Your wife doesn't MAKE you feel any way. YOU CHOOSE to feel this because you have withdrawn from the intimacy of the relationship. Why have you done this? FEAR. There is something blocking your ability to be vulnerable and intimate with your wife. Have you cheated on her and now you feel guilty? Are you spending money that you are not being accountable for? Are you lying to her about the hours spent at work? There is something blocking your ability to be open with her... I see it. You know what it is.