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I'm DONE with Marriage...

 
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Reality TV has a truly toxic effect on the female psyche.
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And they LOVE it.
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I don't think that's quite true. I'm a nicely put together gal who loves to look nice but I do it on a thrift budget, ebay.... I never watch television, and when I do, it's a few minutes of my husband's "Ancient Aliens" episode. I read voraciously and go online, here, other sites, always learning. To look at me you'd think I was into shallow pursuits, but that's the outside talking and it's deceptive. I wouldn't watch reality tv or buy into that consumer bullshit brainwashing to save my life. There are a few of us out there, OP... you just need to be choosy and be careful. I see some of the women around me, with the exception of my closest friend, falling prey to the reality tv virus and it's disgusting. I really don't get it at all. My husband and I struggle financially, here and there, as many of us do, and I don't need to watch the reality stuff, which is nothing more than a corrupted fantasy of what life could never really be. He does alright by me and I by him, and that's all I need.
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OP: don't listen to these women.

the real story is that in the last 50 years, men have been stripped of all their rights, certainly in marriage, and probably in civil life as well. While we try and tolerate these odious harpies, they tell us they are 'disadvantaged' and in need of more 'equalization' and adjustment of rights and privileges.

the next phase we'll experience is one where men simply stop marrying altogether. Today, marriage isn't something the smart and successful men generally do, its what the losers do. The average American woman will spend her late teens, 20s and 30s fucking every guy shes sees, sleeping with douchebags and thugs, and basically being a complete whore. When she realizes she doesn't quite have the magic pussy anymore (usually at an age somewhere between 28-35), at this point she find some loser, gives him some pussy which he rarely gets, and get's him to believe he just won some really difficult contest by getting her. Any discussions about her past love life is absolutely off the table, or some various excuses are made. This loser inevitably has some kind of income or assets that she can use- this is the most important standard by which she measures this person whom she will refer to as 'the love of her life' (that she meets when she begins to lose her physical attractiveness). She promptly removes all people who might conflict with this theatrical performance- ex-boyfriends, rational family members, etc.

Marriage was once a very different proposition. Women got married not long after reaching sexual maturity. Women who slept around were looked down on. Women who had children without a father were shamed.

So, today after seeing an absolutely epidemic of divorce, single motherhood, unabashed whoredom, etc. Men are SIMPLY GIVING UP. There is no awards in marriage. Family is not one of them. Sex is not one of them. Companionship is not one of them.
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OP..Im a woman, and from my point of view..those reality shows are cancer.

Honestly, if I were you..here is what I would do.


*Plan a romantic dinner, that YOU cooked, since you are a chef.
Surprise her with candles and rose petals on a lovely table cloth. A bottle of good champagne on ice.

*Turn on some soft music. Unplug the damn tv.

*Sit down and eat and drink and relax. Toast your marriage.

*Then look her in the eyes and TELL her from your heart how much it hurts.

If that doesnt work..then she's too far gone :)

Good luck to you, sir.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 6993099


Thank you, this is something I will definitely consider.

I'm at the point now where I'm willing to try anything.

Yes, I think it's worth saving.

She's not a bad person by any means.
 Quoting: Blue Dwarf


Romantic dinner may work, it's worth a shot but probably will not because women operate on their feelings so when the good feelings from the romantic dinner wears off she will likely revert to previous / true form. If that happens, and it probably will, you need to cut her loose.

Move on with your life, follow your path, create your own destiny--this will make you confident and women are attracted to confident men like bees to honey. From a confident position invite women into your life, they stay as long as both parties are enjoying the relationship, when she starts bucking up, cut her loose. Repeat as necessary. NEVER marry and NEVER have a kid because you lose your life and identity--you become a legal wage slave! If you are not married (NEVER marry) and she comes up with a kid, you may have to pay for the kid but NEVER marry her because she has just proven herself to be duplicitious. Marrying her will NOT create a family, it will make you her legal wage slave.

Doing your own thing, not marrying and not having kids may sound counter intuitive but women want what they can't have and if you create your own confident life you will not lack for women. Just NEVER EVER marry.

