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I'm DONE with Marriage...

 
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Well, I can say with certainty now, it is officially over.

We've had some really heart-to-heart conversations over the past 24 hours (neither of us has really slept much), and came
to the conclusion that the marriage is beyond saving.

I stated my case, and let her know that I wanted to try and save the marriage, but she is not budging.

It's over.

Put a nail in the coffin.

Now it's time to work in the details and look to the horizon.

It hurts right now, but I know good things are around the corner for me. They have to be.
 Quoting: Blue Dwarf




If you are both willing....your marriage can be saved, and you can have a whole, complete, fulfilling life. Jesus is the only way. I have been married once, to one man, for over 48 years, and we never could have been happy or even stayed together without the personal, saving relationship with Jesus. He saves us, not just to go to heaven, but to live this life successfully and to make our marriages strong and complete. It's the only way.
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Well, I can say with certainty now, it is officially over.

We've had some really heart-to-heart conversations over the past 24 hours (neither of us has really slept much), and came
to the conclusion that the marriage is beyond saving.

I stated my case, and let her know that I wanted to try and save the marriage, but she is not budging.

It's over.

Put a nail in the coffin.

Now it's time to work in the details and look to the horizon.

It hurts right now, but I know good things are around the corner for me. They have to be.
 Quoting: Blue Dwarf




Remember this.

She was a miserable person to live with, burn into your brain the misery should put you through.

Place a picture into your mind of her ignoring you and watching the TV. DO IT NOW.

When the hurt really starts to roll in, it will sustain you and help you not fall back wards, and back toward her. Yes. things can and will get better.

Time heals all wounds.
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It's Sad how disposable Marriage is Now today
But if your wife wants a Divorce and it's unfix-able

Get YOUR stuff you care about now and put it in storage when she isn't looking, otherwise She will sell it.

If you catch her in the arms of another man you have a legitimate reason for divorce and you wont have to pay a cent!

Then you can go to Thailand or the Philippines
& You won't even Remember Your Bitter Ex-Wife's Name Anymore

Your New Wife will treat you like a King!

Good Luck Whatever Happens
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12 years isn't exactly "going the distance."

Considering all those things you mentioned that never even happened, it doesn't really sound like the relationship is damaged beyond recognition, I mean really. It sounds like far worse could be the case.

There are always times in a relationship when we feel like we fall out of love. That's why love is more than is what is required to make a relationship last.

Unfortunately, in western society in particular, people have this unrealistic fantasy, movie-version idea about what marriage is supposed to look like, and all that lovey-dovey crap. But real love involves doing, and not just feeling...it involves sticking though the shit, even when we feel like we want to strangle a person. It's getting through the hard times, because ANYBODY can get through the easy times. It's being there even when we don't want to be. And your character will grow all the more just for doing it.

Imagine if a real tragedy happened to one of you, like an accident or a disfigurement, or if one of you got sick...would you abandon the relationship as a result? This is no different, in that you are both being confronted with a crisis in the relationship. And one, or both of you, are sick (emotionally, relationally, etc.) and it's affecting your relationship with each other.

There's obviously a huge communication problem in your relationship. You may want to consider couples counseling to at least hash some of these things out.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 6313471


Yep, there's definitely a huge communication problem right now. It wasn't always like that, but there is now.

I was always against marriage counseling, etc.

But now that I find myself in this situation, I'm more than willing to try it, and see if it works for us.
 Quoting: Blue Dwarf


Try it. The worse case scenario is it ends but you get to know yourself better. But maybe counseling can save her from making a big mistake and get herself back into reality. Maybe she is having a midlife crises like many men have when they leave their wives for younger women and get a sports car. And then they realize they still aren't happy.

I knew a guy who before getting married a second time went to marriage counseling FIRST with his girlfriend because he was so scared of having problems again. They have been married now for 12 years, work together and have a child and are very happy.

And people do change with time and communication is the key. So is being able to adapt.
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Break the TV.
"The earth is mother of us all, for she is just; but you, because you are unjust have pretended that she is your mother alone; and if you do not stop, I will not permit you to remain upon her."

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Thanks, I appreciate it.

Yeah, it probably is time to move on.

I'm still young enough where I can start fresh, and really try to achieve the goals I've set for myself (if this world is still around in the next few years).

I guess I just haven't been able to admit that it's over; I'm in total denial.

