any other married people completely fucking lonely?

You must speak from decades of the marriage experience?

Tomorrow is my 29th wedding anniversary. This will be the third one without my husband.

I married at 18. Widowed at 44.

that's real sad.

Greatest fear since losing my son.

You are learning one of the lessons of life. We are alone in this journey and eventually we have to do it on our own.

May you find peace.

Namaste.

Betcha she's lonelier than you

Dont worry the world is gonna plunge into hell soon just let that dumb bitch die.. too much luggage trust me she will just slow you down... she is gonna wake up real soon.. this fantasy world is almost finished.. My wife is a piece of shit too i am most certainly gonna leave her behind.. WHAT THE HELL IS LOVE ANYWAY??

DONT BELIEVE THAT FANTASY MEDIA BULLSHIT.. TRYING TO TEACH YOU WHAT LOVE IS AND WHAT BEAUTIFUL IS... dont worry you will survive... as long as you drop that package off at the dumpster...

Been married 48 years. Was always lonely until Jesus made us whole. We're not lonely anymnore
For those who believe, no explanation is necessary.
For those who do not, no explanation is possible.

Peace out.

OP, I have been married to my husband for 17 years now and we got married at age 19. I've noticed there are different kinds of love in it. Such as the lust love, then the marriage love, then the child love and so on. IMO.

But we had our ups and downs and with all that we made it work, we do new things and bring back what sparked our love in the first place. I think you both have to do what makes each other happy. Do you remember that or maybe it's something new. Try new things!

Bring her flowers or something she loves that you know of. What does she do when you are on here?
If you do not have much money to buy her jewelry or such, then cook her a romantic dinner!

What got me and my husband thru things is Talking it all out. We talk alot and talk about everything.

I'm not saying I was a perfect person but like I said we got thru it all, Thankfully we did.

You will make it happen if you want to. So if you wanna work it all out talk first.

I'm no Therapist or anything but take all this as you'd like. I hope it helps though.

I agree. I wouldn't wish divorce on my worst enemy. I went through one, and it was hell.

You think you're unhappy now, wait until there are lawyers...

You should sit down and work things out. Talk about what could make it better. COMMUNICATE! Try everything to save the marriage first.

I am very sorry to hear of your loss. My wife and I are the same, best friends and partners in life. We have been together for 22 years now and do everything together......... and I would be lost without her.

Just from knowing lots of people and yes , some of my own experience is in there

First thing to look for is. "Does she laugh a lot?" "Does she still admit she needs you? and not rushing to be independant?"

Most divorces are instigated by women btw. and the ones that are still married, Only less than half of them are still happy

Not worth hanging around when youre both unhappy with eachother. It will just eat you away inside

Men are not perfect, Women who think we have to be will be the first ones that dump their man.

Married people need friends of their own too OP or they WILL start to feel lonely. Do you have any male buddies to hang out with?

Watch the movie I Love You, Man...its a chicks flick but it may help you get back on track with balancing home and more. This trailer isnt good at showing you what I mean...but the film itelf is way better.

Your wife doesn't MAKE you feel any way. YOU CHOOSE to feel this because you have withdrawn from the intimacy of the relationship. Why have you done this? FEAR. There is something blocking your ability to be vulnerable and intimate with your wife. Have you cheated on her and now you feel guilty? Are you spending money that you are not being accountable for? Are you lying to her about the hours spent at work? There is something blocking your ability to be open with her... I see it. You know what it is.

Sounds like your in a rut, it happens sometimes.

When is the last time you actually took her out on a date and had fun? Dinner & movie?

It takes to to fight, takes two to make love and it takes two to break the boredom and have some fun.

Ruts are dangerous things.

Make a dinner reservation somewhere different and only tell her she needs to be dressed and ready to go somewhere nice.

HAHAHHHAAAAAAA! *SNORT*

I disagree. It's an individual thing not a sex thing. I forgive a lot easier than my husband does. He holds grudges forever.

"Weak husbands destroy families, they cause wives to wither and children to perish."... women don't tend to withdraw emotionally until they have given up in despair at having a real connection with their husbands.. it's a protective mechanism. If she has checked out, it's likely because you left emotionally ages ago. You can undo this, try to actually engage with her she will likely reciprocate and then find a few common activities you can do together.

Great post, funny vid.

Thanks!

I'm sorry you feel lonely and isolated. Even though it may be your wife that's doing the isolating, you may be the one who can fix things. Ask yourself why she might be isolating you. Maybe she feels isolated from you in some way and you don't realize it. Do you go on dates? Do you spend quality time together? If not, try doing something nice for her. Instead of causing an argument about it just plan a romantic date for her. Tell her you feel that you could benefit from spending more time together. Tell her what she means to you. Most women will be responsive to this. Above all, just try to communicate more. Ask her how her day was, and tell her about yours. Sometimes after we've been married for a while we get so comfortable that we don't take the time we used to into "loving" our spouse. We just go through the motions. Women can sense this, and it might explain why she's isolating herself. Most of all, put God first and pray together. It may sound silly, but it works. By doing so, you will bond in a way that will bring you both closer to God and each other. God bless you.

Marriage is not ideal

you are the luckiet guy here.never get married and dont feel sorry

Absolutely. This and more.

Sometimes 2 people just aren't meant to be together, in that things are just too different between them. Ideals, dreams, and so forth. It isn't either of their fault, it just would never work. Kind of like trying to make a cat and a dog live together in love for a lifetime, it was just never going to work.

No matter how much it looked like it would in the beginning, as we get older, sometimes we just have to face the fact that we just should have never married that person to begin with. No point in playing the blame game IE: my wife/husband does this wrong, or doesnt do this right...those are just symptoms of a previously bad decision on the part of 2 people who got married.

"any other married people completely fucking lonely"?

Pretty sure that Kate lady is in that category.

You give good advice.

How do you make your wife feel?

If you can get over the bumps first ten years, you can make it, you kinda get used to eachother and adapt to differences, But after that if the mate still isnt happy with you, thats the time to move on.