NEVER believe what your girlfriend or wife says, only believe her actions-what she does.
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OP: don't listen to these women.

the real story is that in the last 50 years, men have been stripped of all their rights, certainly in marriage, and probably in civil life as well. While we try and tolerate these odious harpies, they tell us they are 'disadvantaged' and in need of more 'equalization' and adjustment of rights and privileges.

the next phase we'll experience is one where men simply stop marrying altogether. Today, marriage isn't something the smart and successful men generally do, its what the losers do. The average American woman will spend her late teens, 20s and 30s fucking every guy shes sees, sleeping with douchebags and thugs, and basically being a complete whore. When she realizes she doesn't quite have the magic pussy anymore (usually at an age somewhere between 28-35), at this point she find some loser, gives him some pussy which he rarely gets, and get's him to believe he just won some really difficult contest by getting her. Any discussions about her past love life is absolutely off the table, or some various excuses are made. This loser inevitably has some kind of income or assets that she can use- this is the most important standard by which she measures this person whom she will refer to as 'the love of her life' (that she meets when she begins to lose her physical attractiveness). She promptly removes all people who might conflict with this theatrical performance- ex-boyfriends, rational family members, etc.

Marriage was once a very different proposition. Women got married not long after reaching sexual maturity. Women who slept around were looked down on. Women who had children without a father were shamed.

So, today after seeing an absolutely epidemic of divorce, single motherhood, unabashed whoredom, etc. Men are SIMPLY GIVING UP. There is no awards in marriage. Family is not one of them. Sex is not one of them. Companionship is not one of them.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 8710135


There is a lot of truth here. I married young and learned the hard way and have since given up on it. It's the only way to fight back, why be a chump to whores who use you and then discard you like trash.

I see a lot of men who have gone the other way though and are no better. Serial relationships and sleeping with girlfriend after girlfriend without committing. They are helping destroy any virtue that may be left. I'm not a prude but would like to live in a world with men and women with a very high sense of self worth and integrity.
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OP..Im a woman, and from my point of view..those reality shows are cancer.

Honestly, if I were you..here is what I would do.


*Plan a romantic dinner, that YOU cooked, since you are a chef.
Surprise her with candles and rose petals on a lovely table cloth. A bottle of good champagne on ice.

*Turn on some soft music. Unplug the damn tv.

*Sit down and eat and drink and relax. Toast your marriage.

*Then look her in the eyes and TELL her from your heart how much it hurts.

If that doesnt work..then she's too far gone :)

Good luck to you, sir.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 6993099


Thank you, this is something I will definitely consider.

I'm at the point now where I'm willing to try anything.

Yes, I think it's worth saving.

She's not a bad person by any means.
 Quoting: Blue Dwarf


Romantic dinner may work, it's worth a shot but probably will not because women operate on their feelings so when the good feelings from the romantic dinner wears off she will likely revert to previous / true form. If that happens, and it probably will, you need to cut her loose.

Move on with your life, follow your path, create your own destiny--this will make you confident and women are attracted to confident men like bees to honey. From a confident position invite women into your life, they stay as long as both parties are enjoying the relationship, when she starts bucking up, cut her loose. Repeat as necessary. NEVER marry and NEVER have a kid because you lose your life and identity--you become a legal wage slave! If you are not married (NEVER marry) and she comes up with a kid, you may have to pay for the kid but NEVER marry her because she has just proven herself to be duplicitious. Marrying her will NOT create a family, it will make you her legal wage slave.