I guess I'm a little old fashioned (thanks to my parents) when it comes to marriage. That it's supposed to last until "till death do us part..."

I hate that I'm just going to become another statistic in the annals of divorce cases.
 Quoting: Blue Dwarf


The TV is GUARANTEED poison to any relationship. So are magazines like Cosmopolitan, romance novels, etc... Anything that INTENTIONALLY gives women unrealistic expectations, and induces a fantasy land coma.

There is a very good REASON that America women are the most selfish, greedy, hypocritical, deceitful, judgmental, unreasonable, irrational, illogical, and utterly INSANE creatures on the entire planet... BAR NONE.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 8620710


THIS!!!
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Her problem is that you're not rich enough to provide a good life for her...get more jobs and make more money that you can give to her! lol

Men and woman are just too different to live together in harmony! :-)
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 8708840


I know you were going for the funny angle, but that's basically what she's saying without really coming out and saying it.

Although she did make a comment once to our daughter...

"Make sure you marry into money..."

I was standing in the same room when she said that.

It hurt.
 Quoting: Blue Dwarf


She is just pissed at herself and is taking it out on the people around her. That is normal. It is a hard dose of reality when you have to realize you have made your reality. She really needs counseling because she will leave you and realize she made a mistake a try to come back. But of course it then may be too late. And everyone thinks money will make things better but when they get it they realize they may have everything they 'think' they want but are still miserable. We see this all the time with the rich and famous when they think 'is this all there is?'. She needs to find peace and happiness within herself because seeking it outside will never work. I feel for her(and you of course)because she is really miserable and will stay that way until she finds contentment within.
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Reality TV has a truly toxic effect on the female psyche.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 8708486


And they LOVE it.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 8620710


Not all love it.
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My wife used to watch mtv. So i cancelled the cable. Haven't had tv in five years. You have to manage your woman, dude. Not like a redneck dickhead but as the leader of the family sometimes you need to make decisions that benefit everyone's ultimate welfare. If she bitches, so what. She'll get over it. And if she doesnt then syonara sucker. Have a nice life. Some things require a fatalistic attitude.

Some modern day brainwashed chicks may not agree with my methods and same with wimpy ass femenized dudes. But if i let my wife run the show we'd be destitute in debt. My boys would be gay. And my daughter would be a slut. Thats just the hard facts. A woman's perception base is not the same as a man's. And perhaps, just perhaps, a man's understanding of the big picture is more accurate. I don't see guys reading cosmo as a source of enlightenment.

As a result of assuming head of household, my family is completely debt free, minus cell phone bills. Our cars and house are paid for outright. Our kids are outstanding individuals that exercise good judgement and take zero amount of shit from anyone including their teachers. They will be leaders in their community as adults.

So maybe her downward spiral into manchurian tv brainwashing is simply a reflection of your choice to not take your position as leader of the family. Enforce a moral code. Set clear and consistant standards for everyone, including your wife. Life and family life is not a bobbleheaded happy go lucky drift through time. It requires work, attention to detail, and duty. All of these things are a manifestation of love. Follow this path, with tenderness, and your wife will feel secure and protected. She will respond in ways you cant imagine. Im married 7 years now and my wife jumps on me every night. She has nothing to fear or stress. She is healthy for no television. Instead we read books and take walks. I listen to her chatter endlessly about everything on her mind. Tv kills families and marriages. So does facebook. Good luck.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 2066288


Now that is great. So many men just don't understand a woman just needs to talk and a man just needs to listen to her which is hard. Women are emotional creatures and need a man to listen and not fix things unless she asks him to. And getting rid of the TV and taking walks is awesome. You have learned well. Someone raised you right or you are just very smart.
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I'm also done with serious, and long-term relationships.

I'm taking a break from you women.

There's a very good chance I'll be getting a divorce. Soon.

I'll admit, I'm not the most perfect person, and I'm also not the most "perfect" husband. We all have our faults.

BUT, I'm not a drunk/drug abuser, I never abused her physically/mentally, not did I ever fuck any other women.

"So why are you getting a divorce then," you might ask?

That's a very, very good question.

My wife has been living in a reality fantasy world for the last 5 years or so. She literally comes home from work, plops her behind on the couch and goes through the routine of watching these shitty "reality" shows night after night.

