've been here asking the Lord.."what can I possibly say to this dear brother?" I can just say that to cry out, literally and figuratively, is a good way to cope. The Lord DOES know loss, He lost His only son ,too. He is comforting your son as we speak, in love. He is wiping the tears from his eyes and will do the same for you. When you are ready, cry it out, there's no shame in that. It is cathartic and a necessary release. When you are done, thank God for leaving you another son, who is needing you to share in his grief as well. Be honest with each other and comfort one another. This is what our Heavenly Father does for us, this is what He expects you to do. Ask Him for the strength to carry on with His purpose in your life and be willing to answer His call. He will honor you and will give you the grace to carry on. Your reward will be reuniting with your son, in Heaven, and your Heavenly Father will be there 'with open arms' to welcome you when it's time. "Cast your cares on HIM for He cares for you" Heavenly Father, In Jesus' Name, I ask that you would draw this man to Your Son and grant your child, the peace that passes all understanding, and that he would feel the love that You have for him and his remaining son. Protect him from any negative emotions and restore his faith in You...Amen Be Blessed in the Lord daughter in NYC |
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