Guys....how do i get my husband to talk to me????

Honey...figure it out now...not like me after 32 years of marriage...

What makes you happy? Do it.

"I am woman hear me roar!"
"I am my own best friend!"


Let go and let live.

My spouse has a "name engraved golden barstool".

Nothing I say or do will ever change the made up mind of a person. Especially if it's got "happy hour" written
all over it!


So I go and do whatever I want.

And...if my spouse dictates to me to do something...I say okay, and then I do exactly what I want to do as if
nothing was ever said.

We don't talk to each other. Watching the samething
over and over each day is old.

Get up, go to work, leave work,
play golf, go to bar, sit on golden bar stool
drink till drunk thirty, grab bites, go to bed.

I refuse to stand at the bar everyday,
it's boring. So let go and let live!

I don't need someone to hold my hand, even though
it would be nice for someone to be nice to me.
Say nice things to me. I'm a sucker for being
treated nice. But I ain't gonna beg for it.

Fuck it. Keep peace in the family,
let him pay the bills and you enjoy life!

For all you guys out there who refuse to talk and communicate with your wives, i just want to know what keeps you from doing so? Why is it so hard to just TALK????

My husband will not talk, and i have tried to talk to him and i am through with trying to "be there for him". I just want to put as much distance as i can because i am so frustrated with not having him to talk to.
For starters, we have been married for 5 yrs now.....i do almost everything around here.....no help from him hardly EVERf. We have 10 acres and there is always a ton of work to do around here.
My husband works for himself and doesn't want to do ANYTHING around here. I have told him before, if he doesn't want to do the work, then PAY SOMEONE ELSE to do it but don't just leave this place go to hell.
I do the housework and the outside work such as gardening, yard work etc... and he will not help at all.
I know the guy loves me as a person, not sure if he is even in love with me anymore (altho he says he is, his actions speak otherwise).
I'm tired of being a maid. I get tired of all his friends/family being allowed to store all their junk here so they don't have to pile up their yards with STUFF.

He has to go to happy hour now every nite...this is since his friend moved out back in his RV (and sponges off my husband who can't say no to him) and the friend goes to happy hour every nite and since he has lived here for 3 yrs my husband goes to happy hour every nite too!!!
I said something in the beginning and he stopped going every nite and then by a couple weeks later he had started going again every nite so i just refuse to say anything ever again about it!
I love him and have tried to talk to him but its just no use, nothing changes and so i just try to avoid him and just go about doing my own thing....otherwise i wouldn't be able to keep my anger in check..... so this way i won't be a nag or show my irritation with him.
If anyone can give any insight on how i can change myself or improve the chances on getting him to talk to me, i welcome your replies before this relationship gets any more sour.

You're the one hurting, he isn't. Men only have about 1/2 the amount of brain material devoted to speech as women. He won't ever talk a lot, no matter what you say. Get over it.
If you want something done around the house, put it on a written Honey do list. If he doesn't do it in a reasonable amount of time, hire someone to do it. Don;'t wait for him to do this, do it yourself. Tell him what you are going to do with the honey do list before you start. You should be entitled to at least as much money for this as he is drinking every night.
Other people can't make you unhappy unless you let them. Just do what you need to do, and stop worrying about it.
Tell the people with shit stored on your property that they need to come and get it before you sell it at auction or yard sale. Say what you mean, and mean what you say.
You've got to demand respect and not be a doormat. Half of your place is YOURS.

This.

And when Women do this it tends to snap us out of our hypnosis long enough to hold a hand or ask "How was your day?" because for once we truly don't know.

Yeah, I really don't know what to say about Men who drink. I think drinking is really intellectually, spiritually and socially awful, and there's no vow I could take that wouldn't be null-and-void by alcoholic behaviour.

Interestingly put.

I enjoy a cold beer, but not to the point of intoxication.

During my teenage years one would look forward to party on the
week-end. Had to get a better buzz than the week-end before.

But as one matures, one puts away certain toys,
certain behaviors, out grows them.

And then...some just like it, some
just don't mature, some have to have it.
Self medicating 110%.


A walk of life.



Peace, Be Still...
Pray For The True Of Jerusalem

Well, that but it's also a disease that progresses into wanton self-destruction, and destruction of those around you who enable you.

Some never get to that point.

I liken it to this:

I'm not going to live with someone who puts one round in the chamber, spins the barrel, holds it to their head and squeezes the trigger once a day and forces me to watch.

If you haven't seen the ultimate horror of Alcohol addiction, smelled it, washed it...you might remain light-hearted and poetic about it.

I've seen it.

did you miss this thread? Thread: Make no mistake Fukashima Is An Extinction Level Event.

There's not a lot of substance in that thread. I'm going to worry about Fukushima when I hear that people are dropping dead in Japan.