She wishes she was one of those millionaire housewives, who have access to lots of $$$, fancy cars, and opportunities to travel abroad, and rub elbows with the elite.

I'm a simple man of modest means. I'm not a materialistic person. I don't chase the money. Never have, never will. I don't need a fancy car, or the big house. Just give me internet access, some books to read, a few games/movies, and I'm set.

Do I have the greatest job in the world? I think I do. I'm a cook, hoping to one day become a chef (still a long ways off). I work a lot of hours and hardly make a dime, but I'm happy, and that's all that matters.

Her words have stuck with me since we got together. "Baby, I don't need money. I just want us/you to be happy. That's all that matters to me."

How quickly she changed her tune.

Yes, people change over time. People grow out of love.

But this one is just frustrating.

She says one thing, and does another.

Her favorite trick is to avoid confrontation all together, and then one day when it begins to boil over, she just let's it all out, completely dumping on me and taking me by surprise.

And here I thought things were good.

I'm just ranting now, probably not even making sense.

I feel like I can't trust anyone right now, especially the female.

I really wish someone would have knocked some sense into me, and talked me out of the idea of marriage before I got myself too deep into it.

It's turned out to be the biggest mistake of my life.

It hurts too.

Marriage sucks, and it especially sucks to watch someone you've been with for 12 years change so drastically and become so shallow, and selfish.
 Quoting: Blue Dwarf


Don't trust a woman. Ever! Glad to know you know. It's not just the American women or women from Western countries. It is global.

I was close to getting married to an Indonesian girl, but I woke up just in time. It would have been the biggest mistake of my life.

Move on and you'll be fine.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 8643636


It is global because TV and movies have become global and shape the way TPTB want us to act. Romance novels are also poison.
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The secret to success with women is you must be 60% dominant over them

I have time and time again tried to be equal in relationships and it doesnt work. As soon as you play the boss and act dominant over them they begin to respect you, its in them.

Soon as they smell weakness and bending over to them its finished ...bang bang nails in the coffin over.

Be the boss, in control and all is good
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This is true. Without it, women will have no respect for the man.
 Quoting: Tawandaaaa


I'll second that. A guy has to take charge. There is a time for being kind, romantic and understanding but for the most part you have to be the dominate one. The alpha. Or she will walk over you. A man can learn this.
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American women have been TRAINED by incessant brainwashing through TV, music, magazines, THEIR FRIENDS, etc... to view men as DISPOSABLE, and easily REPLACEABLE. And due to the fact that most men nowadays are nothing more than a horny dick, it is true.

There are 100 wolves in line, to screw your wife just as soon as she is single again... Or.... even BEFORE she is single again. Some men actually GET OFF on that, evil as it may be.

And women have been brainwashed into craving a never-ending "infatuation phase", which is simply NOT possible. Do you know that rush tha you feel when you first fal in love with someone? I call it the infatuation phase, and women nowadays are CONSTANTLY looking to create that feeling, because they have been BRAINWASHED into feeling as if it's normal for tha to be the norm throughout the relationship.

And it IS normal, if your relationships only last 6 months.

Fact is, the infatuation phase normally lasts from around 3 to 6 months, and if you are lucky, a year. but beyond that, there is RARELY anyway to CREATE that initial excitement all over again. and yet women (being the unreasonable creatures that they are) EXPECT that.

You may be the most entertaining and interesting guy in the world, but given enough time, a woman will get bored with you, and start looking for someone else to create that spark all over again. And that is why women really view men as disposable, and eventually do not even EXPECT a relationship to last long.

A woman expects YOU to be funny, interesting, and entertaining, going into a relation, and to MAINTAIN that interest from them, even after they have grown used to you. And yet they offer NOTHING in return, because women realize that they can have the personality of a codfish, or be a total bitch, and still attract men, just because of looks, and the fact that foolish men are driven by hormones.

It used to be, when a woman became bored with you, she still loved you enough to stay in a relationship, and put effort into making it work. But now they just crave that infatuation phase feeling, and expect it to continue indefinitely, which simply is NOT realistic.

No wonder there are so many women who think all men are douche bags, even though these same men were a "one-in-a-million" (according to these same women) for the first year of their relationships.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 8620710

I wish I could just get in a relationship. I long for stability, where the flame goes, and you have to be creative to bring it back.