 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1580794


when a girl marries relatively young, she might marry because she thinks you have POTENTIAL to make money. If you do eventually make some dough, she will then want to have children to make the relationship much more permanent. If you're poor, she wont want to have kids, will probably cheat or ask for a divorce. OP: In your case it seems you didn't quite live up to her expectations, wants to make no more children with you because you'll neither provide a high standard of living in marriage or a nice paycheck outside of marriage, and wants to try the game with other men. If you really want to keep her, don't listen to her crap or any of the other stupid whores on this board, just make more money- her thinking will make a complete 180 degree turn. Women will NEVER admit that this is what is driving them, few of them are even aware, hence the mind of the woman- it's not much more advanced than a child.

these days though, in marriage all the risk, all the work, all the stress, all the SHIT is on the male. It's a fact, look at what the world of 'women's rights' has been saying for the past 50 years. They accuse Men of an millenia old conspiracy where they seized power from women and fooled them into assuming their (natural) roles. Im sure some reading this thread actually believe this shit.
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I have noticed a LOT of women have changed after watching all of those sick reality shows, especially the Real Housewives crap.
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I have noticed a LOT of women have changed after watching all of those sick reality shows, especially the Real Housewives crap.
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It's just a matter of perspective. I watch Housewives and instead of feeling jealous I keep thinking, they have all the money they need, get to go on vacations, look fabulous and still have problems, fight, etc. It proves to me that money can't buy happiness. We rarely fight and support each other, so I'm lucky to have a good marriage but I'm also a mid-westerner and maybe that makes a different. We value people over plastic and value work ethic/family ethic more than money and showing off. (We have a few show-offs, too but no pressure to compete).
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My wife used to watch mtv. So i cancelled the cable. Haven't had tv in five years. You have to manage your woman, dude. Not like a redneck dickhead but as the leader of the family sometimes you need to make decisions that benefit everyone's ultimate welfare. If she bitches, so what. She'll get over it. And if she doesnt then syonara sucker. Have a nice life. Some things require a fatalistic attitude.

Some modern day brainwashed chicks may not agree with my methods and same with wimpy ass femenized dudes. But if i let my wife run the show we'd be destitute in debt. My boys would be gay. And my daughter would be a slut. Thats just the hard facts. A woman's perception base is not the same as a man's. And perhaps, just perhaps, a man's understanding of the big picture is more accurate. I don't see guys reading cosmo as a source of enlightenment.

As a result of assuming head of household, my family is completely debt free, minus cell phone bills. Our cars and house are paid for outright. Our kids are outstanding individuals that exercise good judgement and take zero amount of shit from anyone including their teachers. They will be leaders in their community as adults.

So maybe her downward spiral into manchurian tv brainwashing is simply a reflection of your choice to not take your position as leader of the family. Enforce a moral code. Set clear and consistant standards for everyone, including your wife. Life and family life is not a bobbleheaded happy go lucky drift through time. It requires work, attention to detail, and duty. All of these things are a manifestation of love. Follow this path, with tenderness, and your wife will feel secure and protected. She will respond in ways you cant imagine. Im married 7 years now and my wife jumps on me every night. She has nothing to fear or stress. She is healthy for no television. Instead we read books and take walks. I listen to her chatter endlessly about everything on her mind. Tv kills families and marriages. So does facebook. Good luck.
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My wife used to watch mtv. So i cancelled the cable. Haven't had tv in five years. You have to manage your woman, dude. Not like a redneck dickhead but as the leader of the family sometimes you need to make decisions that benefit everyone's ultimate welfare. If she bitches, so what. She'll get over it. And if she doesnt then syonara sucker. Have a nice life. Some things require a fatalistic attitude.

Some modern day brainwashed chicks may not agree with my methods and same with wimpy ass femenized dudes. But if i let my wife run the show we'd be destitute in debt. My boys would be gay. And my daughter would be a slut. Thats just the hard facts. A woman's perception base is not the same as a man's. And perhaps, just perhaps, a man's understanding of the big picture is more accurate. I don't see guys reading cosmo as a source of enlightenment.

As a result of assuming head of household, my family is completely debt free, minus cell phone bills. Our cars and house are paid for outright. Our kids are outstanding individuals that exercise good judgement and take zero amount of shit from anyone including their teachers. They will be leaders in their community as adults.