Honestly, I'm not sure it's even a real thing. Apart from EQ cleanup, things seem awfully normal over there for an ELE.

Could it be the media is fabricating this story?

Honey...figure it out now...not like me after 32 years of marriage...

What makes you happy? Do it.

"I am woman hear me roar!"
"I am my own best friend!"


Let go and let live.

My spouse has a "name engraved golden barstool".

Nothing I say or do will ever change the made up mind of a person. Especially if it's got "happy hour" written
all over it!


So I go and do whatever I want.

And...if my spouse dictates to me to do something...I say okay, and then I do exactly what I want to do as if
nothing was ever said.

We don't talk to each other. Watching the samething
over and over each day is old.

Get up, go to work, leave work,
play golf, go to bar, sit on golden bar stool
drink till drunk thirty, grab bites, go to bed.

I refuse to stand at the bar everyday,
it's boring. So let go and let live!

I don't need someone to hold my hand, even though
it would be nice for someone to be nice to me.
Say nice things to me. I'm a sucker for being
treated nice. But I ain't gonna beg for it.

Fuck it. Keep peace in the family,
let him pay the bills and you enjoy life!

He has to go to happy hour now every nite...this is since his friend moved out back in his RV (and sponges off my husband who can't say no to him) and the friend goes to happy hour every nite and since he has lived here for 3 yrs my husband goes to happy hour every nite too!!!
I said something in the beginning and he stopped going every nite and then by a couple weeks later he had started going again every nite so i just refuse to say anything ever again about it!
I love him and have tried to talk to him but its just no use, nothing changes and so i just try to avoid him and just go about doing my own thing....otherwise i wouldn't be able to keep my anger in check..... so this way i won't be a nag or show my irritation with him.
If anyone can give any insight on how i can change myself or improve the chances on getting him to talk to me, i welcome your replies before this relationship gets any more sour.

For all you guys out there who refuse to talk and communicate with your wives, i just want to know what keeps you from doing so? Why is it so hard to just TALK????

My husband will not talk, and i have tried to talk to him and i am through with trying to "be there for him". I just want to put as much distance as i can because i am so frustrated with not having him to talk to.
For starters, we have been married for 5 yrs now.....i do almost everything around here.....no help from him hardly EVERf. We have 10 acres and there is always a ton of work to do around here.
My husband works for himself and doesn't want to do ANYTHING around here. I have told him before, if he doesn't want to do the work, then PAY SOMEONE ELSE to do it but don't just leave this place go to hell.
I do the housework and the outside work such as gardening, yard work etc... and he will not help at all.
I know the guy loves me as a person, not sure if he is even in love with me anymore (altho he says he is, his actions speak otherwise).
I'm tired of being a maid. I get tired of all his friends/family being allowed to store all their junk here so they don't have to pile up their yards with STUFF.

He has to go to happy hour now every nite...this is since his friend moved out back in his RV (and sponges off my husband who can't say no to him) and the friend goes to happy hour every nite and since he has lived here for 3 yrs my husband goes to happy hour every nite too!!!
I said something in the beginning and he stopped going every nite and then by a couple weeks later he had started going again every nite so i just refuse to say anything ever again about it!
I love him and have tried to talk to him but its just no use, nothing changes and so i just try to avoid him and just go about doing my own thing....otherwise i wouldn't be able to keep my anger in check..... so this way i won't be a nag or show my irritation with him.
If anyone can give any insight on how i can change myself or improve the chances on getting him to talk to me, i welcome your replies before this relationship gets any more sour.

Sounds like your husband is basically an alcoholic. I've been married to two and have many in my family. It appears you have different goals and interests, which is really annoying in your case because life in the country takes a lot of work.

It's not up to you to change! Nor can YOU change him. I recommend that you google Alanon in your area and go to a meeting. This is a free support group, nationwide, for families of alcoholics. You can hear what others are doing, don't have to say a word yourself unless you want to, and can clarify what you want in your life and what you can do to get that.

Good luck. There are even ways to have your marriage back if your husband should choose recovery over addiction.

Yes, i know exactly what you mean. I too will not beg for companionship and the only reason this is holding together at all is because i allow him to treat me that way because i don't want him to be unhappy.
I have and continue to just do my own thing....the only thing between us is small talk that is totally meaningless and i refuse to do that anymore.....NO MORE!!!
I sold my home and practically gave everything away as that is what he wanted me to do.....BIG MISTAKE!
Now i have no home to return to where i could afford the mortgage on my own, so i don't really have a choice but to stay.
So its either going to come down to he gets tired of it and leaves, continue this charade or he makes the necessary changes because i am unwilling at this point to bend any further to accomodate. I am at my limit...to do otherwise would just be a total doormat.
Hope you found peace....thanks for responding.