I'm a woman, 29, and I have a feeling I'll never get married. I don't fit in, I just don't. I thought most men want prissy women who love diamonds, dress in stylish clothes, and put out by the third date, and of course have the body of a porn star.

I have yet to meet a guy who liked simple stuff, had morals, and enjoyed the land (growing and planting, hiking, camping).


OP, I hope there's a way you can work it out, hopefully this is a phase she is going through. I agree with destroying the tv.
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American women have been TRAINED by incessant brainwashing through TV, music, magazines, THEIR FRIENDS, etc... to view men as DISPOSABLE, and easily REPLACEABLE. And due to the fact that most men nowadays are nothing more than a horny dick, it is true.

There are 100 wolves in line, to screw your wife just as soon as she is single again... Or.... even BEFORE she is single again. Some men actually GET OFF on that, evil as it may be.

And women have been brainwashed into craving a never-ending "infatuation phase", which is simply NOT possible. Do you know that rush tha you feel when you first fal in love with someone? I call it the infatuation phase, and women nowadays are CONSTANTLY looking to create that feeling, because they have been BRAINWASHED into feeling as if it's normal for tha to be the norm throughout the relationship.

And it IS normal, if your relationships only last 6 months.

Fact is, the infatuation phase normally lasts from around 3 to 6 months, and if you are lucky, a year. but beyond that, there is RARELY anyway to CREATE that initial excitement all over again. and yet women (being the unreasonable creatures that they are) EXPECT that.

You may be the most entertaining and interesting guy in the world, but given enough time, a woman will get bored with you, and start looking for someone else to create that spark all over again. And that is why women really view men as disposable, and eventually do not even EXPECT a relationship to last long.

A woman expects YOU to be funny, interesting, and entertaining, going into a relation, and to MAINTAIN that interest from them, even after they have grown used to you. And yet they offer NOTHING in return, because women realize that they can have the personality of a codfish, or be a total bitch, and still attract men, just because of looks, and the fact that foolish men are driven by hormones.

It used to be, when a woman became bored with you, she still loved you enough to stay in a relationship, and put effort into making it work. But now they just crave that infatuation phase feeling, and expect it to continue indefinitely, which simply is NOT realistic.

No wonder there are so many women who think all men are douche bags, even though these same men were a "one-in-a-million" (according to these same women) for the first year of their relationships.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 8620710

I wish I could just get in a relationship. I long for stability, where the flame goes, and you have to be creative to bring it back.

I'm a woman, 29, and I have a feeling I'll never get married. I don't fit in, I just don't. I thought most men want prissy women who love diamonds, dress in stylish clothes, and put out by the third date, and of course have the body of a porn star.

I have yet to meet a guy who liked simple stuff, had morals, and enjoyed the land (growing and planting, hiking, camping).


OP, I hope there's a way you can work it out, hopefully this is a phase she is going through. I agree with destroying the tv.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 8101722


I have yet to meet a woman who enjoys those things.

I absolutely love the outdoors!

My soon to be ex wouldn't dare step out of her comfort zone and try to live off the land for a weekend.
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I'm done with so called deep relationships and drama, its so exausting. I'm also over the games women play but claim they don't. It's a never ending struggle of shit tests and trying to push your buttons. I don't need to proove anything to anyone except myself and i don't want to be someone elses 'rock' of stability their alpha male, their fantasy. Be your own rock for goodness sakes. Why can't women just be an equal and respectful mate without "hidden" agendas?
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When you're single you're as happy as you are.

When you're in a relationship you're only as happy as the unhappiest person in the relationship.

I've always been single because I think relationships blow anus. If you didn't need a external source of validation you wouldn't care right now.
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I have to say this has been one of the most, if not THEE most enlightening thread I've ever read...anywhere...including GLP.

5 Stars!

P.S. Good luck OP, just go hate fuck a couple of young dumb-dumbs, and I guarantee you will feel tons better !

pigchef
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American women have been TRAINED by incessant brainwashing through TV, music, magazines, THEIR FRIENDS, etc... to view men as DISPOSABLE, and easily REPLACEABLE. And due to the fact that most men nowadays are nothing more than a horny dick, it is true.

There are 100 wolves in line, to screw your wife just as soon as she is single again... Or.... even BEFORE she is single again. Some men actually GET OFF on that, evil as it may be.

