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FINALLY: The Truth About Why Women Fake Orgasms .

 
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FINALLY: The Truth About Why Women Fake Orgasms .
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One of the eternal mysteries appears closer to being solved.
According to a new study by Farnaz Kaighobadi of Columbia, the main reason that so many women fake orgasms--50%-60% of women, according to prior research--is as a "mate retention tactic."
Specifically, women are more likely to fake orgasms when "the perceived risk of partner infidelity is higher." In other words, when the women think their man is about to jump someone else.

Now, you might think that the reason a woman would fake an orgasm as a "mate-retention tactic" is that men get a huge ego kick when they think that they're driving their woman bananas--and that they'll therefore stick around just to feel awesome about themselves.
But that's actually not it.
The reason faking orgasms works as a mate-retention tactic, reports Kaighobadi, is that women may be trying to "manipulate their partner's commitment by signaling mate-selection."

In other words, the woman's (fake) orgasm tells the man that the woman thinks he has "good genes" and is really into him, and this supposedly makes the man more likely to remain really into the woman (i.e., stay faithful).
Sounds like a stretch.

But the results of Kaighobadi's survey appear to bear the theory out.

Of course, Kaighobadi concedes that this is not the ONLY reason women fake orgasms:
In other words, higher perceived risk of partner infidelity risk is not the only predictor of pretending orgasm. Women sometimes engage in such behaviors to emphasize love and care. Because men are attentive and interested in a female partner’s orgasm, women may pretend orgasm to keep their partner happy. Darling and Davidson (1986) asked participants open-ended questions regarding pretending orgasm; the primary response by 51% of women who pretended orgasm was “feel guilty, but it is important to satisfy my partner” (p. 192).
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Re: FINALLY: The Truth About Why Women Fake Orgasms .
Nah, women fake orgasms, because they think men care ....:)
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Re: FINALLY: The Truth About Why Women Fake Orgasms .
this makes sense. i dont even start working on my orgasm until my wife has atleast one. most of the time anyway. but i can make my wife come like a lesbo. i know when my wife fakes it. its impossible for any woman to time her orgasm. but she can control mine by 'faking' hers. its the sound of her voice that does it. as her pitch increases so it goes. and interestingly enough if she is really into doing that then often she will have a real orgasm deep inside. not just towards the surface. so i guess theres alot to be said for the psychology of it.

and i think its funny how there is always some dipshit who puts a B.S. flag on almost every single post. wth is that?
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Re: FINALLY: The Truth About Why Women Fake Orgasms .
You don't have to do some huge study to figure this out.

Women fake orgasms for a few reasons.

I think primarily, we do not wish for our sexual partner to feel disappointed in himself. It doesn't matter whether you are trying to "keep" him or not, sometimes it's a matter of having compassion, or simply not wanting to ruin the intimacy of the moment with admission of failure.

Another reason women do this is because they themselves do not wish to deal with their own failure to orgasm. Some women go through their entire lives failing to orgasm with a man, but achieving it easily on their own. Rather than blaming their lover, they accept that perhaps something may be wrong with themselves instead.

There are some historical behavioral reasons as well, it wasn't that long ago that a woman's survival and quality of life depended entirely upon a man.

Either which way and for whatever reasons, it would be best for any woman who has faked an orgasm, to be with a partner that can detect the difference between the real thing.
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Probably many reasons why this happens.

Sometimes for ego stroking (the man thinks he's good, so he'll be pleased by the experience) and sometimes a man is going too long and a woman is getting too sore or too tired, so she'll fake it in order for the man to hurry and finish up.
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Typical dysfunctional relationship. Its why divorce rates are at 50 percent. The women takes it upon herself to decide what is best not understanding that lying is never best for a relationship. I'm a man and most men I know only want a women that they think they can trust to tell them the truth.

Of course the women justifies lying about orgasms because its best for his ego and to keep him from cheating but those lies quickly expand into other areas of the relationship and again the women justifies them for what is best for that relationship and never thinks its for selfish reasons.

Eventually the lies build up until they are exposed much later and the man finds out the whole relationship was built on lies from the very beginning. No better brew for divorce than a man who feels like he has been betrayed by a women with lie after lie.

If a women has problems with having orgasms with her man then tell him the truth and most men would think he had a truthful women that can be trusted and wiling to try to try others things to see if they could work the problem out as a team...the way its supposed to be.


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