So maybe her downward spiral into manchurian tv brainwashing is simply a reflection of your choice to not take your position as leader of the family. Enforce a moral code. Set clear and consistant standards for everyone, including your wife. Life and family life is not a bobbleheaded happy go lucky drift through time. It requires work, attention to detail, and duty. All of these things are a manifestation of love. Follow this path, with tenderness, and your wife will feel secure and protected. She will respond in ways you cant imagine. Im married 7 years now and my wife jumps on me every night. She has nothing to fear or stress. She is healthy for no television. Instead we read books and take walks. I listen to her chatter endlessly about everything on her mind. Tv kills families and marriages. So does facebook. Good luck.
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bump bumpbump bumpbump
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a big part of the issue with these problem women is they were raised by their mothers who divorced their fathers. These 60s 'liberated' women have zero sense of obligation, responsibility, or even reason.
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find a nice guy whos only interest is your butthole...sideways
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find a nice guy whos only interest is your butthole...sideways
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There's another question. Why are straight men acting gay these days. There's a proper place to put that and you're supposed to be happy to put it there, if it makes you happy to be thinking about putting in the exit, maybe you need to find out who you are before dating women.
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other day she freaked out over something small and talked to me in that condesending way and I just looked at her and smailed and said "thanks for that - you reminded me why I will never have a serious relationship again
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Don't you just hate that when that starts?
...Last time i'll put up with that again!
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My wife used to watch mtv. So i cancelled the cable. Haven't had tv in five years. You have to manage your woman, dude. Not like a redneck dickhead but as the leader of the family sometimes you need to make decisions that benefit everyone's ultimate welfare. If she bitches, so what. She'll get over it. And if she doesnt then syonara sucker. Have a nice life. Some things require a fatalistic attitude.

Some modern day brainwashed chicks may not agree with my methods and same with wimpy ass femenized dudes. But if i let my wife run the show we'd be destitute in debt. My boys would be gay. And my daughter would be a slut. Thats just the hard facts. A woman's perception base is not the same as a man's. And perhaps, just perhaps, a man's understanding of the big picture is more accurate. I don't see guys reading cosmo as a source of enlightenment.

As a result of assuming head of household, my family is completely debt free, minus cell phone bills. Our cars and house are paid for outright. Our kids are outstanding individuals that exercise good judgement and take zero amount of shit from anyone including their teachers. They will be leaders in their community as adults.

So maybe her downward spiral into manchurian tv brainwashing is simply a reflection of your choice to not take your position as leader of the family. Enforce a moral code. Set clear and consistant standards for everyone, including your wife. Life and family life is not a bobbleheaded happy go lucky drift through time. It requires work, attention to detail, and duty. All of these things are a manifestation of love. Follow this path, with tenderness, and your wife will feel secure and protected. She will respond in ways you cant imagine. Im married 7 years now and my wife jumps on me every night. She has nothing to fear or stress. She is healthy for no television. Instead we read books and take walks. I listen to her chatter endlessly about everything on her mind. Tv kills families and marriages. So does facebook. Good luck.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 2066288


Thank you for this.

It really made me think.

I appreciate everyone's response in this thread, I really do.

GLP shines through again.
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Didn't the wedding vows mean anything to you? For richer or poorer? Some people get married and think, Oh my life is going to be perfect now. Marriage is full of ups and downs. You have to take the good with the bad and accept people for who they are. Blaming women is just immature.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 8686376


Trust me, I took my vows very seriously.

I'm willing to try and make the marriage work still.

I can guarantee we don't have the most fucked up marriage out there. Not even close.

Which makes it all the more frustrating that she wants to end it.

Let me repeat, SHE is the one that wants to end it.

I don't.

But, if it comes to that, I will have to move on.

And it certainly seems like it's going to come to that.
 Quoting: Blue Dwarf


Oh.... SHE wants to end it.... Big difference. Time to leave man, seriously. She's been thinking about this a long, long time, all the 5 hr a day reality TV shows are a distraction.... to dull what's hurting her inside.
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I'm also done with serious, and long-term relationships.

I'm taking a break from you women.

There's a very good chance I'll be getting a divorce. Soon.

I'll admit, I'm not the most perfect person, and I'm also not the most "perfect" husband. We all have our faults.

