Well we've been so casual about what we're doing for so long (we have been doing this for years)... that I am afraid that making it too structured may 'break' it.

But my husband and I agree that I should 'set something up' just to see how close he gets (because he still doesn't quite believe its real).

Should I go for uber structured, uber vague like the poster above mentioned -- the way the military does it?

Or should I put some stuff in an evelope and then 'steer' him towards a date or place like I have been doing (more as a suggestion).

What should I use as a guide? Events from my past? Photos of my own or something online?