My son died yesterday, please say a prayer for his soul...and mine

There is nothing anyone can say here (or with you) that can make it better...NOTHING! You will never stop hurting...so let it hurt as it is part of the process. You need to cry, you need to hurt, you need to feel. What you need to remember is that you have another son that needs to go through the same process you do. Don't forget to let him know how you felt for your son that passed......but do NOT forget to hug him and let him know how happy you are that he is STILL with you!!! He not only lost his brother, but he lost his best friend too, someone he looked up to.

Now you have but one son to raise now...don't make him pay for being the one that lived. Instead show him how happy you are that he wasn't in that car!

I am not someone that will tell you about God and what to to religously...but I will say that you will see him again. Until then there are others in your life that need you more than ever...hell, you need each other!!

Focus on that and you will find yourself not crying as much, not thinking about him that much, etc... but you will NEVER forget. You will make it and you will be stronger from it. And when someone else looses someone close, you be sure to tell them that men cry too and that it is all part of the process...it is called HEALING!!

Don't be affraid to heal!!!

Hi Exiled1,

Just checking in to see how you and your son are doing? You both are in my prayers...one day at a time,friend

I just don't know what to do. This isn't supposed to happen. Not this way...

My son was killed in a car accident yesterday. It is so painful to type these words, but I know there are good people on here and I really need all the help I can get right now.
One month away from his twentieth birthday, didn't even make it out of the teens...damnit it hurts, and I feel so bad for his brother, he has no other siblings.

I really thought I was through with the loss, I thought I had no more to lose...never thought this would happen, never even entertained the thought. I really believed I was making a comeback and things were starting to get better. Why this, why now???

I just returned from picking out caskets for him, believe me there is nothing more heart breaking to have to do...I still can not believe this is really happening. Family have been here fortunately but times like this when I am alone, gets pretty rough. One minute I am fine, the next you get knocked over by an overwhelming sense of grief or something...it really is too much to handle, I don't know what to do. I just wish i could go back in time and stop it from happening somehow...

I don't know what to say, but please, please just say a prayer for us...I really don't think I am coming back from this one....its hurts so damn bad knowing you will never see him again...He was my fishing buddy and we never made the time to go out this past summer. The missed moments are tearing me up right now, didn't know I could hurt this bad. i am usually tougher than this.

I love you buddy