BUT, I'm not a drunk/drug abuser, I never abused her physically/mentally, not did I ever fuck any other women.

"So why are you getting a divorce then," you might ask?

That's a very, very good question.

My wife has been living in a reality fantasy world for the last 5 years or so. She literally comes home from work, plops her behind on the couch and goes through the routine of watching these shitty "reality" shows night after night.

She wishes she was one of those millionaire housewives, who have access to lots of $$$, fancy cars, and opportunities to travel abroad, and rub elbows with the elite.

I'm a simple man of modest means. I'm not a materialistic person. I don't chase the money. Never have, never will. I don't need a fancy car, or the big house. Just give me internet access, some books to read, a few games/movies, and I'm set.

Do I have the greatest job in the world? I think I do. I'm a cook, hoping to one day become a chef (still a long ways off). I work a lot of hours and hardly make a dime, but I'm happy, and that's all that matters.

Her words have stuck with me since we got together. "Baby, I don't need money. I just want us/you to be happy. That's all that matters to me."

How quickly she changed her tune.

Yes, people change over time. People grow out of love.

But this one is just frustrating.

She says one thing, and does another.

Her favorite trick is to avoid confrontation all together, and then one day when it begins to boil over, she just let's it all out, completely dumping on me and taking me by surprise.

And here I thought things were good.

I'm just ranting now, probably not even making sense.

I feel like I can't trust anyone right now, especially the female.

I really wish someone would have knocked some sense into me, and talked me out of the idea of marriage before I got myself too deep into it.

It's turned out to be the biggest mistake of my life.

It hurts too.

Marriage sucks, and it especially sucks to watch someone you've been with for 12 years change so drastically and become so shallow, and selfish.
 Quoting: Blue Dwarf


Don't trust a woman. Ever! Glad to know you know. It's not just the American women or women from Western countries. It is global.

I was close to getting married to an Indonesian girl, but I woke up just in time. It would have been the biggest mistake of my life.

Move on and you'll be fine.
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when you both do not have any time for love
then love will no longer exist in your lives

what ever you focus on in life you make real

you both need time to focuson your love
before it really is just too late ...red_heart
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How many guys say "never get married"?

How many actually listen?

I'm 27 and not getting married unless she's got mad money and health insurance.

I've seen way too many relationships fall apart. I don't see the purpose. Too much potential to go very wrong.

I mean maybe in 10 years, but by then I'll have my pick of slutty 21-25 year olds. 10 years after that my pick of 29-33 year old single moms. 10 years after that rich business/corporate women who will provide my retirement. lol
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Life should be a non-stop episode of the Bachelorette for the Westernized women?
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My wife used to watch mtv. So i cancelled the cable. Haven't had tv in five years. You have to manage your woman, dude. Not like a redneck dickhead but as the leader of the family sometimes you need to make decisions that benefit everyone's ultimate welfare. If she bitches, so what. She'll get over it. And if she doesnt then syonara sucker. Have a nice life. Some things require a fatalistic attitude.

Some modern day brainwashed chicks may not agree with my methods and same with wimpy ass femenized dudes. But if i let my wife run the show we'd be destitute in debt. My boys would be gay. And my daughter would be a slut. Thats just the hard facts. A woman's perception base is not the same as a man's. And perhaps, just perhaps, a man's understanding of the big picture is more accurate. I don't see guys reading cosmo as a source of enlightenment.

As a result of assuming head of household, my family is completely debt free, minus cell phone bills. Our cars and house are paid for outright. Our kids are outstanding individuals that exercise good judgement and take zero amount of shit from anyone including their teachers. They will be leaders in their community as adults.

