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Anonymous Coward User ID: 1225095 Canada 12/30/2011 01:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Your wife doesn't MAKE you feel any way. YOU CHOOSE to feel this because you have withdrawn from the intimacy of the relationship. Why have you done this? FEAR. There is something blocking your ability to be vulnerable and intimate with your wife. Have you cheated on her and now you feel guilty? Are you spending money that you are not being accountable for? Are you lying to her about the hours spent at work? There is something blocking your ability to be open with her... I see it. You know what it is. "Weak husbands destroy families, they cause wives to wither and children to perish."... women don't tend to withdraw emotionally until they have given up in despair at having a real connection with their husbands.. it's a protective mechanism. If she has checked out, it's likely because you left emotionally ages ago. You can undo this, try to actually engage with her she will likely reciprocate and then find a few common activities you can do together. ^this^ Imagine living with a husband who is always negative, always whining and always comparing our family's situation with another family... Imagine a husband who does not know generosity at all!! Can you imagine receiving no gift, no greetings on your birthday or any special occasion? It's too much to bear but I have to endure for the sake of my young children. |
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RedlicoriceRedux User ID: 7951768 Canada 12/30/2011 01:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ive been trying to push hewr that way for years, she wont have it. as most women do, she presented herself as this sexualy wild woman up for anything while we dated. now its hurry up and get it over with while i lay here like a corpse. Okay. I retract my advice. If you think like this, you are incapable of a real marriage and I understand why your wife has "abandoned" you. It's bullshit like this that will lead you into a cold lonely life followed by a shitheap of regret. You have answered your own problem-o, OP, just as you created it in the first place. She's laying there like a corpse because she can barely stand the thought of you inside of her. Can't say I blame her. Oh, sorry for your troubles btw. Good luck with that. Op...you are a fool. She presented herself to you and only you on a silver platter and you still weren't/aren't happy. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1926730 United States 12/30/2011 01:13 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Not me. My wife is awesome. She's not the best cook in the world but she takes awesome care of our kids. We've been together 12 years now. And she keeps herself hot and skinny. She never flirts or disrespects our marriage. We still have sex at least everyday. Sometimes 2 or 3 times a day if theres time. She doesn't piss away money on mindless crap even though i make a buck fifty a year. We are in our 30's and can retire in the next few years if we want. Marriage doesnt have to suck. But you have to make wise and thought out choices. Dont marry a chick just because her tits are huge. Marry her cause she is honest. Dudes bring on their own hell because they get blinded by tits and ass. Dont get me wrong, my wife is a sexy bitch, but she is also enlightened and wise. Choose the right girl. Dont settle for the first piece of ass you get. Or you pay the price. Choose a traditional girl. Not a modernized whore. Traditional chicks make great wives and a lasting marriage. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 7063795 United States 12/30/2011 01:14 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Apollo Illuminaughty Yup, thats their high. Id rather be in love. Nothing compares to that feeling. so love means ownership to you huh? Damn straight. Its about surrender as well. Why marry a wild horse? You have to tame them. Surrender to love both ways as they say. sugarcoat it all ya want its spousal tryanny. the bible says to beat your wife too. Id want to beat her if she decided to double dip herself to another penis, lol. Convert to Muslim . lol Jealousy and Love is much more fun than letting it all out and burning out. God talks about his jealousy over and over in the Bible. Jealousy has its place. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 4935329 United States 12/30/2011 01:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Not me. My wife is awesome. She's not the best cook in the world but she takes awesome care of our kids. We've been together 12 years now. And she keeps herself hot and skinny. She never flirts or disrespects our marriage. We still have sex at least everyday. Sometimes 2 or 3 times a day if theres time. She doesn't piss away money on mindless crap even though i make a buck fifty a year. We are in our 30's and can retire in the next few years if we want. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1926730 Marriage doesnt have to suck. But you have to make wise and thought out choices. Dont marry a chick just because her tits are huge. Marry her cause she is honest. Dudes bring on their own hell because they get blinded by tits and ass. Dont get me wrong, my wife is a sexy bitch, but she is also enlightened and wise. Choose the right girl. Dont settle for the first piece of ass you get. Or you pay the price. Choose a traditional girl. Not a modernized whore. Traditional chicks make great wives and a lasting marriage. I wonder what your attitude would be like if she suddenly let herself go? Just curious... |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1359219 United States 12/30/2011 01:21 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Stop whinging, you have no idea how lucky you are. