My boyfriend thinks I'm cheating because I want sex all the time..... Help me figure this out please..

I know he enjoys it actually can be "freaky" at times. Thats why I am so confused..

So you want sex more often because you don't live together and you stay with each other on the weekends?

Surely these living arrangements aren't stopping you from having sex more often?

Deleting browsing history is a tell-tale sign someone's looking at porn.

That doesn't seem to be the answer, however I did tell him that if I don't make him happy then we should see other people. He said no.

usually this situation is reversed. lol

I am glad I am not alone! LOL I thought he would love it as well. I just picked up about 6 or 7 months ago. He used to complain because I didn't initiate it now he complains because that all I want.. Can't win!

Were you trying to spy on him and found out he was one step ahead of you?

He is turning 41. I didn't know that I will keep that in mind. Does it cause a physical affect that I should look out for? He does NOT have a problem that would require Viagra yet.

and we got a winner. He is definitely insecure about his performance. He is OBVIOUSLY aware that you have a very high sex drive at this point of time and his is probably still dwindling down from his late twenties. Maybe he just needs some practice. Let him know that you don't care how well he performs and you are just there to enjoy each other's company. No matter whether intercourse takes place. Try pleasuring each other in other ways. It doesn't always have to be coitus and "dinner". jeez, all girls think this is all guys want....dinner and sex. this is far from the truth.

maybe he thinks you are shallow in that instead of having deep conversation and a spiritual connection that goes beyond hedonistic physical pleasures, he thinks all you care about is sex...like an animal.

your boyfriend is retarded. If you were getting it somewhere else you wouldn't want his lame azz.

YOUR sex drive is peaking ... his peaked when he was 18 back when girls of a similar age didn't want it much. Like guys in their teens and twenties have to learn, you need to learn that YOU are not going to get sex every time you want in ... IF you want the relationship to continue.

You may also have aggrevated his lowered sex drive by being too demanding or even threatening. Guys can often tell when their woman starts checking out other guys for a "fling" ... even before the woman herself even realized what her hormones are subconsciously driving her to do (ie: sleep with another partner).

So what changed in YOU about 6 months ago that revved up your sex drive? Maybe time to visit that issue so you can rebalance in between when HE was complaing about YOU not wanting it enough and now YOU are complaining about HIM not matching up with your now recently highly energized sex drive.

check out a herbal extract called mucuna pruriens. It will SKYROCKET his sex drive and it has a slew of other benefits. it directly increases dopamine levels in the brain which is the main initiating neurotransmitter for sex in guys.

So... you're not content with the ammount of sex you're having, and you suggest that if he's not happy the answer may be to see other people, and you wonder why he thinks you're cheating?

People rarely break up until they have someone else first.

You're sowing the seeds of destruction.

How about this, you're not happy and seeing other people is something you're considering.

or

How about this, you're not happy but there is an answer to this problem that involves the two of you cooperating in love and committment to each other to find an answer that honors you both as individuals and as a couple.


The choice is yours, both of yours.

^this

Lmfao!

I think that is a bit harsh considering it really started to affect us with in the last month or so. I am hoping to gain some insight to help make it better.

He might be insecure about something.

He thinks hes small, sucks in bed, is ugly, etc...no way I can know what it is.

Or as you said, your sex drive just started picking up a few months back. A guy often sees this as "you must be getting it somewhere else too"...and you are getting it *better* at that somewhere else.

We think that when you all of a sudden get so horny like you have that this other guy you are with must really be turning you out.

Let him do whatever he needs to build his confidence that there is no other man...ie: going thru your phone, computer, mail, etc.

Also, it could just be that his libido is much lower than yours *at this time* for a reason...maybe if hes overweight and/or depressed about something.

Does he seem depressed at all? Did he recently lose a job, lose a friend, fight with a family member, etc...

This is not the time to try new things in bed either as he will think you learned them somewhere else.

Be patient and remember, build his confidence that you are not messing with another man.

Is that 5'5" Tall or Round.

I can remember dating a guy that was 26 before I started dating my current boyfriend and your right there was noooo stopping him, a perfect age for it!

I agree OP, he is up to something there are red flags everywhere. You need to step back and see what you have told us. I am sure you care for him and love him, sometimes though love makes us make hard choices.

BTW I am not married but I can help with the sex thing (just kidding or am I...)

If you don't care don't read it...

I tried it but I will try again.. you would think he would understand since he has been thru it already. :)

He was probably in the middle of a sex marathon with a nice redheaded 2
19yr old nymph when you called

You know how much of a cockblock that is when you are cheating?
I don't blame him!

He is tall and thin could be stress though.

an old saying goes:


"GUILTY CONSCIENCE SPEAKS FIRST"......


So you may want to look into his own behavior!

also, why not try a female toy for masturbation? better than nothing!!!

To follow up the real test is to invite a younger hotter woman to bed with the two of you. You can find them on eHarmony

Anyway if he has no problem with it all and is plowing her like no tomorrow and is more "into her" than he is with you during the session, he's definately cheating

It will only get worse... find someone new, compatible, mature and energetic!
do it while you are still young.

do not do this

Those young bucks are good to go, any time, all the time.

Seriously though, your boyfriend sounds like a weirdo porn addict or something. He should read Othello, and work that out with a therapist while you get some of that hot young stuff.

What your saying does make sense I didn't think of it that way. I thought of it as he was trying to catch me cheating since he was cheating. I was thinking he was cheating because he deleted his history and didn't want me to see it. Like he was hiding something. When ever I get on his laptop he always seems to get panicky like I am going to see something. He knows I am very computer literate, where he is not.

I'm sure my wife and myself could keep you busy.