So maybe her downward spiral into manchurian tv brainwashing is simply a reflection of your choice to not take your position as leader of the family. Enforce a moral code. Set clear and consistant standards for everyone, including your wife. Life and family life is not a bobbleheaded happy go lucky drift through time. It requires work, attention to detail, and duty. All of these things are a manifestation of love. Follow this path, with tenderness, and your wife will feel secure and protected. She will respond in ways you cant imagine. Im married 7 years now and my wife jumps on me every night. She has nothing to fear or stress. She is healthy for no television. Instead we read books and take walks. I listen to her chatter endlessly about everything on her mind. Tv kills families and marriages. So does facebook. Good luck.
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Excellent post.
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LOL epic, the men who picked the dolled up, high maintenance whore-bots are now mad that their whore-bot ramped up her high maintenance needs. Ahem, men this is what you get for thinking with your dicks and not your brains. Here I was, a nice gal, no men giving me much attention for years! All the bimbos got men, but us good girls, who cared about us? I finally found my man 8 years ago and we got married, and we was worth the wait. I thoroughly resent being tossed in the same pail with gold-digging, dishonest harpies because I am not. Face it, that's what you wanted, and that's what you got, now assume personal responsibility and stop trashing ALL women. Trash YOUR bad choice and move the hell on.
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I bet she enjoys 'keeping up with the kardashians'.... *vomit*

"You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger"
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My wife used to watch mtv. So i cancelled the cable. Haven't had tv in five years. You have to manage your woman, dude. Not like a redneck dickhead but as the leader of the family sometimes you need to make decisions that benefit everyone's ultimate welfare. If she bitches, so what. She'll get over it. And if she doesnt then syonara sucker. Have a nice life. Some things require a fatalistic attitude.

Some modern day brainwashed chicks may not agree with my methods and same with wimpy ass femenized dudes. But if i let my wife run the show we'd be destitute in debt. My boys would be gay. And my daughter would be a slut. Thats just the hard facts. A woman's perception base is not the same as a man's. And perhaps, just perhaps, a man's understanding of the big picture is more accurate. I don't see guys reading cosmo as a source of enlightenment.

As a result of assuming head of household, my family is completely debt free, minus cell phone bills. Our cars and house are paid for outright. Our kids are outstanding individuals that exercise good judgement and take zero amount of shit from anyone including their teachers. They will be leaders in their community as adults.

So maybe her downward spiral into manchurian tv brainwashing is simply a reflection of your choice to not take your position as leader of the family. Enforce a moral code. Set clear and consistant standards for everyone, including your wife. Life and family life is not a bobbleheaded happy go lucky drift through time. It requires work, attention to detail, and duty. All of these things are a manifestation of love. Follow this path, with tenderness, and your wife will feel secure and protected. She will respond in ways you cant imagine. Im married 7 years now and my wife jumps on me every night. She has nothing to fear or stress. She is healthy for no television. Instead we read books and take walks. I listen to her chatter endlessly about everything on her mind. Tv kills families and marriages. So does facebook. Good luck.
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Excellent post.
 Quoting: Mister Obvious


Sounds great. Not saying this dude is not on top of his game but also realize he got lucky because maybe 5% of American women will respond to his management the other 95% will call the cable TV service for reconnection of her $150 per month Real Housewives special then bang the cable guy when he arrives at her front door. Some men win in Vegas but most don't. He is playing with fire and odds are he will eventually get burned. His wife is holding all the cards, 3 kids and no job, she has a hormone surge one month and decides she wants a change she will get the kids, the house, child support and alimony. He will get to sleep in his car and pay the bills, his marriage management skills will mean squat.
Do NOT marry.
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Re: I'm DONE with Marriage...
Sounds great. Not saying this dude is not on top of his game but also realize he got lucky because maybe 5% of American women will respond to his management the other 95% will call the cable TV service for reconnection of her $150 per month Real Housewives special then bang the cable guy when he arrives at her front door.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1580794




Nah, you would be surprised how easily controlled people truly are. If OP actually laid down the law that there was gonna be no more TV, his wife would probably freak the hell out, at which time he should fuck that pussy hard and show her who's boss. And then after a while she would begin to admire his authority and braveness in exerting it.