And women have been brainwashed into craving a never-ending "infatuation phase", which is simply NOT possible. Do you know that rush tha you feel when you first fal in love with someone? I call it the infatuation phase, and women nowadays are CONSTANTLY looking to create that feeling, because they have been BRAINWASHED into feeling as if it's normal for tha to be the norm throughout the relationship.

And it IS normal, if your relationships only last 6 months.

Fact is, the infatuation phase normally lasts from around 3 to 6 months, and if you are lucky, a year. but beyond that, there is RARELY anyway to CREATE that initial excitement all over again. and yet women (being the unreasonable creatures that they are) EXPECT that.

You may be the most entertaining and interesting guy in the world, but given enough time, a woman will get bored with you, and start looking for someone else to create that spark all over again. And that is why women really view men as disposable, and eventually do not even EXPECT a relationship to last long.

A woman expects YOU to be funny, interesting, and entertaining, going into a relation, and to MAINTAIN that interest from them, even after they have grown used to you. And yet they offer NOTHING in return, because women realize that they can have the personality of a codfish, or be a total bitch, and still attract men, just because of looks, and the fact that foolish men are driven by hormones.

It used to be, when a woman became bored with you, she still loved you enough to stay in a relationship, and put effort into making it work. But now they just crave that infatuation phase feeling, and expect it to continue indefinitely, which simply is NOT realistic.

No wonder there are so many women who think all men are douche bags, even though these same men were a "one-in-a-million" (according to these same women) for the first year of their relationships.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 8620710

I totally agree with this, and when you look at it from this perspective it all makes some ramnent of sense. I too have been dealing with a somewhat similar situation, but instead of TV I have GLP to blame. She is totally and utterly obsessed with this site and spends day in and day out on here!! It has consume her total being.
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Can totally relate, been thru a divorce after ten years of marriage. Similar circumstances, by the sounds of it. Was hard, but the right thing to do. Sorry to hear, though. I found this book very helpful:
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Best of luck to you. Take care of yourself.
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I'm done with divorce, it totally sucks. Unfortunately, it looks like I'm stuck with it.

It's not at all what it's cracked up to be.
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Only One solution for that..divorce.

Abort your hubby/wife.
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12 yrs is not overnight
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bump
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OP. Their are lots of women who have the same values as you. We all do not watch reality shows and dream of being like them.
Lots of women would love to have the simple things in life. A loving man who can share life with them.

I am sorry that your wife a chosen to want to have a divorce. Maybe now you can find that special person who complements what you are.hugs
:kitten on fence:
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Break the TV.
 Quoting: pool


My thought exactly. Rather than throwing out your wife, throw out the poison spreader!

If she then decides to divorce you for refusing to have a TV, so be it.
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Reality TV has a truly toxic effect on the female psyche.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 8708486


Women are weak, and easy to manipulate. No wonder that Iran and other totalitarian countries plan to introduce media cencorship to restore healthy traditional family values.
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here are a few words of wisdom:

all you say below is true. But what is often ignored are the true nature of 'sex drive' which our entire modern society seems to be obsessed with. Most animals do not have sex more than a few times a year. Humans have convinced themselves that sexual gluttony is perfectly natural and healthy when it most certainly is not. Having sex a few times a year would be considered shameful by most people according to our current value system. But it's not unlike most unhealthy habits, the more you do it, the more you want. And it is part of the 'women empowerment' movement because the simple fact is there is not much else women have to offer men- and the other simple fact is they rely on everything from us. Their traditional charms and enticements have been completely abandoned in favor of this bitching, whoring, sex-machine type that never lives up to the advertisements.

therefore: you want to be happy, don't buy into this sex-crazyness that is shoved down your throats 24/7. Ever notice how often on TV they have to mention explicitly how often this or that couple is having sex? it's not by accident.

just put it down, work on your own happiness. try to avoid negative emotions and negative outlooks. Don't let these horrible women run your life. Avoid them- they only can have influence over you if you let them.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 8710135


In the USSR when people were asked, which things were important for them, sex came only sixth or something like that. They valued more their loved ones, being civilized, education, moral values, hard work and good friendly atmosphere. The socialist system wasn't that materialistic than western model.
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Thanks, I appreciate it.

Yeah, it probably is time to move on.

I'm still young enough where I can start fresh, and really try to achieve the goals I've set for myself (if this world is still around in the next few years).

