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Anonymous Coward User ID: 12179291 United States 03/09/2012 03:02 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You're a hypocrite. Quoting: snarky74 1) Divorced - failed at being a husband 2) Living with someone - your example is consistent with how these teens are living. You have no moral ground. Start living right yourself and then worry about others. Wow, Nice reversal there. Can't tell you'r a woman. Make it all the guys' fault. Never mind that his GF has FAILED at a marriage too and is the one who's under-aged daughter is the one fucking under this man's roof all the while he has two youngsters? You're messed-up. It is the man's place to ask her to marry him.......be a man and ask!! Yeah, I'm sure he wants to do that again. Lose half of the half or less that he got from his previous divorce! Lol. Anyway, has it occurred to you that maybe he and the his GF already had this conversation and said Hell no!? |
GeekOfTheWeek User ID: 11223926 United States 03/09/2012 03:02 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I agree, it's YOUR home man. If she is acting like that with her own girl, how are you going to explain that to YOUR girls? Will you allow her way of life change your girls? What is your EX going to do about it when she finds out? Stop letting you see your girls? I wouldn't even take the chance. I love physics. It bonds us eternally, it's what makes our computers work, it's what's in my morning cup of coffee, it's the thing that keeps the universe from vanishing due to lack of belief... |
Sandi_T User ID: 1301649 United States 03/09/2012 03:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Dude, seriously? You're missing your opportunity. Charge him rent, and see how often he stays after that! Then you can point out to the girl that she's obviously not that important, or he'd pay up to shack up! No more requests in the "Strangest things" thread please. :hf: Past Lives requests thread: Thread: That Which Once Was: Past Lives |
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IllumiNaughty User ID: 10964123 United States 03/09/2012 03:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | First you aren't setting the best example. Quoting: Fuhrer D Second, it is your house, your rules. If they don't like it, send them on their way. Where are his parents anyway? some boy coming into your home to steal a bit of fluff, will on his way out decide to take some of your own stuff. If you werent worried about steady snatch, would you still be a perfect match? I wish I could give you Karma for this. You are a modern day Nipsy Russell. The Orignal. Please don't request stalking. I'm just not that into you. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1310640 United States 03/09/2012 03:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You are responsible to protect your 13 & 15 year old. Quoting: Lemon Kick your GF & her daughter out. If it ends the relationship that's the cost of raising your own teenagers with the values you want them to observe and have. you know, women can smell a shag, and be affected by it, without their knowledge, the pheromones, I bet. That's an interesting possibility, regarding the younger girls, sex in the air, means they may get more aware. It really isnt a great situation to be in, and better if sexual tension wasnt part of the custodial visit.. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1367227 United States 03/09/2012 03:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I agree, it's YOUR home man. If she is acting like that with her own girl, how are you going to explain that to YOUR girls? Will you allow her way of life change your girls? What is your EX going to do about it when she finds out? Stop letting you see your girls? I wouldn't even take the chance. Good point, Geek! If the divorce was an unpleasant one, the ex has now been given plenty of ammo to make OP's life miserable. OP is deliberately putting his daughters into danger and the ex is justified is taking measures to prevent future contact with their father. Maybe she divorced him for being an idiot and a weakling in the first place. What they are doing in that house is almost certainly illegal and they deserve whatever they get. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 12179291 United States 03/09/2012 03:16 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | First of all GLP is rough place to ask for advice like this...so expect some off the wall bullshit, with that said... Quoting: SHR Sounds like the adult gf doesn't want the confrontation with the daughter over the situation. Maybe there's some component where she thinks it's going to happen anyway and choose the battle, maybe she doesn't really care, whatever. Either way it is not a good situation to be exposing your much younger daughters to, so it seems like you're trying to be a responsible dad for them. The gf is using her leverage by saying "maybe we'll move out" maybe I'm a hardass, but at that point my response would have been something like, "You won't have to think about it, you're done, pack up and GTFO" Girlfriends come and go, your daughters are your family, do the right thing by them. Sounds like you need to make a stand. There isn't going to be any screwing around in your house with a 17 year old chick and some dude because you have your young daughters to think about. Be a man about it and that is that. The gf will either appreciate and understand, or she isn't worth having as a gf and you're better off with them heading down the road. Well said SHR. I can't believe I agree w/you on something lol. But your'e 100% right on the money on this one! I wouldve told her the samething too. At the moment she spoke those words...I would've said either one of two things 1)Here, I'll make it easier for ya...Get-out! or 2)There's NOTHING to think about. Get-out! