Girlfriends daughter and her boyfriend sleeping together...need input

time for you to move dude- you have diff. values than your partner, so it won't work anyway-just sayin'.

I agree, its not really about the daughter but about your relationship with the mother. If you have been together 4 years and this is an issue you feel strongly about so you be able to come to a resolution with her.

If she won't change her mind and you cannot, then it has become a deal breaker.

So none of you have any morals? You are making a whore of her mother living like that and yet complain when the kids want to do the same thing you are doing.

Sounds like a trashy bunch to me. Grow a pair and set an example for all of them. Isn't that what men are supposed to do?

When life gives you lemons, make lemonade friend.

Wait until her daughter turns 18 and then fuck her and her mom silly! Duh.

My first reaction was 'lesbo'. My second thought was if anybody's hittin' it in your house, it should be YOU.
Plenty of good replies here. Good luck OP.

Quit judging the fucking guy. Who cares if he's divorced?! Most marriages are total bullshit and are only bonded by money, kids, and lies. He came here for some advice not for unfounded elitist insults.

She's 17...that's legal in most states. It's her choice, not his. Being under his roof has nothing to do with it, that's just some dude thinking he needs to have control over other people. If you don't like it kick em out if it's really your house. Mind your business.

You need to have a man-to-man with the bf and put some fear into him. Let him know its your house and your rules and you will have your eye on him. You cant really do anything about the mother-daughter thing, the mom will always try to please her daughter before you and its too late for her to start raising her daughter the way she shouldve been raised.

sounds like you got played by your girlfriend and her daughter for a place to live.pussy will do that to a man,lol.

Get in there and show her how handle to some real man meat, not some 17 year old kid.


She'll soon stop inviting him over and jump into bed with you instead. WIN WIN.

Mmmm?...That I learned "quick" from your mother not to let another woman fuck me over and take half of everything I worked my whole entire adult life for? So, I will NEVER marry again? True story...met my 1st gf I had when we were like 14yrs old back in the day...haven't seen her in like 30yrs. Accidently ran into her at a store the other week...I asked her how her sister was doing too? She told me that here sister has been married 8 Fucking times so far and looking to divorce again!!!!I said let me guess and she's well-off financially now too after taking half from everyone on of here husbands, right? She said "yeah" :( True story.

Sorry, I don't swing that way! ;)

UPDATE:

First off, thank all of you for the awesome input, even the sarcastic the "get both of them" ones...gave me a good laugh.

It has been 4 months since I originally posted this query and I actually had forgotten to check back. I am amazed at the number of responses that said to kick them out. Well, I didn't have too. I went away for three days and when I came home they had moved out. Coincidently, it happened as soon as the daughter graduated. I am so glad that they left. I'll admit that I learned that I was making a mistake and setting a bad example by moving in a woman whom I was not married too. I did give her an engagement ring to make it seem honest.

Funny thing about it all, is that she left without telling me. She called me and told me. She couldn't face me, and when I asked for the ring back, she had to give it to her daughter to bring back. She has not returned any calls, gave no return address on pictures she mailed back to me. What a cad.

All that being said I still am cycling through the grief associated with the ending of a 4 year relationship. It gets better each day, but it will take a while. Time for some "me" time to learn, grow and become better for it.

I learned quite a bit about myself and her, I hope that some of you can learn from my experience. Thanks again for all the
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Thanks for the update OP, interesting!

Glad to hear you're doing well!

Divorced doesn't necessarily mean a man failed at being a husband. It could mean the guy was an excellent husband and chose his spouse poorly because the woman failed at being a wife (for example, during their marriage she cheated on the guy multiple times with many different men).

uuuuuuuuh how'd YOU EXPLAIN this woman and her kid MOVING INTO YOUR HOME to your children ?

c'mon man,wake the F UP.

Give them 4 weeks notice to leave.

In Australia we say that if you take the cow you must also take the calves.

They moved into YOUR house. Lay down the law. Don't compromise your morals for pussy.

Shit MO, we said almost the exact same thing. You creep me out.

Want some input?

Mind your own fucking business. You are just some guy to the daughter, and if I were fucking her, I'd put you in your place.

If you are posting on GLP to get advice on how to run a family you are a sick fucking piece of shit.

Fuck off.

My parents were very strict about me having someone of the opposite sex in my room with the door closed, they wouldn't allow it.

I lived at home a bit past 18 as well, so it wasn't an age thing. It wasn't even a religious thing, they just didn't want that crap to go on in their house and, although it made things terribly inconvenient at times, I respected their wishes. Their house. They had no obligation to house me past 16 or whatever it is.

Your house, your rules. And it's certainly a reasonable thing to ask them not to engage in such things in your home.

Don't grieve over that trash brother.
Only a whore would foster their 17 year old daughter's whore-life.

She (the mother) was living vicariously through her slut daughter.
The daughter brought you the ring back because the mother was a cheat.

Classic cheater move.

They're probably both with new meat for now.

Be glad for your own daughters, that the whore-examples are out of their lives for good.

I know she does.
She'll probably get some input too.

No you wouldn't. You talk big but when the man that pays for the roof over the head of the 17 year old slut you're nailing tells you to STFU, you will back down. Probably smoke some weed, mumble to yourself about how lucky he was that people were around and then do some passive-aggressive shit.

All of the above, especially number one.... Seems if her daughter can't have sex with her boyfriend in the next room then the Mother falls out of love with YOU!

weird.... You'd think the Mother would want a PRIVATE place to have her relationship with you.. not one with her daughter and stud in the next room listening?

weirdy weird...

wow... sorry I should have read further... what a bad bunch!

Hope life is easier for you from now and you meet the right person to share it with.

i think that you and your "girlfriend" need to get married before you have a moral leg to stand on about this whole thing, really. you guys are setting the example.