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 7898978 I'm in my 30's, single, never married, no kids, life sux, sometimes I wish I was dead. I sleep alone every night and on weekends I have no date to hang out with. It's hard to find someone once you hit 30. See? You're life really isn't as bad as you make it out to be. If anyone has a right to whinge it would be me, but meh. I really could care less one way or the other. I'm 50 and about to get separated from my 2nd wife. You don't know how good you have it dude. Your life is where I'm headed back to. If you need a little female company you can always rent it. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 4935329 United States 12/30/2011 01:22 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | the short, and these days cliched answer, but still true is that you need to actively show her love and she will return with respect. Its the balance inherent in marriage, that so many these days ignore. Whenever we lose sight of that things get fucked up. |
theGOOCH (OP) User ID: 1028214 United States 12/30/2011 01:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Not me. My wife is awesome. She's not the best cook in the world but she takes awesome care of our kids. We've been together 12 years now. And she keeps herself hot and skinny. She never flirts or disrespects our marriage. We still have sex at least everyday. Sometimes 2 or 3 times a day if theres time. She doesn't piss away money on mindless crap even though i make a buck fifty a year. We are in our 30's and can retire in the next few years if we want. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1926730 Marriage doesnt have to suck. But you have to make wise and thought out choices. Dont marry a chick just because her tits are huge. Marry her cause she is honest. Dudes bring on their own hell because they get blinded by tits and ass. Dont get me wrong, my wife is a sexy bitch, but she is also enlightened and wise. Choose the right girl. Dont settle for the first piece of ass you get. Or you pay the price. Choose a traditional girl. Not a modernized whore. Traditional chicks make great wives and a lasting marriage. I wonder what your attitude would be like if she suddenly let herself go? Just curious... he would head for zee hills. he would get a lawyer and try to leave her with nothing. what a farse. SLAM THAT CLAM |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1485080 United States 12/30/2011 01:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Stop whinging, you have no idea how lucky you are. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 7898978 I'm in my 30's, single, never married, no kids, life sux, sometimes I wish I was dead. I sleep alone every night and on weekends I have no date to hang out with. It's hard to find someone once you hit 30. See? You're life really isn't as bad as you make it out to be. If anyone has a right to whinge it would be me, but meh. I really could care less one way or the other. Get a dog, you won't feel lonely... I'm happy to be single and live a non-complicated lifestyle in which I can make whatever decisions I want to, and do whatever I want, whenever I want. |
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seer User ID: 1529717 United States 12/30/2011 01:48 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Not me. My wife is awesome. She's not the best cook in the world but she takes awesome care of our kids. We've been together 12 years now. And she keeps herself hot and skinny. She never flirts or disrespects our marriage. We still have sex at least everyday. Sometimes 2 or 3 times a day if theres time. She doesn't piss away money on mindless crap even though i make a buck fifty a year. We are in our 30's and can retire in the next few years if we want. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1926730 Marriage doesnt have to suck. But you have to make wise and thought out choices. Dont marry a chick just because her tits are huge. Marry her cause she is honest. Dudes bring on their own hell because they get blinded by tits and ass. Dont get me wrong, my wife is a sexy bitch, but she is also enlightened and wise. Choose the right girl. Dont settle for the first piece of ass you get. Or you pay the price. Choose a traditional girl. Not a modernized whore. Traditional chicks make great wives and a lasting marriage. I wonder what your attitude would be like if she suddenly let herself go? Just curious... or if you lost your job. |
theGOOCH (OP) User ID: 1028214 United States 12/30/2011 01:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Not me. My wife is awesome. She's not the best cook in the world but she takes awesome care of our kids. We've been together 12 years now. And she keeps herself hot and skinny. She never flirts or disrespects our marriage. We still have sex at least everyday. Sometimes 2 or 3 times a day if theres time. She doesn't piss away money on mindless crap even though i make a buck fifty a year. We are in our 30's and can retire in the next few years if we want. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1926730 Marriage doesnt have to suck. But you have to make wise and thought out choices. Dont marry a chick just because her tits are huge. Marry her cause she is honest. Dudes bring on their own hell because they get blinded by tits and ass. Dont get me wrong, my wife is a sexy bitch, but she is also enlightened and wise. Choose the right girl. Dont settle for the first piece of ass you get. Or you pay the price. Choose a traditional girl. Not a modernized whore. Traditional chicks make great wives and a lasting marriage. I wonder what your attitude would be like if she suddenly let herself go? Just curious... or if you lost your job. then he would be posting threads about being lonely. no money= for new GF SLAM THAT CLAM |