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1310640 United States 03/09/2012 03:16 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | First you aren't setting the best example. Quoting: Fuhrer D Second, it is your house, your rules. If they don't like it, send them on their way. Where are his parents anyway? some boy coming into your home to steal a bit of fluff, will on his way out decide to take some of your own stuff. If you werent worried about steady snatch, would you still be a perfect match? I wish I could give you Karma for this. You are a modern day Nipsy Russell. I was down with moms, nipsey, slappy... so pleased to make you happy dealing with issues crappy avoid a fermenting nappy |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 12243045 United States 03/09/2012 03:19 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Some background: I am 47 and my girlfriend is 46. We are both divorced and have been dating for almost 4 years. She and her daughter (17) moved in to my house almost a year ago. Problem: she, my girlfriend, feels it is ok for her daughters boyfriend (of 5 months) to spend night with her in her room...door closed. I have two girls 13 and 15. They are with me half of any given week. I told my girlfriend it is NO WAY acceptable for them to sleep together when my kids are here. I hate to even allow them to sleep together when my kids are not here, but I have acquiesced because she is my girlfriends daughter and don't want to violate boundaries too much. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 11476378 I told my gf recently that I don't want them sleeping together at all in my house and she said well maybe we need to move out. Finally...don't give me the "they are going to have sex no matter" story...it's not about that...its about my "non liberal" view of two young people "shacking" up at my house...playing house. She's getting all the input she wants! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 12244519 New Zealand 03/09/2012 03:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Jeeez they are young and in love , leave em alone. I was sleeping in the same bed as my girl, when she was only 15 (i was 17). But yes its your house bud , so just tell them what your problem is and have a nice day.Stop being a big baby. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 12243419 United States 03/09/2012 03:26 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You're a hypocrite. Quoting: snarky74 1) Divorced - failed at being a husband 2) Living with someone - your example is consistent with how these teens are living. You have no moral ground. Start living right yourself and then worry about others. Wow, Nice reversal there. Can't tell you'r a woman. Make it all the guys' fault. Never mind that his GF has FAILED at a marriage too and is the one who's under-aged daughter is the one fucking under this man's roof all the while he has two youngsters? You're messed-up. It is the man's place to ask her to marry him.......be a man and ask!! Yeah, I'm sure he wants to do that again. Lose half of the half or less that he got from his previous divorce! Lol. Anyway, has it occurred to you that maybe he and the his GF already had this conversation and said Hell no!? Then if he has such high "non-liberal" views he should not have moved in with his gf. What is that saying to his two daughters??? |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 12234339 Canada 03/09/2012 03:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | The real question is what do you value more? Your relationship with this woman, or your daughters? Simple enough. The "maybe we should move out" thing is seriously insulting if that was her first response. Passive aggressive bitch. I would not like that shit one bit. Wrong answer. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 12179291 United States 03/09/2012 03:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 12179291 Wow, Nice reversal there. Can't tell you'r a woman. Make it all the guys' fault. Never mind that his GF has FAILED at a marriage too and is the one who's under-aged daughter is the one fucking under this man's roof all the while he has two youngsters? You're messed-up. It is the man's place to ask her to marry him.......be a man and ask!! Yeah, I'm sure he wants to do that again. Lose half of the half or less that he got from his previous divorce! Lol. Anyway, has it occurred to you that maybe he and the his GF already had this conversation and said Hell no!? Then if he has such high "non-liberal" views he should not have moved in with his gf. What is that saying to his two daughters??? Maybe you should work on your reading comprehension. He said that he let his GF and her family move in with him over a year ago. It's HIS house. |
Beherenow User ID: 8479003 United States 03/09/2012 03:33 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP, can you really be so clueless? You're breaking the damned law! Your GF's kid and her boyfriend are minors and because it's your house, you can be busted for corruption of a minor and who knows what else. Quoting: Sweetshrub This may not be true. First, there is no law in the 50 states that I'm aware of that says you cannot have children that are not of your family stay with you. Second, if you are assuming they are having sex, many states have an age of consent set at 16. Riiiiiiiight, they are working on their maths homework all night long. Then someone misses her monthly... so, who to blame? American jurisprudence is about finding who has the money, and then going for it. Whether it's fines or awards against you, if you are recoverable, more likely you will get sued. The only safe place is to be a broke ass loser with nothing to take, then you are mostly left to whatever you want But the point is that they are *NOT* minors. I don't disagree with you that everyone is sue happy, but legally they may not be minors. That wouldn't stop someone from suing, but that doesn't mean it's illegal. Last Edited by Beherenow on 03/09/2012 03:33 PM |
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IK User ID: 12243968 Switzerland 03/09/2012 03:35 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Jeeez they are young and in love , leave em alone. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 12244519 I was sleeping in the same bed as my girl, when she was only 15 (i was 17). But yes its your house bud , so just tell them what your problem is and have a nice day.Stop being a big baby. common here too, easier to watch the kids.if he does not contribute, and help automaticly, with whatever, then set some rules down, get the facts if they are both ready move out if its not so MATERIALITY DOES NOT ATTACK THE BODY OR THE CONCIOUS FUNCTIONING OF THE MIND; IT ASSAILS THE WILL POWER AND DESTROYS THE MORALE..... MANLY P:HALL "After APRIL 24TH 2009, COUGHING = THREAT.QUOTE IK MAY THE GODS HELP THE GODS! ITS HAPPENED ITS TIME MARCH 11 -2011 |