I guess I just haven't been able to admit that it's over; I'm in total denial.

I guess I'm a little old fashioned (thanks to my parents) when it comes to marriage. That it's supposed to last until "till death do us part..."

I hate that I'm just going to become another statistic in the annals of divorce cases.
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The TV is GUARANTEED poison to any relationship. So are magazines like Cosmopolitan, romance novels, etc... Anything that INTENTIONALLY gives women unrealistic expectations, and induces a fantasy land coma.

There is a very good REASON that America women are the most selfish, greedy, hypocritical, deceitful, judgmental, unreasonable, irrational, illogical, and utterly INSANE creatures on the entire planet... BAR NONE.
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Seriously? You must have some brainless bimbo's floating around you...especially if they buy the crap your selling AC.
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Re: I'm DONE with Marriage...
American women have been TRAINED by incessant brainwashing through TV, music, magazines, THEIR FRIENDS, etc... to view men as DISPOSABLE, and easily REPLACEABLE. And due to the fact that most men nowadays are nothing more than a horny dick, it is true.

There are 100 wolves in line, to screw your wife just as soon as she is single again... Or.... even BEFORE she is single again. Some men actually GET OFF on that, evil as it may be.

And women have been brainwashed into craving a never-ending "infatuation phase", which is simply NOT possible. Do you know that rush tha you feel when you first fal in love with someone? I call it the infatuation phase, and women nowadays are CONSTANTLY looking to create that feeling, because they have been BRAINWASHED into feeling as if it's normal for tha to be the norm throughout the relationship.

And it IS normal, if your relationships only last 6 months.

Fact is, the infatuation phase normally lasts from around 3 to 6 months, and if you are lucky, a year. but beyond that, there is RARELY anyway to CREATE that initial excitement all over again. and yet women (being the unreasonable creatures that they are) EXPECT that.

You may be the most entertaining and interesting guy in the world, but given enough time, a woman will get bored with you, and start looking for someone else to create that spark all over again. And that is why women really view men as disposable, and eventually do not even EXPECT a relationship to last long.

A woman expects YOU to be funny, interesting, and entertaining, going into a relation, and to MAINTAIN that interest from them, even after they have grown used to you. And yet they offer NOTHING in return, because women realize that they can have the personality of a codfish, or be a total bitch, and still attract men, just because of looks, and the fact that foolish men are driven by hormones.

It used to be, when a woman became bored with you, she still loved you enough to stay in a relationship, and put effort into making it work. But now they just crave that infatuation phase feeling, and expect it to continue indefinitely, which simply is NOT realistic.

No wonder there are so many women who think all men are douche bags, even though these same men were a "one-in-a-million" (according to these same women) for the first year of their relationships.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 8620710

I totally agree with this, and when you look at it from this perspective it all makes some ramnent of sense. I too have been dealing with a somewhat similar situation, but instead of TV I have GLP to blame. She is totally and utterly obsessed with this site and spends day in and day out on here!! It has consume her total being.
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Hello Steve!? What are you doing on here...ha ha ha! LMFAO! Now go get a beer and watch your football game like a good hubby.
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Many women are in the same boat, stuck with hubbys who disappear off into a dark hole to play video games, surf the web, scour sports related material, watch porn and Tv and emotionally neglect their families and the reality around them. Of course when their wives divorce them these men claim to have done nothing wrong and didn't deserve it. The women (and men) hurt by these blind fools know otherwise though. If she wont leave fantasy land and live a real life with you, divorce her and move on. Alone at first if need be, but keep your eyes peeled for another opportunity, just don't obsessed over finding it and you'll find your peace.
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Re: I'm DONE with Marriage...
Love is a choice! Love covers a multitude of sin!

I don't know what your vows were to your wife, but I promised my wife that I would love her through richer or poorer, through sickness and health, through better or worse until death do us part.

Don't be a promise breaker, you can choose to let love cover her sin.

Marriage is choosing to love.

Don't give up OP just a season of your life, as long as you choose to love, this frustrating season will pass.

I pray for you.

I'm a 30 yo Male.
 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 8707350


fuk dat...life is too short to not be haapy at the hands of some slit. Get out while u r young and experience life for yourself. Another dude said it spot on that American women are the worst - and the hotter they are the worse they are..u got to pay to play.

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