He either tries this (what can it hurt?) or does nothing and his marriage definitely fails... and it sounds like he still loves her, so. Better than nothing.
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01/12/2012 07:00 PM
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Re: I'm DONE with Marriage...
Doctor Enoch prescribes you fly to Bangkok and take two bar girls and call me in the morning.ohyeah
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01/12/2012 07:07 PM
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The secret to success with women is you must be 60% dominant over them

I have time and time again tried to be equal in relationships and it doesnt work. As soon as you play the boss and act dominant over them they begin to respect you, its in them.

Soon as they smell weakness and bending over to them its finished ...bang bang nails in the coffin over.

Be the boss, in control and all is good
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This is true. Without it, women will have no respect for the man.
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01/12/2012 07:18 PM
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Doctor Enoch prescribes you fly to Bangkok and take two bar girls and call me in the morning.ohyeah
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Those aren't girls ;)
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01/12/2012 07:27 PM
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Well, I can say with certainty now, it is officially over.

We've had some really heart-to-heart conversations over the past 24 hours (neither of us has really slept much), and came
to the conclusion that the marriage is beyond saving.

I stated my case, and let her know that I wanted to try and save the marriage, but she is not budging.

It's over.

Put a nail in the coffin.

Now it's time to work in the details and look to the horizon.

It hurts right now, but I know good things are around the corner for me. They have to be.
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01/12/2012 09:02 PM
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For you man, cheer up.
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01/12/2012 09:17 PM
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I'm also done with serious, and long-term relationships.

I'm taking a break from you women.

There's a very good chance I'll be getting a divorce. Soon.

I'll admit, I'm not the most perfect person, and I'm also not the most "perfect" husband. We all have our faults.

BUT, I'm not a drunk/drug abuser, I never abused her physically/mentally, not did I ever fuck any other women.

"So why are you getting a divorce then," you might ask?

That's a very, very good question.

My wife has been living in a reality fantasy world for the last 5 years or so. She literally comes home from work, plops her behind on the couch and goes through the routine of watching these shitty "reality" shows night after night.

She wishes she was one of those millionaire housewives, who have access to lots of $$$, fancy cars, and opportunities to travel abroad, and rub elbows with the elite.

I'm a simple man of modest means. I'm not a materialistic person. I don't chase the money. Never have, never will. I don't need a fancy car, or the big house. Just give me internet access, some books to read, a few games/movies, and I'm set.

Do I have the greatest job in the world? I think I do. I'm a cook, hoping to one day become a chef (still a long ways off). I work a lot of hours and hardly make a dime, but I'm happy, and that's all that matters.

Her words have stuck with me since we got together. "Baby, I don't need money. I just want us/you to be happy. That's all that matters to me."

How quickly she changed her tune.

Yes, people change over time. People grow out of love.

But this one is just frustrating.

She says one thing, and does another.

Her favorite trick is to avoid confrontation all together, and then one day when it begins to boil over, she just let's it all out, completely dumping on me and taking me by surprise.

And here I thought things were good.

I'm just ranting now, probably not even making sense.

I feel like I can't trust anyone right now, especially the female.

I really wish someone would have knocked some sense into me, and talked me out of the idea of marriage before I got myself too deep into it.

It's turned out to be the biggest mistake of my life.

It hurts too.

Marriage sucks, and it especially sucks to watch someone you've been with for 12 years change so drastically and become so shallow, and selfish.
 Quoting: Blue Dwarf




Your wife has been brainwashed by television. You need to get rid of the tv set, set her down and explain that you are the head of the household (husband means "band of the house"), and your are the spiritual head of the family. Husbands and wives are responsible for their spouse's spiritual growth and well-being. Since you are "old fashioned", then some old time religion is in order. You both should turn to the Lord for help, ask Him to lead you and guide you and rule in your hearts, and you will both then, by searching the Scriptures, be able to manage your lives successfully and let Christ rule your lives. That's the only way to live successfully. It sounds like your lives are empty. The authentic Christian life, ahcieved by giving control of your life to Christ and searching the Scriptures, is the only whole life there is. God said, "Be holy"...Holy means whole....having a life of wholeness, completeness. He is the Way. (nondenominational, I've not talking about churchiness or buildings, or religious organizations....I am referring to a day to day life controlled by the personal Savior.)

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