my brother's wife left after 20 years please pray for him... | |
| anon 121214 User ID: 2834042 11/10/2011 12:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | you should always keep yourself in shape b/c then at times like this you can go out and find women galore Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1382289 you only love one peter head sorry to hear that. But on a brighter note at least he is not dodging falling planes, being dragged of to fema camps, forced vaccines etc. LOL just teasing you |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 3648215 11/10/2011 01:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Sorry to hear this. I have been married 29 years to the best little woman ( she's 5'0" tall & 100 lbs. soaking wet ), and when they say dynamite comes in small packages, they ain't lying. We have had our ups & downs, and she has seen me through cancer, 2 heart attacks, and due to pain medication, ongoing physical addiction. The tumor is attached to my spine and aorta, and cannot be removed, so it hurts like hell all the time. I take hydro's, soma, & xanax, and still only get about 3 hours sleep a night. (Doctor's have tried me on oxy's and morphine, but I cannot function on them). The other stuff dulls the pain, but will not take it away. So there are many days that I am a complete ass, and yet she still puts up with me. We have 5 great kids, with 2 still at home, and 2 wonderful grandchildren. You have not said the reason for her leaving, but once he sobers up, being it is your sibling, he should trust you enough to open up, and get him to tell you all that happened to want her to leave. But there is always hope, and prayer can do amazing things. It still amazes me how after almost 31 years, that every time I see my wife, I still see her as that cute little gal when we first met. And she still makes my heart beat faster when she walks in the room. We will be praying for you and your brother. |
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| Mickeyblue User ID: 5105853 11/10/2011 01:13 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Perhaps it is the drinking that was the impetus for her to leave??? Funny how so many pile on the negatives regarding the wives without regard that she must have felt overwhelmed in this marriage and even the sister or brother herein does not give any quarter to her? Prayers for both of them and for any children would be nice, without judgment. |
| amywood71605 User ID: 1422833 11/10/2011 01:38 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Sorry to hear this. I have been married 29 years to the best little woman ( she's 5'0" tall & 100 lbs. soaking wet ), and when they say dynamite comes in small packages, they ain't lying. We have had our ups & downs, and she has seen me through cancer, 2 heart attacks, and due to pain medication, ongoing physical addiction. The tumor is attached to my spine and aorta, and cannot be removed, so it hurts like hell all the time. I take hydro's, soma, & xanax, and still only get about 3 hours sleep a night. (Doctor's have tried me on oxy's and morphine, but I cannot function on them). The other stuff dulls the pain, but will not take it away. So there are many days that I am a complete ass, and yet she still puts up with me. We have 5 great kids, with 2 still at home, and 2 wonderful grandchildren. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 3648215 You have not said the reason for her leaving, but once he sobers up, being it is your sibling, he should trust you enough to open up, and get him to tell you all that happened to want her to leave. But there is always hope, and prayer can do amazing things. It still amazes me how after almost 31 years, that every time I see my wife, I still see her as that cute little gal when we first met. And she still makes my heart beat faster when she walks in the room. We will be praying for you and your brother. You've been married longer then me (6 years here to my husband) but I can relate to your story. Back in 2005 my husbadn got hurt at work, his shoulder, and went through 2 surgeries, tons of physical therapy, and it still isn't "right". He also has back and knee problems, and at one point was on pain killers that he ended up quite addicted to. I'll spare the details, but it was a pretty rough time for him, and for me, but leaving him never even crossed my mind. I had people at the time tell me that I should, that I deserved better then "an addict who cares more about the pills"....but the truth is....when you have that much pain, and are on pain meds for that long, it's inevitable that your body becomes physical addicted. He now takes 800mg iboprphine pills 3 times a day and over the counter tylonel. His problems are peanuts compared to yours, but I just wanted to say that I completely understand how you feel, and especially your wife. When you marry someone you take vows "for better or worse" "in sickness and in health" - and too often people forget that. Amy Wood Proud mother, wife, student and homemaker. "Live each day like it's your last, love like you've never been hurt, and dance like no one is watching." |
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| chipg (OP) User ID: 3816888 11/11/2011 02:46 AM ![]() Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | thanks everyone, even the dummies... The path of the righteous man is beset on all sides by the iniquities of the selfish and the tyranny of evil men. Blessed is he who in the name of charity and good will shepherds the weak through the valley of darkness, for he is truly his brother's keeper and the finder of lost children. And I will strike down upon thee with great vengeance and furious anger those who attempt to poison and destroy my brothers! And you will know my name is the Lord when I lay my vengeance upon thee!" chip griffin |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1045784 11/11/2011 03:31 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Typical...Caucasoids cant please there women, so after twenty years of her being unhappy she did the most logical thing. You should call him fish from now on, he will be drowning in his sorrows looking for hope at the bottom of a liqour bottle. oh please, i've never seen ONE functional black relationship.. the bitches are completely insatiable , and the men are cheatin bastards who hate working, cmon |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 5138158 11/11/2011 03:37 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | drinking champagne? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1556664 yeah must be terrible for him, no more nagging, no more constant put downs and belittlement, no more dealing with hostility....must be terrible for the guy come on guys. not all people feel that way about their wives or husbands. my wife and i have our share of arguements but i couldnt imagine life without her. This. Been married for 6 years, so not very "long' at all compared to some, but I cannot, at all, imagine life without my husband. We fight sometimes yes, but its never that bad and neither of us can stay mad at the other for too long. OP - I'll pray for your brother, that he can get through this difficult time. =( Why are so many females on this forum willing to post photos of themselves? I can't imagine, in this day and time, why anyone, especially self-proclaimed "wives, mothers, homemakers" would do that. |
| chipg (OP) User ID: 3816888 11/11/2011 10:07 AM ![]() Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | she is a looker, but she don't have it made. remember the movie. i can tell you first hand, looks are over rated. two sides to every coin. only those who seek to profit from their looks find out late just how wrong they were.... The path of the righteous man is beset on all sides by the iniquities of the selfish and the tyranny of evil men. Blessed is he who in the name of charity and good will shepherds the weak through the valley of darkness, for he is truly his brother's keeper and the finder of lost children. And I will strike down upon thee with great vengeance and furious anger those who attempt to poison and destroy my brothers! And you will know my name is the Lord when I lay my vengeance upon thee!" chip griffin |
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| Sleeping Giant Haste The Day User ID: 4598688 11/11/2011 10:09 AM ![]() Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Done, chip. "You don't have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body." ~C.S. Lewis "And Lord, haste the day when my faith shall be sight, The clouds be rolled back as a scroll; The trump shall resound, and the Lord shall descend, Even so, it is well with my soul." Thread: 37 Survival Downloads and Handbooks – Pioneering, SHTF, Engineering, Urban Gardening, Defense, and More |
| chipg (OP) User ID: 3816888 11/11/2011 10:16 AM ![]() Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | no she left because the money ran out, he is a waste case, but i will get him thought it. neither one of them were relion. i make up for the whole family... The path of the righteous man is beset on all sides by the iniquities of the selfish and the tyranny of evil men. Blessed is he who in the name of charity and good will shepherds the weak through the valley of darkness, for he is truly his brother's keeper and the finder of lost children. And I will strike down upon thee with great vengeance and furious anger those who attempt to poison and destroy my brothers! And you will know my name is the Lord when I lay my vengeance upon thee!" chip griffin |
| N34444 User ID: 1370461 11/11/2011 10:21 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | there are several sticking points in a marriage. One comes after just a couple of years when you really haven't learned to live with someone else yet. Then, another comes at around seven to ten years. Some people didn't understand just how much stress kids and a mortgage can be. Another comes at around 20 years. Kids may be gone by that time. Empty nesters look around the house and say, "Who are you, anyway?" 20 years can be a rough spot to get through. Assets feed you, liabilities eat you. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 5165234 11/11/2011 10:43 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My sister left her husband after 20 years. Best decision she ever made. He cried and cried and lost tons of weight. He just could not be a reasonable person. Mean spirited and blamed her for everything. She could never make plans because it was very likely he'd be awful and foul whenever an event rolled up. It took her years to get back to being herself. She's got a great life now, finally, and she deserves it. So maybe everyone needs a life lesson on acceptable behaviors. Maybe he needs to take a good look at himself, and work a little harder at self-improvement before the next woman comes along. Then I knew another longtime married couple, where the wife unexpectedly dropped dead. The husband had been meek as wallpaper, she'd ruled the roost. After a few months, he started seeing a woman from church, and in a year you wouldn't recognize him. He was happy, telling jokes, singing in the choir and looked like a different person. The transformation was astounding. It was like he'd been reborn and no one knew he had it in him. They moved in together (didn't even get married!), traveled all over and were as happy as could be for the rest of their lives. So maybe there's some personal growth that can happen here. I'll say a prayer for that. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 5065935 11/11/2011 11:38 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My sister left her husband after 20 years. Best decision she ever made. He cried and cried and lost tons of weight. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 5165234 He just could not be a reasonable person. Mean spirited and blamed her for everything. She could never make plans because it was very likely he'd be awful and foul whenever an event rolled up. It took her years to get back to being herself. She's got a great life now, finally, and she deserves it. So maybe everyone needs a life lesson on acceptable behaviors. Maybe he needs to take a good look at himself, and work a little harder at self-improvement before the next woman comes along. Then I knew another longtime married couple, where the wife unexpectedly dropped dead. The husband had been meek as wallpaper, she'd ruled the roost. After a few months, he started seeing a woman from church, and in a year you wouldn't recognize him. He was happy, telling jokes, singing in the choir and looked like a different person. The transformation was astounding. It was like he'd been reborn and no one