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What Is The Biggest Problem YOU Have Going On In Your Life Right Now That You Need Help With?
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I was told today that I have lung cancer. I am sitting here in shock right now although I should not be. I have no one to blame but myself. I have smoked a pack of cigarettes a day forever. I am 51 years old. Other than this I am healthy and will do everything medically possible to survive this. I put down the cigarettes at 1 pm today and have not even really had withdrawal symptoms. I am sure they will come but they aren't here yet.
I don't know how to tell my son and my husband had a stroke last year and can't really take care of himself. He is 56.
You can't help with any of this but thanks for asking.
Quoting: Seejanerun 13483314 Even though I don't know you at all, or may never get to know you in the future. I'm really sorry to hear about this. I can't really imagine the emotions running through your being right now. Although it isn't the best of news the great thing is that you're still alive today. And the fact that you put down the cigarettes shows that you are making an extended effort to stick around with us a while longer! If you start to have really bad withdrawal symptoms later on I would at least suggest getting an E-Cigarette they usually don't have nicotine and are very good to help stop smoking all together. Its a way of tricking your mind into thinking its smoking although you're not getting any of the negative effects of it. As for breaking the news to your son, I haven't personally done it but if I were to be put in your position I already know it wouldn't be an easy thing. All you can say is exactly what you've told us here. You knew it was coming and its better to start fixing it now than wait till its too late. Aside from that its best you acknowledge the fact that this isn't going to be an easy road but with persistence and enough laughter you're sure to be fine. I hope for the best in a quick and speedy recovery!
With the partner I think only you know how to best do that but when I told my son about my chronic illness I found some great advice on the web.
It really depends on their age and maturity. The younger they are the more basic you make it and then you answer any questions they ask. Let them be your guide and wait for them to ask for more detail as this shows they are ready to hear more.
My son was older (11 and mature for his age)so I told him in more detail as I did not want him reading it on the web or hearing it from somewhere else.
I told him and I said I was so sorry that I might leave here before he does. That I did not ever want to leave him but that sometimes these things are not our decision to make.
I promised I would always be around even when he could not see me. That I would be proudly watching him and supporting him. When he was sad I would be right by his side loving and helping him. I told him I was sometimes angry and confused that I could not stay in my current form and watch him grow to an old man and that it was really the thing that made me most sad about the whole situation.
We cried together and then after many tears and hugs I told him that he could always ask me anything and I would tell him the truth but that this was not going to become our whole world.
That while there was still breath in my body we were going to pull together as a family and have fun and laughter in our home.
This is a very hard thing to do but it was also the most cathartic experience I have ever had. All my strength sent your way!!!
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