OP, I have been married to my husband for 17 years now and we got married at age 19. I've noticed there are different kinds of love in it. Such as the lust love, then the marriage love, then the child love and so on. IMO.

But we had our ups and downs and with all that we made it work, we do new things and bring back what sparked our love in the first place. I think you both have to do what makes each other happy. Do you remember that or maybe it's something new. Try new things!

Bring her flowers or something she loves that you know of. What does she do when you are on here?
If you do not have much money to buy her jewelry or such, then cook her a romantic dinner!

What got me and my husband thru things is Talking it all out. We talk alot and talk about everything.

I'm not saying I was a perfect person but like I said we got thru it all, Thankfully we did.

You will make it happen if you want to. So if you wanna work it all out talk first.

I'm no Therapist or anything but take all this as you'd like. I hope it helps though.