knew he had it in him. They moved in together (didn't even get married!), traveled all over and were as happy as could be for the rest of their lives. So maybe there's some personal growth that can happen here. I'll say a prayer for that. |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 5186155 11/11/2011 02:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | man your just a delusional wanna be.. you claim to be a man of god yet your ignorance is beyond you.. i mean if you where slightly real you wouldnt request such a thing.. for a man of god would know that everything happens for a reason and accept their short comings and make the most of it.. not be a bitch and get others in on your delusion.. seriously.. your brother should learn the hard way like everyone else and so should you.. he has what was coming to him.. and so do you.. their are so much pain and suffering going on in the world and you selfishly ask others to send prayers to your scum bag brother for losing his whore wife? where do even get off man? seriously.. fuck that.. man up and stop acting like a little bitch when things get slightly hard for you or yours.. your pathetic.. give up the false prophet game as it is not of any advantage to you or yours in any way.. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 5035383 11/11/2011 05:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Could you give me just one reason? man your just a delusional wanna be.. you claim to be a man of god yet your ignorance is beyond you.. i mean if you where slightly real you wouldnt request such a thing.. for a man of god would know that everything happens for a reason and accept their short comings and make the most of it.. not be a bitch and get others in on your delusion.. seriously.. your brother should learn the hard way like everyone else and so should you.. he has what was coming to him.. and so do you.. their are so much pain and suffering going on in the world and you selfishly ask others to send prayers to your scum bag brother for losing his whore wife? where do even get off man? seriously.. fuck that.. man up and stop acting like a little bitch when things get slightly hard for you or yours.. your pathetic.. give up the false prophet game as it is not of any advantage to you or yours in any way.. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 5186155 |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 2414565 11/11/2011 06:36 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It is always going to be hard on the spouse who is left behind, because many times the one leaving has already mentally prepared themselves. Please keep on eye on him if he is drinking. If you can try to keep the booze away from him. That is only going to depress him further. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 5189190 11/11/2011 06:45 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My sister left her husband after 20 years. Best decision she ever made. He cried and cried and lost tons of weight. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 5165234 He just could not be a reasonable person. Mean spirited and blamed her for everything. She could never make plans because it was very likely he'd be awful and foul whenever an event rolled up. It took her years to get back to being herself. She's got a great life now, finally, and she deserves it. So maybe everyone needs a life lesson on acceptable behaviors. Maybe he needs to take a good look at himself, and work a little harder at self-improvement before the next woman comes along. Then I knew another longtime married couple, where the wife unexpectedly dropped dead. The husband had been meek as wallpaper, she'd ruled the roost. After a few months, he started seeing a woman from church, and in a year you wouldn't recognize him. He was happy, telling jokes, singing in the choir and looked like a different person. The transformation was astounding. It was like he'd been reborn and no one knew he had it in him. They moved in together (didn't even get married!), traveled all over and were as happy as could be for the rest of their lives. So maybe there's some personal growth that can happen here. I'll say a prayer for that. ^^^^^^ Best reply EVER ![]() |
| chipg (OP) User ID: 3816888 11/12/2011 01:07 AM ![]() Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My sister left her husband after 20 years. Best decision she ever made. He cried and cried and lost tons of weight. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 5165234 He just could not be a reasonable person. Mean spirited and blamed her for everything. She could never make plans because it was very likely he'd be awful and foul whenever an event rolled up. It took her years to get back to being herself. She's got a great life now, finally, and she deserves it. So maybe everyone needs a life lesson on acceptable behaviors. Maybe he needs to take a good look at himself, and work a little harder at self-improvement before the next woman comes along. Then I knew another longtime married couple, where the wife unexpectedly dropped dead. The husband had been meek as wallpaper, she'd ruled the roost. After a few months, he started seeing a woman from church, and in a year you wouldn't recognize him. He was happy, telling jokes, singing in the choir and looked like a different person. The transformation was astounding. It was like he'd been reborn and no one knew he had it in him. They moved in together (didn't even get married!), traveled all over and were as happy as could be for the rest of their lives. So maybe there's some personal growth that can happen here. I'll say a prayer for that. sorry it don't work like that, we all have a cross to bare. find true happiness here, find hell or lake of fire later. do you remember your vovs, GOD took them serous, did you? The path of the righteous man is beset on all sides by the iniquities of the selfish and the tyranny of evil men. Blessed is he who in the name of charity and good will shepherds the weak through the valley of darkness, for he is truly his brother's keeper and the finder of lost children. And I will strike down upon thee with great vengeance and furious anger those who attempt to poison and destroy my brothers! And you will know my name is the Lord when I lay my vengeance upon thee!" chip griffin |
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