Zeke User ID: 7967583 United States 12/30/2011 02:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | DING DING DING!!! I feel like a crappy wife because he doesn't want to have fun of any kind (depression or? I have been held at arm's length for a very long time so who knows?) I know we cannot control others' behavior, and we must first be our own best friend, but I am fuckin' starved beyond the beyonds. Hate to think I have flushed 27 years down the toilet... I just turned 50 and am feeling pretty good except for the marriage. Just try to hang in there and don't do anything stupid, bro. |
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Chrrey103 User ID: 7696968 United States 12/30/2011 06:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I have been monitoring this post because my laid off husband gets depressed every winter. Wont take meds. He has been off two weeks. Has made dinner two times in that time. Did dishes once(we have a dishwasher) I make more than him and make good money. He has a Harley and bought "us" a new 60 inch TV for Christmas. I also got a meat thermometer so I could make Christmas dinner for his parents. I have np with any of this HOWEVER he feels lonely. R U serious? I go to work everyday. We have one kid who is in college another who turned sixteen. I put out every week whether I feel like it or not. He looks at porn all day. So DUDE FUCK OFF and GROW UP! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1375001 United States 12/30/2011 06:48 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This. Happy 29th wedding anniversary Dan. This is our third one without you baby. I miss you beyond comprehension. I know that you are around me guiding and inspiring me. Is heaven fun? Love Me It has been three years and your grief is still so raw. Let it go and give your love to a warm, alive, living person now. He might even tell you the same if he truly loves you. |
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natasha77 User ID: 2849470 United States 12/30/2011 07:13 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Divorce my ass. Tell her what you think! Damn it! I hate this complacent "get a divorce" bullshit! Stick it out! MAKE IT WORK! TALK TO YOUR WIFE! Quoting: Chip® I always feel lonely, no matter what. How do you talk to someone who doesnt want to listen??? I swear i have daydreams of my husband being in a wheelchair, tied with heavy rope, mouth gagged and me telling him exactly what i think. He's nothing but a miserable human being (questionable) and i have felt like this for 30 years!!!! Yes, 30 years!!!!!!! And lets not go into the sex part. SPEAK UP. SILENCE IS DEADLY! I am currently experiencing life at several WTFs per hour. |
tomte User ID: 7982861 Sweden 12/30/2011 08:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP forget about all of this moral bullshit from these higher priests/worshiper of god stupid asses. I understand what you are going through. Having babies is normally putting a lot of pressure on the woman, where they feel that they have to be there 24-7, they get all of their emotional needs taken care of, by their/your baby, and you as a husband is no longer wanted. This is very common. I would agree with others, talk to her and explain how you feel. If it does not work, move on. Women tend to get more frigid by age, aim for someone younger if possible :). |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 7465463 United States 12/30/2011 09:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My wife changed very much after having a baby. I think part of it now is that she is just worn out all the time......from working and being a mommy to a 5 year old. Maybe her hormones changed a bit as well. This will probably change.....as the child gets older......and she will at some point in time have more energy. For the moment however she is emotionally numb. I guess that we all go through phases in our lives.....and the question is... can the other spouse have patience through the time of difficulty? |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 7121473 Belgium 12/31/2011 06:46 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My wife changed very much after having a baby. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 7465463 I think part of it now is that she is just worn out all the time......from working and being a mommy to a 5 year old. Maybe her hormones changed a bit as well. This will probably change.....as the child gets older......and she will at some point in time have more energy. For the moment however she is emotionally numb. I guess that we all go through phases in our lives.....and the question is... can the other spouse have patience through the time of difficulty? Of course the spouse can always have patience if the other half is been truthful and honest. But when the wife is not been truthful and honest, then seperate as quick as possible. Research as shown that the so called 'christian' women are the most deceptful and dishonest, and you have to watch your back constantly. They constantly seek approval for their evil deeds from fake pastors, who basically tell them what they want to hear. I have wasted 6 years of my life with a deceptive, loveless, christian woman and I hope in 2012 she will be gone. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 1445810 Canada 12/31/2011 07:28 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Anyone not happy in their marriage, get out and do the divorce. Quoting: Apollo Illuminaughty Nothing is worse than not feeling wanted and living a lie. Some Christians put guilt on people and make you think that staying in a loveless marriage is the right thing to do but its not. The right thing to do in the first place is to stay in love. But if it doesnt work out that way, move on. YOUR MOUTH TO SATAN'S EAR! |
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