Beherenow User ID: 8479003 United States 03/09/2012 03:36 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This may not be true. Quoting: Beherenow First, there is no law in the 50 states that I'm aware of that says you cannot have children that are not of your family stay with you. Second, if you are assuming they are having sex, many states have an age of consent set at 16. 'May' not be true? And do you think this babe-in-the-woods of an OP knows which it is? Certainly you have been here long enough to have taken note of our developing police state and our crashing economy, leading many states and counties to bust people indiscriminately in the pursuit of money and property. Local law enforcement can accuse him of running a brothel and take everything he owns. And oh yes, there are restrictions about children staying with you, which can differ from state to state or county to county. Some of my in-laws wanted to send their kids to school in a nearby town and since they lived out in the country, wanted them to stay with other relatives in that town. They couldn't do it until they went and got a 'guardianship' from the court! Needless to say, a talk with legal counsel might save a lot of grief later. In the meantime, OP, be a man and show your slut of a GF the door. 1) May not be true as it is state by state, the OP would have to look into it. 2) They kids couldn't go to school, or the kids couldn't change residency? (which is different that casually staying over). 3) Agree, OP needs to man up. |
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FubarMan User ID: 12215044 United States 03/09/2012 03:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If you don't like it maybe we should move out. She does not respect you and is looking for an out. The relationship is dead and is going no where. Time to cut the dead weight loose from your life. Plus living with this disrespectful bird out of marriage is all around poor form. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 8264381 United States 03/09/2012 04:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hmm, she can, out of HIS fucking house. Quoting: AxE-i-DeNt He's not the one in the wrong here, he's accepting these strangers in his home, he's f'in 47 what he does is his business and nobody can tell him what passes and what doesn't in HIS home. It's normal he's worried and if he doesn't do anything, soon his daughters will be following in the footsteps of the other one and oh boy that point, imagine if he said NO to them?!? That would be double standard. Kick'em the fuck out, this is typical I'm trying to take over your house thing, starts with that ans ends, God knows where, fug-it you don't need that shit. Your daughters are more important. Preach it, brother. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1310640 United States 03/09/2012 04:05 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hmm, she can, out of HIS fucking house. Quoting: AxE-i-DeNt He's not the one in the wrong here, he's accepting these strangers in his home, he's f'in 47 what he does is his business and nobody can tell him what passes and what doesn't in HIS home. It's normal he's worried and if he doesn't do anything, soon his daughters will be following in the footsteps of the other one and oh boy that point, imagine if he said NO to them?!? That would be double standard. Kick'em the fuck out, this is typical I'm trying to take over your house thing, starts with that ans ends, God knows where, fug-it you don't need that shit. Your daughters are more important. Preach it, brother. pretty much, beyatch claiming her turf, no way would I allow some punkass playah to be rubbin his junk theyah, right next to my foyah, |
SHR Forum Administrator 03/09/2012 04:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | First of all GLP is rough place to ask for advice like this...so expect some off the wall bullshit, with that said... Quoting: SHR Sounds like the adult gf doesn't want the confrontation with the daughter over the situation. Maybe there's some component where she thinks it's going to happen anyway and choose the battle, maybe she doesn't really care, whatever. Either way it is not a good situation to be exposing your much younger daughters to, so it seems like you're trying to be a responsible dad for them. The gf is using her leverage by saying "maybe we'll move out" maybe I'm a hardass, but at that point my response would have been something like, "You won't have to think about it, you're done, pack up and GTFO" Girlfriends come and go, your daughters are your family, do the right thing by them. Sounds like you need to make a stand. There isn't going to be any screwing around in your house with a 17 year old chick and some dude because you have your young daughters to think about. Be a man about it and that is that. The gf will either appreciate and understand, or she isn't worth having as a gf and you're better off with them heading down the road. Well said SHR. I can't believe I agree w/you on something lol. But your'e 100% right on the money on this one! I wouldve told her the samething too. At the moment she spoke those words...I would've said either one of two things 1)Here, I'll make it easier for ya...Get-out! or 2)There's NOTHING to think about. Get-out! Eventually everyone agrees with me on something...now YOUR SOUL IS MINE!.... ____________________________________________________ E-mail anytime [email protected] Inquiring about a ban?, include the IP address found here. [link to www.showmemyip.com] Ooooh, see the fire is sweepin' Our very streets today... Burns like a red coal carpet, Mad bulls lost the way... War, children, it's just a shot away...it's just a shot away.... |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 11542196 Canada 03/09/2012 08:48 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | When it comes down to differences in parenting styles, that's when it spells trouble for the couple and it's usually never a good outcome in the end. Here's a suggestion OP, tell your girlfriend that her daughter can sleepover at her boyfriend's place, but not your house. If she still opposes your rules, then you've got to make a decision. |
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Anonymous Coward 03/09/2012 08:52 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | The key here? They moved in to YOUR HOUSE. End of story. You don't like them sleeping together, lay the law down that they don't. If you get backlash, kindly remind everyone that they're living under your roof on your dime. Sounds to me like your GF is nothing but an old leech and she's ruining your home area with her weakness. |