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Anonymous Coward User ID: 14410141 United States 04/14/2012 06:52 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm almost certain there's a site that advertises no application will be turned down for any reason, "Match-some-thin", don't give up! Quoting: Lil' Lioness Hate is bad Hate is not "bad" when kept in perspective - it is a healthy, normal emotion. It is only "bad" if someone acts negatively upon it and hurts themselves or innocent people OR if they let it fester due to the false belief that hate is wrong and that they have no right to be open and honest about it. Any human being who says he/she genuinely loves everyone and hates no one - is a fake and a liar. Part of being a decent, civil person with integrity means acknowledging that humans have a range of emotions and that they're all acceptable when dealt with in a rational and fair manner. |
Life and Love User ID: 9710640 United States 04/14/2012 06:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Only someone with low self-esteem will love unconditionally and forgive those who hurt them. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 14410141 Maybe we mean something different when we say "self-esteem," but I have found that those with low self-esteem close up tightly out of fear of being hurt again while those with a healthy self-esteem will take the risk to open up their hearts to love fully and forgive even those who have hurt them. Last Edited by Life and Love on 04/14/2012 06:55 PM We become like that to which we are devoted. - Choose wisely. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 3960075 United States 04/14/2012 06:57 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Only someone with low self-esteem will love unconditionally and forgive those who hurt them. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 14410141 Maybe we mean something different when we say "self-esteem," but I have found that those with low self-esteem close up tightly out of fear of being hurt again while those with a healthy self-esteem will take the risk to open up their hearts to love fully and forgive even those who have hurt them. Point well made! :-) |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 11612753 United States 04/14/2012 06:57 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You're welcome, makes me think too... I might never be tested on the latter, and may never know if my morality is sound as to say, "money wouldn't change me". And I truly believe it would not...yet, the man who has been in both places....surely, he has a better idea? |
Life and Love User ID: 9710640 United States 04/14/2012 06:59 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You're welcome, makes me think too... I might never be tested on the latter, and may never know if my morality is sound as to say, "money wouldn't change me". And I truly believe it would not...yet, the man who has been in both places....surely, he has a better idea? And it sounds so much like the politics we hear every day. We become like that to which we are devoted. - Choose wisely. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 14410141 United States 04/14/2012 07:01 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | How can you stop the fear that sets in when you start feeling the love-I get periods of the love I know it is there but then my mind goes back to being afraid. Afraid that if I don't follow all the rules that I have heard/known that I will be put in Hell-I am so ridiculous And the most bizarre thing is I was never raised religiously, don't go to church and my parents raised me to believe in something, but not religion. Ever since being on GLP I am more scared. I read the things about God/Jesus and then think I better just listen otherwise God will not be with me. But the whole time I have believed in God/Jesus! Oh jeez does this make any sense at all? Sorry....and thanks Quoting: Anonymous Coward 12842609 PS I never put much belief in Hell only because I was taught to focus on love instead. I really think all the Hell stuff is just negativity etc......but then I get scared because I think if I think on my own I will be ignored by God. Maybe that made it clearer I can rewrite this if I need....lol You have to be strong in YOUR belief system - NOT what some religionists dictate to you by using fear and intimidation. The mere fact that anyone would use such disgraceful tactics is very telling and should make you think. Do not let anyone "scare" you into believing that you must think or act a certain way. You need to focus on common sense things like right vs. wrong, good vs. bad . . . if you have been fortunate to have smart, freethinking parents teach you well, then that's a start. But more than anything, you HAVE to open your mind . . . and THINK FOR YOURSELF. Study all religions AND philosophies and make your own decision . . . and when it's all said and done, you might reject all of it and just decide the best thing you can do is just BE . . . BE a good person, BE a student every day of your life . . . BE a decent human being who loves animals and respects nature . . . BE true to YOU, not to a mythical character or fairytale. Don't buy into all the "love is good, hate is bad" stuff - humans have a wide variety of emotions and you must be smart in dealing with all those emotions - to deny them is wrong. Just be civil and fair in all that you do. And never, ever give in to the fear and intimidation perpetuated by others under the guise of religion. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 11612753 United States 04/16/2012 03:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Only someone with low self-esteem will love unconditionally and forgive those who hurt them. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 14410141 Maybe we mean something different when we say "self-esteem," but I have found that those with low self-esteem close up tightly out of fear of being hurt again while those with a healthy self-esteem will take the risk to open up their hearts to love fully and forgive even those who have hurt them. I'm not so sure about this...unfortunately the person with low self-esteem, seeks attention from others as a way of affirmation, to prove to themselves. Would you not agree, those who seek love from many, are seeking something they are missing? IMO, using caution in matters of the heart shows a concern for self, which is self-respect; self-respect is what builds self-esteem. |
Life and Love User ID: 9710640 United States 04/16/2012 04:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Only someone with low self-esteem will love unconditionally and forgive those who hurt them. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 14410141 Maybe we mean something different when we say "self-esteem," but I have found that those with low self-esteem close up tightly out of fear of being hurt again while those with a healthy self-esteem will take the risk to open up their hearts to love fully and forgive even those who have hurt them. I'm not so sure about this...unfortunately the person with low self-esteem, seeks attention from others as a way of affirmation, to prove to themselves. Would you not agree, those who seek love from many, are seeking something they are missing? IMO, using caution in matters of the heart shows a concern for self, which is self-respect; self-respect is what builds self-esteem. I think I am talking about a different aspect of the same thing. A person who is bruised from past relationships hesitates to open up for fear of being bruised further. That person may still seek love from others but seldom receives it due to being so closed up. So he/she may seek and seek and seek... and never quite find. So, yes, the person I have described is missing something they already know about. But without the courage to begin to open up to receive it from others, the love they seek remains illusive. As far as caution goes, I am a naturally encouraging person. It happens whether I think about it or not! I don't often use the word "love" with others because it can be interpreted as romantic love which is not my intent. Rather, I will say, "You matter to me!" I have never been burnt over saying that. In fact, one person with tears in her eyes told me, "No one has ever said that to me before." We become like that to which we are devoted. - Choose wisely. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 11612753 United States 04/16/2012 07:19 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Only someone with low self-esteem will love unconditionally and forgive those who hurt them. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 14410141 Maybe we mean something different when we say "self-esteem," but I have found that those with low self-esteem close up tightly out of fear of being hurt again while those with a healthy self-esteem will take the risk to open up their hearts to love fully and forgive even those who have hurt them. I'm not so sure about this...unfortunately the person with low self-esteem, seeks attention from others as a way of affirmation, to prove to themselves. Would you not agree, those who seek love from many, are seeking something they are missing? IMO, using caution in matters of the heart shows a concern for self, which is self-respect; self-respect is what builds self-esteem. I think I am talking about a different aspect of the same thing. A person who is bruised from past relationships hesitates to open up for fear of being bruised further. That person may still seek love from others but seldom receives it due to being so closed up. So he/she may seek and seek and seek... and never quite find. So, yes, the person I have described is missing something they already know about. But without the courage to begin to open up to receive it from others, the love they seek remains illusive. As far as caution goes, I am a naturally encouraging person. It happens whether I think about it or not! I don't often use the word "love" with others because it can be interpreted as romantic love which is not my intent. Rather, I will say, "You matter to me!" I have never been burnt over saying that. In fact, one person with tears in her eyes told me, "No one has ever said that to me before." [link to www.youtube.com] Yeah that makes sense, and I agree I once told a guy that I had fallen for, when he asked "I like you too much..." And another time, another man I was falling for, "I really care about you". Both were feeling me out, and I took the safe route...but then I wonder why they wanted to know, just to make sure feelings were in check...? The 'feelings' police...I lied to them |